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sandyallen

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Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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Posted: 08-30-06 14:11pm


You have to do what you feel is the right thing to do but you should not let others inflence your thoughts. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. Have you thought about moving over to the abortion forum and not the abortion debate forum. All I ask is don't throw away your life on your boyfriends mother's thoughts as I said before, you must do what you feel is right. C.N.A is hard work, I did it years ago before I became a nurse and got into the social service end of it. 1st find out if you are pregnant or not, then you can go from there. I wish you all of the luck with your decision, whatever it maybe! Last edited by sandyallen on 08-30-06 18:56pm; edited 1 time in total

FreckleFace

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Joined: 27 Feb 2006
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Posted: 08-30-06 17:29pm

rainfire1424 wrote:

well, sorry on behalf of the forum for upsetting u and/or offending you.

But you still dont make any sense.

Why intentionally bring a child in this world if you feel that the pressure of raising one and dealing with your *busy life* would only lead to abortion?

And yes, dear... When you intentionally dont use protection, thats getting pregnant on purpose. You knew what could happen.

You obviously have no idea how to handle your life. If you had a clue at all you wouldnt be so indecisive and worried about what others thought. Its your life. Not theirs.

My advice to you if you arent pregnant... Focus on growing up and becoming an able adult, capable of making decisions based on the best interests of themselves and their children, instead of a child that cares only what others think before taking a step down a road thats too rocky for the shoes you are wearing.

actually rainfire I have said peoples and my families reactions make me feel as though my only option is an abortion. I have said more then once why I said that, although I admit I used the term badly. I also have said the fact that I am not on bc I would never get an abortion after all the knowledge and stress people put on safe sex.
Another thing about me, I was adopted so therefore I would not give up my child, I have also said this. All I said was I think it would be a lot to handle as a parent to know 2 of your only daughterss are pregnant.
Also that my boyfriends mother has said more then once to me basically, don't ever get pregnant.

I do not ever take pills, not midol and i'll prob. Chop up my prenatal pills when I have those. Why? Because of my past, yes once again I had a bad childhood. So just becasue I am not on bc doesnt mean that I am being selfish and trying to have a child for shits and giggles.
I don't like things internal, so not bc ring for me. I dont trust the patch 2 of my friends got pregnant on it. I don't really know about the shot.
I also take into consideration blod clots and cancers and tss that certain bc links to. My boyfriends uses and doesnt use condoms, he pulls out. I assure him this method will not always work, for example, maybe this time.
He also knows that and says he will take control of his actions. As would i.

What angers me off is the fact that people are saying at least wait til you are out of school, you don't know what you want, and for you rainfire........
For you to sit here and say grow up to be an able adult? What, I am in college work two jobs support a dog, have a long term relationship, have a steady life........I'm pretty mature. Just pregnancy brings up a lot of issues. Would'nt it be wrong if I was lying to myself ssaying I can handle everything? Any women who is becoming a first time mom has doubts and worries and also is not perfect and will make mistakes, yeah I know that. So in that sence, I will grow with my child.

But hun, I am almost positive that I am more mature and ready for a family then you think becasue when you are 4 years old n your sister is 6...And we were both taking care of my brother and being the moms , I think I know how to handle my life.

So please, don't respond anymore, you jsut really are rude

AyaMiyaki

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Posted: 08-30-06 21:05pm

freckleface wrote:

i do not ever take pills, not midol and i'll prob. Chop up my prenatal pills when I have those. Why? Because of my past, yes once again I had a bad childhood.

if it turns out you are pregnant, please take your prenatal vitamins. Your baby will need all the nourishment it can get, and you'll feel much better since your body won't be deprived. It's a small action that is a huge gift to your child.

I won't comment on anything else except to say I hope things work out for you, and good luck.

PRSmama

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Joined: 10 Aug 2006
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Location: Canada

Posted: 08-30-06 22:03pm


So freckleface, I don't know if you're still checking this, but a few random thoughts... First of all, your period is due in 2 days? There's I think a relatively new hpt out there that is pretty accurate up to 4 days before your period. I used it a few weeks ago and it was pretty accurate for me! (+++) just go down to walgreens (you in the states?) and ask about it. I just had to say that I so disagree with cambions comment about 'throwing away the money you've spent on education to become a mother'. (sorry, can't ever figure out how to get the nice quote box). As many have pointed out, your schooling can pick up later, or it doesn't need to be even interrupted. If you're pregnant now, you'll be due in may-junish and your year will be over. You'll have the summer to get used to baby and find daycare and such, and back to school you go! If you and your bf love each other so much, it sounds like he'll support you through this. Even if for some reason school had to wait a) credits hang on for quite a while--you can finish perhaps after babe is in kindergarten or something and b) what's wasted? This world needs more moms who have at least a year or two of college under their belts. Educating your child is a big deal and the more educated you are, the more that can only benefit your child. Sorry cambion, but the way you worded that just smacked of 'education is a waste if all you do is stay home and become a mother'. Hope you didn't mean it that way. And finally, reasons for having a baby. Nowhere will you find the definitive 'right' answer for having a baby. For pete's sake, even the bible makes it sound like 'multiplying and subduing the earth' is the only reason--or having kids to help on the farm! We're talking about feelings here and it's commonly said that feelings aren't ever 'wrong'. Naive, perhaps, but I also disagree with moo--just because 'you want one' is selfish?!? Ask any young, prepared couple why they want a kid---there's not usually any financial, logical, cold-cut reason, they just waaaant one. That's why infertile couples are the most desperate people on earth--they want so badly--it's ingrained in us, especially as women, unexplainable, unfathomable--biological!! I think want is a perfectly fine reason!