Thinking About Trying Anal... Posted: 08-29-06 14:31pm
I have a wonderful bf and we plan on
getting married in a couple of years. Our
sex life is so sooo great every single
time and when we make love its amazing and
he like everyother guy wants to try anal
sex. I dont really have a problem with it
im just debating on whether I should or
not. I know people who have done it and
to use alot of lube. I just wanted to
know what anyone else thought about it.
Mostly those who have done it before.
Some girl told me that she got too much
anal and now her butt is apparently
stretched out and she has problems. Like
she goes in her pants sometimes and cant
control it. That is sick.
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Maybe is Just a Baby
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Aug 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Michigan
Posted: 08-29-06 20:03pm
Me and my boyfriend, who I also love and
plan on getting married in a couple years,
thought about anal for a while, and we
decided we've done everything else, and
that we'd give it a shot, we used lots of
lube, but it hurt so bad that I didn't
want him to stick in in all the way. I
personally didn't enjoy it, but he really
like it for how little we did, so if you
up for the pain and making your guy happy
go for it, everything is worth a shot!!
:lol:
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Moo
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Posted: 08-30-06 05:10am
Me and my fiancee do it very occassionally
and it is enjoyable, just make sure that
you do have alot of lube and are turned on
beforehand and see if you enjoy it!
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mongirl
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 93 Location: Michigan
Posted: 08-30-06 19:04pm
Ok thanks for all of the responses it
helped. I think im going to get brave
enough and try it this weekend and see
what happens. I just hope it doesnt bleed
or have something wierd happen after. By
man will be excited!!
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singledad
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 08-31-06 21:18pm
maybe is just a baby
wrote:
me and my boyfriend, who I
also love and plan on getting married in a
couple years, thought about anal for a
while, and we decided we've done
everything else, and that we'd give it a
shot, we used lots of lube, but it hurt so
bad that I didn't want him to stick in in
all the way. I personally didn't enjoy
it, but he really like it for how little
we did, so if you up for the pain and
making your guy happy go for it,
everything is worth a shot!!
:lol:
helps to be very relaxed, orgasm vaginally
first. Properly, you need to be pretty
warmed up, and this varies with
individuals - try a finger first, and
allow the sphincter to relax before
pushing in deeper. Enjoy that for a
while, then try two.
Make sure the fingernails are well
trimmed, and use a vinyl glove, available
at hardware stores to limit dispersion of
e.Coli, they're cheap so you can change
them as often as neccesary. There is more
friction with latex, it's tackier, vinyl
is very slick and smooth.
Use a lot of lube, it bears repeating -
vegetable oils will work, as will gel type
aloe vera lotions - avoid anything with
alchohol in it, as it wll burn, and dry
out sensitive tissues. Baby oil is not
viscous enough, and will degrade latex
condoms, as will vegetable oils.
Penile penetration should probobly not be
attempted untill you can get three fingers
in, which is about the same diameter as
the average penis.
It may take a while to accomplish this,
weeks even, depending on the person, so
take it slow, don't get in a rush and end
up with a painful, unpleasant experience -
stay relaxed and listen to your body.
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pauly boy
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Joined: 28 Aug 2006 Posts: 85 Location: florida
Wow Posted: 09-01-06 10:10am
Ill remember that ,thanx
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M2F in OCCA
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Joined: 02 Sep 2006 Posts: 1 Location: OC CA
Hi, One More Thing About the Lube... Posted: 09-02-06 22:31pm
One important thing about lube is how it's
applied. The very inside of the anus
opening is effectively dry so it's
important to make sure and lube inside the
opening at least to the first knuckle or
so. You can have lots of lube all on the
outside and at the opening but if none is
just inside then owww.
Have fun!
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shortygirl24
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Joined: 03 Sep 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 09-04-06 14:31pm
Yes I also heard to that anal sex give
orgasme just as well as vaginal sex , it
will aslo be something me and my bf will
be willing to try, I kinda always wanted
him to do that, but at the same time I was
kind scared that it might hurt me, beacuse
anal sex is one we havent tried
yet...Does it really hurt as I think or
would it feel better the more he does it
with me as more time goes on?
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singledad
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-04-06 14:54pm
A numbing agent will ease initial
discomfort, vagisil has the same active
ingredient as anal-eze, so ought to work
just as well - it numbs but not to the
point that you can't feel anything, and it
wears off aftera while - you do need to be
aware of any great pain, but if you've
taken it slowly, are well lubricated and
relaxed, a mild discomfort or pressure is
the most you should feel, which should
subside after a while.
Not good if you do it before a bm I hear,
can cause an impacted bm which is like
being constipated I hear.
As for the anal orgasm, or "assgasm", some
women report it, some can't even orgasm
without anal stimulation - the primary
locus of the female orgasm is the clitoral
ganglia, but any peripheral ganglia drawn
into the act will diffuse the orgasmic
spasm, and lead to a perception of greater
intensity - the sphincter and lower rectum
is well supplied with ganglia, as is the
perineum and these are in close proximity
to the clitoral ganglia.
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shortygirl24
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Sep 2006 Posts: 17
Posted: 09-04-06 16:06pm
singledad
wrote:
a numbing agent will ease
initial discomfort, vagisil has the same
active ingredient as anal-eze, so ought to
work just as well - it numbs but not to
the point that you can't feel anything,
and it wears off aftera while - you do
need to be aware of any great pain, but if
you've taken it slowly, are well
lubricated and relaxed, a mild discomfort
or pressure is the most you should feel,
which should subside after a while.
Not good if you do it before a bm I hear,
can cause an impacted bm which is like
being constipated I hear.
As for the anal orgasm, or "assgasm", some
women report it, some can't even orgasm
without anal stimulation - the primary
locus of the female orgasm is the clitoral
ganglia, but any peripheral ganglia drawn
into the act will diffuse the orgasmic
spasm, and lead to a perception of greater
intensity - the sphincter and lower rectum
is well supplied with ganglia, as is the
perineum and these are in close proximity
to the clitoral
ganglia.
hmmm really good idea
there, that just might work well :)
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cdtcommander
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Joined: 19 Mar 2006 Posts: 14 Location: San Jose
Posted: 09-12-06 01:05am
I used to hate anal but I did it for my
boyfriend because on a occasion he liked
to do it. Then I discovered that playing
with myself during anal makes it quite
enjoyable for me. That might be something
you want to try. It also keeps you from
focusing on his penis going inside where
it really isnt meant to and you dont
tighten the muscles as much (helps with
the pain)
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rosy_chick_4u
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Joined: 30 Dec 2005 Posts: 13 Location: Houston TX
Posted: 09-24-06 20:25pm
cdtcommander
wrote:
i used to hate anal but I
did it for my boyfriend because on a
occasion he liked to do it. Then I
discovered that playing with myself during
anal makes it quite enjoyable for me.
That might be something you want to try.
It also keeps you from focusing on his
penis going inside where it really isnt
meant to and you dont tighten the muscles
as much (helps with the
pain)
yeah what she said. If you play with
urself it helps to turn you on more and
youll enjoy it too. You could also tell
him to play wit you clit for you .At 1st I
was like eww thats not sopposed to be
there. You know what I mean. Just use
alot of lube put some on him too doesnt
hurt. I'll tell you the truth I didnt
like it at all but my boyfriend did so I
didi it for him & that was like more
then a year ago. I didnt like it at alll
I mean it hurt and it bleed a little even
thouh he went really slow. He didnt ask
for it in along time and then I got this
desire it to try it really bad one night
and we did. And I really reallyt like it.
I used alot if lube and for me it felt
better if we were laying on our side. I
know I might be real late in replying but
jus wanted to put my 2 cents in.
Hope you enjoy urself good
luck
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nawtaprincess
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 105 Location: ky
Re: Thinking About Trying Anal... Posted: 09-24-06 20:37pm
I did it for my first time not to long ago
yes use alot of lube and try to relax I
usually get on the side of the bed and he
gets behind me, it hurts alittle going in
but the more lube u have the easier it
goes in, and once its in, and u just relax
it feels pretty good.
