Im Scared, And Im Pregnant At 17 Omg Posted: 08-29-06 17:07pm
I am just writing this to ask people is it
wrong to have a baby at the age of 17? I
have not told my mom yet and I am waitin
until after my 18 birthday to tell her
that I am pregnant... I dunno what to do,
I am scared and I am lonely sometimes,
what should I do?? Someone please answer
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 08-29-06 17:20pm
It's not as easy as "right" or "wrong".
There are young people that turn out to be
wonderful mothers, and there are older
people that turn out to be horrible
mothers. It all depends on your
temperament, maturity level, patience, and
how hard you're willing to work for what
you want in life. There are some
disadvantages to having children so young,
but you can work through them if you're
determined, such as: supporting yourself
and your child financially, continuing
your schooling, and making the transition
from being a pseudo-child into an adult.
It's easier for some than it is for
others. You just have to decide what's
best for you and your situation. There
are quite a few teenage mothers on this
forum that are doing awesome jobs at
raising their children as well as
succeeding in school and work. It takes
inner strength and a lot of work. Look
inside yourself. Only you can decide
what's best for you, and only you can make
it happen. Good luck.
I'm 17, and i'm 6 months pregnant.. It's
not exactly the ideal time, especially if
it messes up your education etc.. But in
my opinion it's not "wrong".. Age is
irrevelant when it comes to how much you
can love a child, and how "good" you are
as a mother.
Talk to your mum, the sooner you tell her
the better. She'll be shocked, and maybe
disappointed, but she'll get over it in
time and just remember that she'll still
love you. Good luck! =)
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Sweetheart18
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Thank You Posted: 08-29-06 17:28pm
Thank you so much for replayin bak to me,
you made me feel alot less worried... I
will do everything ot make sure this baby
has a good future and I will be a good
mother to my child.. Thank you so much.
God bless you
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iL0VEPiNK_08
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Joined: 29 Aug 2006 Posts: 15
Hi Posted: 08-29-06 19:23pm
Hay im 16 and six m0nths pregnant...
H0nestly this baby has saved my life...
Im s0 much m0re determined in sch00l s0
much m0re aware 0f my surr0undings and ive
been a much m0re l0ving girlfriend t0 my
b0yfriend... I didnt tell my m0m my
c0usin did... But its br0ught me and my
m0m cl0ser even th0 we have 0ur days...
But g00d luck... If I can d0 it as a
juni0r in hs s0 can y0u!
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Emma2
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Posted: 08-29-06 20:09pm
Age is very relevant when you need to ask
that question. But good luck telling your
mother.
Joined: 26 Jul 2006 Posts: 1128 Location: , San Diego,California
Posted: 08-29-06 22:48pm
Im 16 and have a 3 month old.Pm me if you
wanna talk.
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Jules
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Posted: 08-30-06 10:16am
tanyaface
wrote:
zero is not a letter in the
alphabet...
maybe her keyboard is broken?
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 08-30-06 10:54am
Or maybe not
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natzcee
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Posted: 08-30-06 10:58am
Dont b still why would you think its wrong
to have a baby at 17 :o, im due next week
and I just turnd 18 in june there and I
could neva b anymore happy :d! I think
you should tell your mom as soon as poss
tho huni dont u think she'll b more upset
if you dont tell her and she'll feel like
you cant talk to her :p dont worry about
it ur b fine :p just sit and think if its
what you want 1st of all mabye tell your
mom and have a talk with her about it if
you feel your ready then your ready! I
hope everything goes well, and one thing
dont ever worry wot anyone else thinks
becoz I did and now ive realised how
fsilly I was too xxxx
if you feel lonely or need anyone to talk
to add me on msgr
msn msgr xnatz
xcx@hotmail.Co.Uk
or
yahoo msgr x_litto_miss_natz_c_x
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 08-30-06 11:15am
Sweetheart, you live close to michelle
1981, she had her first very young too.
Pm her and tell her I referred her to
you-lol good luck.
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sometimesiwonder
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My Mom Posted: 08-31-06 00:55am
My mom was sixteen when she became
pregnant with her first child. She had
him at seventeen, my mother, is by far one
of the strongest, best mothers i've ever
met. This is not a situation of "right"
and "wrong"... Everyone's going to judge,
so be prepared for that, but if you give
this child a wonderful life, you have done
nothing "wrong"
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caseywasey17
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Joined: 25 Jan 2006 Posts: 86 Location: England
Posted: 08-31-06 07:35am
I got pregnant at 16 and im 17 now, and
due in just over 3 weeks. It seems scary
at first, but trust me it gets better. I
love my little baby more than anything
already and hes not even born yet. It's
normal to be scared. As for your age,
theres no right age to have a child, it
depends if you think u are phisically,
emotionally, and financially ready for
one. Hope this helps, if u wana chat pm
me..
Casey xxx
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erinjacob
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Jess Posted: 09-06-06 07:58am
Your all ready pregnant so you cant change
that so grow up an face up to what you hav
to do you got pregnant throught no fault
but your own
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Cambion
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Posted: 09-06-06 10:44am
Everyone has their own definition of what
"wrong" really is, so no one can tell you
for sure if being a teen mother is right
or wrong. Having a baby at your age is a
lot of things, some negative and some
positive (i guess), but there's no black
or white - it's a million shades of
grey.
What are your plans for the future? Are
you planning on going to college? Do you
live in your own home or do you reside
with your parents? How is the father
involved in this (if at all)? Can you
afford this child? Can your mother afford
this child (in the event you cannot)?
I strongly suggest you look at your
current life situation based on the
questions I asked and then examine each of
your options, of which you have three. I
cannot and am not
suggesting you take one particular course,
because what is right for me or for
someone else may not be right for you.
Before any of you dive down my throat
about this, I am not trying to talk this
girl out of any decision - I am giving her
some non-sugar-coated advice.
Sweetheart18, if you are not aware of the
amount of work, time, money, and patience
childcare requires, I advise you to
familiarize yourself with the concepts if
you choose to keep your child. Remember,
children need more than love to have a
good life - love won't buy food and
diapers, among other necessities.
Parenthood is no walk in the park, and it
will impact your life enormously and
permenantly. Baby-sit some infants and
toddlers - do more than read the parenting
books. F you haven't done so already,
get some first-hand experience with kids
so you'll know what to expect. I know
everyone glorifies parenthood like it's
the answer to the world's problems, but it
won't be easy. Children might be
blessings to some people, but they are so
only if you are willing to put forth the
tremendous effort to raise them.
Also, be prepared for some disappointment,
frustration, and anger from your mother.
There is no easy way to tell her, and this
is something I cannot give insight on
because i've never had to do it. Your
mother may feel upset because you chose
not to tell her right away. I assume you
are waiting until you're a legal adult to
tell her so she cannot try and put your
child up for adoption (which, from what I
know, can be done in some places with
minor mothers) or try to dictate your
decision otherwise. In any case, brace
for the impact. This is all assuming, of
course, you still live with her - if you
have your own home, she may not be as
affected by the situation.
If someone wants to get on my case about
anything i've said, please be mature about
it and take it to a private message (which
is conveniently located in everyone's
profiles). I do not want some petty,
meaningless argument impeding
sweetheart18's ability to get the answers
she seeks.
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sweet_cocoa
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do you think 18 is too young to get married Posted: 06-27-08 15:55pm
No it not bad to have kids young i just
found out i was 15 weeks pregant and
couldn't believe it but being pregant has
changed my out look on life i'm ready to
finish school and be a mom. I found out i
was pregant on my birthday and my parents
were pissed and are still mad but thier
getting excited bout the baby and are
picking out names and now my bf wants 2
get married
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diamondsz
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Posted: 06-27-08 16:03pm
ThriftyGal
wrote:
Zero is not a letter in the
alphabet...
Who cares................................
In regards to the original poster
Hun, like Zanny said talk to your mom, it
would probably make you feel better, to
get it off your mind, you never know she
may be a little more supportive than you
think. Its not impossible and since you
live in Ontario, the resources are almost
plentiful, welfare is a little shitty but
better than nothing.
Just look on the brighter side of
things~!
good luck
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Ingi
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Posted: 06-27-08 17:55pm
This post is 2 years old. All the pregnant
girls have since had their babies - some
are pregnant again.
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