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hrb

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Concerned About Someone
Posted: 08-29-06 20:18pm

Sorry if this is kind of long ... I have a lot on my mind at the moment and so kinda have difficulty expressing myself!

I used to run an anti-racist website where we used to allow opposing views, meaning we allowed racists to post. One of the people who joined was a girl about a year older than me. She seemed a nice enough person except that she was really obsessed with race and getting racist groups to accept her and believe she was white, despite the fact that she was obviously not going to be accepted by them because of her family history. I began speaking to her on aim in an effort to get her to change her mind, however I soon discovered that she has a lot more disturbing behaviour. When she was younger she used to be in a lot of trouble with the police and she tried to tell me how to make a bomb. She is also hysterically religious, not that there is anything wrong with thid as I am religious myself, but she tried to tell me that it was ok to do things to abortion clinics and believed she was on some kind of mission to stop immorality. She also can be quite reasonable (by her standards) some days and others not, but seems to have problems holding a conversation with someone, she will just completely change the subject out of nowhere, or log off or whatever. She is on medication but refusing to take it. I don't know what she has but I think it might be schizophrenia or schizotypal personality. She seems to forget or take no notice of what you say and she frequently asks the same questions to me almost all the time I tlak to her. However, she has met a man on the internet who is as racist as she is and who happens to be 39 years old, she is 18. She asks me all the time whether she should sleep with him and sometimes several times in the course of one of our conversations, she will ask whether it is ok to do thins like get into the back of the car with him, etc. She has not met this guy and she is being taken advantage of. I am no longer involved in the running of the site but I continue to talk to her, and it seems to me that her ideas about their relationship (he has told her all these lies which she believes) are delusional especially given the othe things which she is obsessed with and given the circumstances. She also has other delusions such as that there is a secret jewish soceity that controls the media and that white people are being "destroyed" by the jews brainwashing them, I am jewish and yet she continues to say these things to me all the time. She is also obessed by the thought of black people having sex with white people and constantly talks about how angry she is against all kinds of people, sometimes it will be racists, sometimes it will be blacks, sometimes it will be jews, sometimes it will be her family. Although she is a christian, she told me once she wanted to convert to islam. She has a strange way of talking, repeats herself a lot, uses very limited vocabulary and some people have said she might be autistic, but she writes far too simply for that and I thought that autistic people weren't normally nuts like this.

I am worried that this man who she is involved with will hurt her as he has a history of violence and writing about violent ideas, she has not told her parents about it and although I dont "know" her in real life I am one of the only people she regularly talks to and I would feel terribly responsible if something were to happen to her.


I wnated to know if anyone had ever come across someone like this before, whether she is schizophrenic or something else and whether there is anything that I could be doing to help?
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hrb

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Posted: 09-03-06 19:51pm

Anyone??
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Spirit

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Joined: 12 Mar 2006
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Posted: 09-04-06 08:08am

Yes i've met others like this..................Whether you want to catergorize it as schizophrenia, some other mental or neurological disorder..........Or in some cases..................Just a really "messed" up person.

You sound young......................And i'm just saying that to make a point..................There comes a point in your life that you'll realize that you cannot help everyone........................Nor do they even want it.

Unless you have an "in" with one of her family members...............What could you possibly do? Other than what you are already doing................Sending positive messages.................The prob is, for a lot of people who are miserable with their lives...........It is easier to hate and blame others for their situation and the state of the world. It's a lot harder to be kind to others, when in this world so many are unkind to you(real or preceived hurts).

I have to say, i'm more concerned for you.......................As anyone can say anything online that.......................Is she really who she says she is?Is he/she really just trying to get a rise out of you?Needs attention?Do you want to get involved on a more personal level..............Actually meet this person?By staying in contact are you feeding her to say more outlandish things?................................... ............

......................Maybe it's all true, maybe it's not........................But what can you do?? :)
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hrb

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Posted: 09-04-06 15:33pm

Thanks for that ... But i'm all right :) going through a tough time at the moment with family and that sort of thing, but i'm doing ok

yeah ... Its just ... I've just come to be rather protective of her over the last year or so, that's all. She's just someone I came to know online. I cant say i've got any desire at the moment to meet her and i'm not really able to ... I just wanted to help and see what other people thought

i know for a fact that it's not just me she's saying this stuff to, she's registered to all sorts of sites and she says the same kind of stuff on all of them.

I know I shouldn't be worried but i'd just hate the responsibility of being able to prevent something and it actually happening.
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Spirit

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Joined: 12 Mar 2006
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Location: Canada

Posted: 09-06-06 09:20am

Hrb....................Remember the serenity prayer...................

"god, grant me the serenity

to accept the things

i cannot change

courage to change the things I can

and the wisdom to know the difference"

it doesn't matter the religion it originally comes from..............There is wisdom in the words...................Concentrate on your family, ultimately they are they ones who love and truly care everything about you......Whether you understand this now or not.............They have your best interests in mind.................Love them back............As a parent, I can say I know i'm a pain in the behind sometimes.............But i'd die for my teenager babes, and without a second thought. :)
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