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danib
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18 Wanting a Baby, Dont Know What to Do!
Posted: 08-28-06 21:30pm
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Hi every one, im 18 my name is danielle
and I realy really really want to have a
baby, okay heres my situation, im engaged
to be married in about a month, or at
least get our marriage license, and we
live on our own, we are buying a 2 bedroom
trailer (its nice :>) we both have
jobs, and I will soon be starting college
online. We have been talking about having
a baby a lot and ive heard what people in
my family have to say and I would like to
have some outsiders opinions about it all,
so please if you have any advice on what
we should do let me know!
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Nataliachick7
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Posted: 08-28-06 22:14pm
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Why would you even want some strangers on
the internet opinions on whether or not
you should have a baby? Obviously you are
really immature if you have to ask other
people to make life decisions for you.
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babiisparkle
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Hey
Posted: 08-28-06 22:36pm
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Dont listen to her cause I say if you want
to have a baby then go ahead and have a
baby cant no one stop you cause you said
you're 18 its your choice no matter what
anyone say. Actually its everyone choice
to have a baby no matter if your in your
teens. No one can stop you because how
are they gonna stop you from having sex.
That something you wanna do then go ahead
dont listen to what other people say 8)
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Nataliachick7
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Re: Hey
Posted: 08-28-06 22:59pm
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| babiisparkle
wrote: | | dont listen to her cause I
say if you want to have a baby then go
ahead and have a baby cant no one stop you
cause you said you're 18 its your choice
no matter what anyone say. Actually its
everyone choice to have a baby no matter
if your in your teens. No one can stop
you because how are they gonna stop you
from having sex. That something you
wanna do then go ahead dont listen to what
other people say
8) |
that was exactly my point.
Wow you are dumb.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 08-28-06 23:11pm
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Natalia, why are you so rude all of the
time? It's called advice for a reason.
We are all around that age and obviously
have children, she probably wants to know
if it is a bad idea. Having a baby at
that age is hard, no matter how much money
you have and wether you are married or
not. You have no room to call anyone dumb
or immature. Get over yourself.
Danielle, if you think you can handle
having a baby and doing the online college
thing at the same time, go for it. It
will probably be difficult though. Good
luck with whatever you choose to do!
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Nataliachick7
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Posted: 08-28-06 23:22pm
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Oh really samantha, you should talk-you
called someone dumb recently because they
asked if they were pregnant with twins
since they run in the family.
Anyway, it is very sad that this girl has
to ask strangers about whether or not she
should have a baby. Pathetic, actually.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 08-28-06 23:27pm
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I forgot about that. Damnit i'm a
hypocrite now. Oh well, you're right
about this one.
I understand where you are coming from,
but maybe she just wants to hear from
people who have been through it. It is a
difficult thing to do. I know you know
that. I'm not even going to college now
and it is hard. Now that he's 3 months
it's easier, but in the beginning it can
be pretty hard.
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Nataliachick7
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Posted: 08-28-06 23:32pm
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Im not saying it isnt hard. In fact it is
extremely hard.
The fact that this girl has to ask people
whether they think she should have a baby
proves that she is not ready and has no
idea what she is in for.
Grow up, go to college, and then think
about having a baby. And let it be your
decision, not some peoples over the
internet.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 08-28-06 23:35pm
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I agree with you on that natalia, the best
thing for her to do would be to go to
college and then thin about having a baby.
Even if it is just online, when you have
a newborn, there are just not enough hours
in the day.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-29-06 06:35am
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| nataliachick7
wrote: | im not saying it isnt hard.
In fact it is extremely hard.
The fact that this girl has to ask people
whether they think she should have a baby
proves that she is not ready and has no
idea what she is in for.
Grow up, go to college, and then think
about having a baby. And let it be your
decision, not some peoples over the
internet. |
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Posted: 08-29-06 09:49am
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A lot of teens go through the baby rabies
thing, but I would say give it time and
allow it to pass. I mean, you're getting
married, so why try for a kid right now?
Don't you want to at least enjoy your
marriage and enjoy your husband a little
bit before dedicating yourself entirely to
a shrieking infant?
The bottom line is that you've got about
another thirty years to have a baby, so
why rush it? You're in the prime of your
life right now, and you want to throw it
away to be a mother? Having babies at any
age is difficult, unless you pawn them off
on grandma or a nanny so you can live
normally.
I agree with natalia - if you have to ask
us whether or not you're ready to be a
parent, then you should already have your
answer. Finish college, enjoy your
marriage, and try to have a little bit of
fun too. If you have a child, you will be
unable to do any of those things.
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Posted: 08-29-06 10:32am
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I agree with cambion - I think you should
wait. I'm not saying there is anything
wrong with being a teenage mother - my mum
had my brother when she was 17 years old
and she brought me and him up wonderfully.
However, I think it's better to wait if
you can.
I know it's hard to ignore those baby
urges and at the end of the day you know
what you want to do, deep down. But
having a baby is really hard work. It
is also fantastically rewarding but I feel
like that because I have done a lot of the
things I wanted to do, like go to
university and experience life with no
responsibilites.
Good luck to you.
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Posted: 08-29-06 10:57am
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A trailer huh? Enough said. Youre too
young ...There is absolutely no need to
rush into this...Enjoy your youth and
spend some time getting to know your
fiance because once youre married things
change and people change.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 08-29-06 10:57am
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| purestgreen
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i know it's hard to ignore those baby
urges and at the end of the day you know
what you want to do, deep down. But
having a baby is really hard work.
It is also fantastically rewarding but I
feel like that because I have done a lot
of the things I wanted to do, like go to
university and experience life with no
responsibilites.
Good luck to
you. |
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danib
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Posted: 08-29-06 12:50pm
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Okay people...One, I was not asking if you
think I should have a baby or not because
I really couldn't give a caca less if you
do or not, I was asking about your
experiences, and since you are all so
mature and got knocked up I figured you
could make me feel better about doing what
I want to do instead of listening to
people like yourselves, thanks by the way
to those of you who said something
semi-nice anyway. And nataliachick7,
since your so mature your self, why do you
have a baby? Are you buying anykind of
house or anything? Are you in school? Do
you even have a job? Don't talk to me
about being immature okay? Im probably
more mature than most of the people on
here I just thought since this site was
supposed to be for advice type caca maybe
some one would give me some? Hmm....Guess
not, I didn't post that so that all of you
could argue back and forth okay?
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Re: 18 Wanting a Baby, Dont Know What to Do!
Posted: 08-29-06 12:55pm
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| danib
wrote: | | hi every one, im 18 my name
is danielle and I realy really really want
to have a baby, okay heres my situation,
im engaged to be married in about a month,
or at least get our marriage license, and
we live on our own, we are buying a 2
bedroom trailer (its nice :>) we both
have jobs, and I will soon be starting
college online. We have been talking
about having a baby a lot and ive heard
what people in my family have to say and I
would like to have some outsiders opinions
about it all, so please if you have any
advice on what we should do let me
know! |
seems to me that you asked what we thought
and we told you...And if you dont care
then dont come and ask. Your so young and
you just proved it with your insecure and
jumpy response. Good luck ruining your
life!
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danib
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Posted: 08-29-06 12:57pm
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Ok well I just read pretty much all of
nataliachick7 posts. Wow. Common sense
is always great.
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-29-06 12:57pm
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| danib
wrote: | | ok well I just read pretty
much all of nataliachick7 posts. Wow.
Common sense is always
great. |
so is experience!
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Posted: 08-29-06 12:57pm
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| emma2
wrote: | | a trailer huh? Enough
said. Youre too young ...There is
absolutely no need to rush into
this...Enjoy your youth and spend some
time getting to know your fiance because
once youre married things change and
people
change. |
"too young".. Hmm well that's
debatable.
Although you did call me a "little girl"
once despite the fact that i'll be 18 a
month after my baby is born.
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-29-06 12:59pm
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| zanyzanny
wrote: | | emma2
wrote: | | a trailer huh? Enough
said. Youre too young ...There is
absolutely no need to rush into
this...Enjoy your youth and spend some
time getting to know your fiance because
once youre married things change and
people
change. |
"too young".. Hmm well that's
debatable.
Although you did call me a "little girl"
once despite the fact that i'll be 18 a
month after my baby is
born. |
that is little hun! You think because
18 is a legal age it makes you a grown up?
I rest my case. And besides your the
one taking your bike to drs. Apointments
, no job, no support from your bf and
without your parents approval..Thats
pretty much all there is to know ...Your a
kid and if you were mature and responsible
you would have made sure your life was in
order before creating a child and putting
yourself in this mess.
Last edited by Emma2 on 08-29-06 13:01pm; edited 1 time in total
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