I'm Over It.. But Curious Posted: 08-31-06 13:14pm
When my boyfriend and I got together, he
had one prior serious girlfriend... They
had had sex together. I had a
relationship before him that lasted 2
years... But we never had sex. My
boyfriend was my first, for a long time, I
was very upset about the fact he had
already experienced it, but I knew he was
the one for me. One day we were having a
conversation, and I told him, I was very
happy I had waited for him, tha ti knew my
x wasn't right, and I had no regrets. He
told me that he'd wish i'd not say that,
cause it's like a piercing dagger
everytime I say that. I don't believe it
was ok of him to get upset with that...
But sometimes, I find myself fixed on the
fact she shares something that ican never
have. Sometimes, when he asks me to do
something new... I have to find out if
he's done it before... Because sometimes
if he has, im too bothered to do it.
Before, when he had his old bed, sometimes
i'd get really disgusted by the fact they
had been there before...
Is there something wrong with me...
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Joey9725
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2005 Posts: 32 Location: Sydney
Posted: 09-16-06 19:27pm
There is nothing wrong with you, its just
hard for you because he is your first and
he has had sex prior to you. Don't be
down on yourself maybe just talk to him
about how you feel. The best thing in a
relationship is to talk about how you feel
about everything. At least if you tell
him he will know and he may understand.
Sorry hope that helps
take care
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 09-18-06 00:15am
Hate to sound emotionless but I would have
to tell you to get over it because in this
day and age it is very rare to find
someone that has saved them selves for
"the right one" it is hard to think about
your significant other being with someone
else but now he is with you!!!!! That's
the way you need to look at it. Think
about it in a way how would it be if the
shoe was on the other foot have you ever
asked him how it would make him feel if he
was the one that saved himself and you
didn't. Have you thought about it from
your stand point wouldn't it be hard to
talk about giving your self away to
someone else that you know was the wrong
person. It's a difficult touchy subject
and you need to look at it on the positive
side he is with you now and only you!!!
Sorry if I come across blunt but except
him for all the good things about him and
forget the flaws because we all have some.
