Sorry if this is kind of long ... I
have a lot on my mind at the moment and so
kinda have difficulty expressing myself!
I used to run an anti-racist website where
we used to allow opposing views, meaning
we allowed racists to post. One of the
people who joined was a girl about a year
older than me. She seemed a nice
enough person except that she was really
obsessed with race and getting racist
groups to accept her and believe she was
white, despite the fact that she was
obviously not going to be accepted by them
because of her family history. I began
speaking to her on aim in an effort to get
her to change her mind, however I soon
discovered that she has a lot more
disturbing behaviour. When she was
younger she used to be in a lot of trouble
with the police and she tried to tell me
how to make a bomb. She is also
hysterically religious, not that there is
anything wrong with thid as I am religious
myself, but she tried to tell me that it
was ok to do things to abortion clinics
and believed she was on some kind of
mission to stop immorality. She also
can be quite reasonable (by her standards)
some days and others not, but seems to
have problems holding a conversation with
someone, she will just completely change
the subject out of nowhere, or log off or
whatever. She is on medication but
refusing to take it. I don't know what
she has but I think it might be
schizophrenia or schizotypal personality.
She seems to forget or take no notice
of what you say and she frequently asks
the same questions to me almost all the
time I tlak to her. However, she has
met a man on the internet who is as racist
as she is and who happens to be 39 years
old, she is 18. She asks me all the
time whether she should sleep with him and
sometimes several times in the course of
one of our conversations, she will ask
whether it is ok to do thins like get into
the back of the car with him, etc. She
has not met this guy and she is being
taken advantage of. I am no longer
involved in the running of the site but I
continue to talk to her, and it seems to
me that her ideas about their relationship
(he has told her all these lies which she
believes) are delusional especially given
the othe things which she is obsessed with
and given the circumstances. She also
has other delusions such as that there is
a secret jewish soceity that controls the
media and that white people are being
"destroyed" by the jews brainwashing them,
I am jewish and yet she continues to say
these things to me all the time. She is
also obessed by the thought of black
people having sex with white people and
constantly talks about how angry she is
against all kinds of people, sometimes it
will be racists, sometimes it will be
blacks, sometimes it will be jews,
sometimes it will be her family.
Although she is a christian, she told me
once she wanted to convert to islam.
She has a strange way of talking, repeats
herself a lot, uses very limited
vocabulary and some people have said she
might be autistic, but she writes far too
simply for that and I thought that
autistic people weren't normally nuts like
this.
I am worried that this man who she is
involved with will hurt her as he has a
history of violence and writing about
violent ideas, she has not told her
parents about it and although I dont
"know" her in real life I am one of the
only people she regularly talks to and I
would feel terribly responsible if
something were to happen to her.
I wnated to know if anyone had ever come
across someone like this before, whether
she is schizophrenic or something else and
whether there is anything that I could be
doing to help?
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hrb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Aug 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 09-03-06 19:51pm
Anyone??
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 09-04-06 08:08am
Yes i've met others like
this..................Whether you want to
catergorize it as schizophrenia, some
other mental or neurological
disorder..........Or in some
cases..................Just a really
"messed" up person.
You sound young......................And
i'm just saying that to make a
point..................There comes a point
in your life that you'll realize that you
cannot help
everyone........................Nor do
they even want it.
Unless you have an "in" with one of her
family members...............What could
you possibly do? Other than what you are
already doing................Sending
positive messages.................The prob
is, for a lot of people who are miserable
with their lives...........It is easier to
hate and blame others for their situation
and the state of the world. It's a lot
harder to be kind to others, when in this
world so many are unkind to you(real or
preceived hurts).
I have to say, i'm more concerned for
you.......................As anyone can
say anything online
that.......................Is she really
who she says she is?Is he/she really just
trying to get a rise out of you?Needs
attention?Do you want to get involved on a
more personal level..............Actually
meet this person?By staying in contact are
you feeding her to say more outlandish
things?...................................
............
......................Maybe it's all true,
maybe it's not........................But
what can you do?? :)
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hrb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Aug 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 09-04-06 15:33pm
Thanks for that ... But i'm all right :)
going through a tough time at the moment
with family and that sort of thing, but
i'm doing ok
yeah ... Its just ... I've just come to
be rather protective of her over the last
year or so, that's all. She's just
someone I came to know online. I cant say
i've got any desire at the moment to meet
her and i'm not really able to ... I just
wanted to help and see what other people
thought
i know for a fact that it's not just me
she's saying this stuff to, she's
registered to all sorts of sites and she
says the same kind of stuff on all of
them.
I know I shouldn't be worried but i'd just
hate the responsibility of being able to
prevent something and it actually
happening.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 09-06-06 09:20am
Hrb....................Remember the
serenity prayer...................
"god, grant me the serenity
to accept the things
i cannot change
courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference"
it doesn't matter the religion it
originally comes from..............There
is wisdom in the
words...................Concentrate on
your family, ultimately they are they ones
who love and truly care everything about
you......Whether you understand this now
or not.............They have your best
interests in mind.................Love
them back............As a parent, I can
say I know i'm a pain in the behind
sometimes.............But i'd die for my
teenager babes, and without a second
thought. :)