Update From Me- Sorry Its Been So Long Posted: 08-29-06 16:14pm
I read the post I wrote months ago about
my twins. What a tear jerker that was for
me.
Im so sorry to say that I did go through
with the termination. I cried from the
moment I entered to the moment I left.
And a month later I havent really
stopped!
I dont really know why im writing this
maybe to warn others, or because in this
day an age women/ girls arent given the
full facts about abortion. Well now I
know. And its a lesson ill never forget.
Never in my life would I recommend for
another girl to have an abortion. That
doenst mean I dont think they should have
the choice to do it, if they wish.
I am not a depressive person nor am I a
panicker but I can honestly say I have
never ever been so depressed since I had
the abortion.
If a single person had asked me on the day
if I wanted to go through with it I
guarentee I would have run out of the door
so quick there would have been dust
marks.
I feel like I have lost two children and
no career, no amount of money is worth it.
When all the prolifers warns me about
these feelings I shrugged it off as
propoganda, and mind manipulation. I have
never been so wrong!
My relationship with my bf, my parents and
my friends has never been so rocky. I
simply want to hide away in a box and
never show my face again.
An abortion is not a quick fix to a
"problem". Its the loss of a life that
was part of me. And I will never get over
that. With any loss there is an extreme
amount of pain. And this is never told to
yu at the abortion clinc. I shouldnt
have had it done I should have gone
through with the pregnancy and been 19
weeks pg with two gorgeous twins. But we
live an learn.
What upsets me most is that I lost two
children and someone got paid for it.
Talk about a capitalist society!
I still think that women should have the
choice to have an abortion if they truely
want it. But pre abortion level of
counselling should be sooooo much higher
than what it currently is. And also women
should be warned that severe depression
can and often does follow an abortion for
many many years. As at present it is not
an informed choice, hence the reason your
not allowed to see your scan
thankyou all for your help and advice and
im just sorry I didnt listen to some of
you a little bit more.
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BUTTER-FLY
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Posted: 08-30-06 00:07am
I can totally relate to all the emotions
you are feeling. I just went through my
2nd abortion - not an easy decision - but
it is really hard to deal with it no
matter what your situation is. The
decision you made was right for you at the
time - don't forget that!! You will learn
from this decision. It may take time to
deal with all the emotions you are feeling
- I am still crying as well. Partly
hormonal, partly sadness. I will be
thinking about you.
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Moo
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Posted: 08-30-06 05:30am
I'm sorry you're suffering so badly but I
think it depends on the clinic entirely as
to how informed you are beforehand (i was
allowed to see my scan and given alot of
info beforehand). I'm sorry that you
regret this decision and I hope things
improve for you. Be gentle with yourself
and just take some time to work through
your emotions.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-30-06 08:18am
I do agree that pre-abortion counseling
needs to be better so the women who aren't
sure can truly get they help they need
before going for it. Then, they may be
more prepared and have more courage for
the even, or they may be able to have more
courage to keep or adopt-out the child.
It does depend on the clinic however.
Yet in the end... Your choice has been
made, and it's over and done with. I'm
not saying you shouldn't be feeling what
you are feeling, i'm not saying you
should. But what you do need to do is
learn to not regret the desicion.
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Re: Update From Me- Sorry Its Been So Long Posted: 08-30-06 13:28pm
buzzybee
wrote:
as at present it is not an
informed choice, hence the reason your not
allowed to see your scan.
.I agree, I think it's mad that the scan
is not shown to women. I don't mean it
should be shoved in their face or anything
but why the secrecy? A woman needs to
know exactly what it is she is agreeing to
have done.
I hope you find some peace, .Buzzy.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 08-30-06 16:06pm
I am sorry that you were not shown the
scan. I don't know what is going on in
some of these places! You should have
had better counseling, I guess that some
of these places just want your money and
that is it. I hope that you can find a
good support system and your relationship
grows stronger each day. Please forgive
yourself! Likde you said "we learn from
our mistakes". Eventhough mine were had
to be abortions ot still hurts but you can
still move on and maybe who knows, their
might have been a reason for it and we
will never know why. Whatever the
situation is I hope that in time that you
can move on, even though you may not
forget it might be time to move on with
your life because as .Eiri said it is done
and you need to learn to not regret the
situation. Please, don't be so hard on
yourself! If you need help it is there
for you ad we are here for you too!
Every female should have the choice of
abortion or continuing on with the
pregnancy as they might have a legitimate
why they are having the abortion and just
prefer not talking about it.
All the best to you!
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Birch
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Posted: 08-30-06 19:21pm
I am so sorry buzzy and I hope you find
some peace. Forgive yourself.
And yes, I agree with every single word
you said. Pre-abortion counseling needs
to be more comprehensive.
Try to remember how hard it was when you
were pregnant, how you felt, and how you
may feel now if you still were. You may
have been terribly resentful of the
children you'd have, and what they did to
your life. It's hard to say...It's a
hard lesson to learn.
You are not alone!
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BuzzyBee
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Re: Update From Me- Sorry Its Been So Long Posted: 08-31-06 16:15pm
stillherelosers
wrote:
buzzybee
wrote:
thankyou all for your help
and advice and im just sorry I didnt
listen to some of you a little bit
more.
then that was your choice not to. You
were well informed, yet you now choose to
blame others. Makes me wonder if you
were even pregnant in the first
place.
yep thats it I wrote all these posts, not
because I needed help or advice but simply
because im not busy enough studying law,
holding down a job and all my housework.
So I thought id post caca on here.
Whether you believe me or not is
irrelevant. I know what I have been
through and so does my family so your
opinion is quite usless to me. person!
Yes I made my choices, but what I meant
was I never realised it would be this
painful is what I meant.
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Birch
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Re: Update From Me- Sorry Its Been So Long Posted: 08-31-06 16:48pm
Hey buzzy,
a question...Had you been shown the scan,
would you have changed your mind?
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