Depressed & Not Sure What to Do Posted: 09-02-06 22:01pm
Hi everyone. This is my first post &
my first logon. I am & have been
depressed for some time but I don't know
what to do. I recently moved from the
east coast to the west coast & I have
no friends here. The closest family I
have is 3 hours away. That being said,
i've been depressed before my move here
& it's gotten worse. I feel so
isolated. I felt that way before I left
because my boyfriend of 5 months dumped
me, both my brothers and their families
were too busy to see me, my so called
"friends" never called, emailed, stopped
by, etc. It was always up to me to do
anything. Normally I am a very out-going
person and the life of the party. About a
year ago I had an accident that left me on
my back "literally" because I broke my
back. However, I am since healed and
okay. Yet noone came around then and
still hasn't. I can't help to wonder if
it's me, yet it angers me off that I was
always there for everyone else and in my
darkest hour, everyone abandoned me. What
the heck?!! Since then I have been very
depressed and almost suicidal. No, I
don't think I will ever have the courage
to 'do it', yet I am always sad. If it
wasn't for me calling and/or emailing my
so-called friends and family, then I
wouldn't hear from them. What the hell is
up with that??!! And how can someone
feel good about their behaviour leaving
someone they supposedly cared about in the
dark?? I would never have done that to
someone...Ever!! Yet, these same people
I was always there for, let me down. How
can I bounce back? Should I be on some
meds to help me? I just don't know what
to do anymore. I just need
someone...Anyone...To talk to.
Thanks so much. T
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Re: Depressed & Not Sure What to Do Posted: 09-02-06 22:27pm
terimau
wrote:
hi everyone. This is my
first post & my first logon. I am
& have been depressed for some time
but I don't know what to do. I recently
moved from the east coast to the west
coast & I have no friends here. The
closest family I have is 3 hours away.
That being said, i've been depressed
before my move here & it's gotten
worse. I feel so isolated. I felt that
way before I left because my boyfriend of
5 months dumped me, both my brothers and
their families were too busy to see me, my
so called "friends" never called, emailed,
stopped by, etc. It was always up to me
to do anything. Normally I am a very
out-going person and the life of the
party. About a year ago I had an
accident that left me on my back
"literally" because I broke my back.
However, I am since healed and okay. Yet
noone came around then and still hasn't.
I can't help to wonder if it's me, yet it
angers me off that I was always there for
everyone else and in my darkest hour,
everyone abandoned me. What the heck?!!
Since then I have been very depressed
and almost suicidal. No, I don't think I
will ever have the courage to 'do it', yet
I am always sad. If it wasn't for me
calling and/or emailing my so-called
friends and family, then I wouldn't hear
from them. What the hell is up with
that??!! And how can someone feel good
about their behaviour leaving someone they
supposedly cared about in the dark?? I
would never have done that to
someone...Ever!! Yet, these same people
I was always there for, let me down.
How can I bounce back? Should I be on
some meds to help me? I just don't know
what to do anymore. I just need
someone...Anyone...To talk to.
Thanks so much.
T
medication can help with the depression.
Counseling can also be a great addition to
medication! Sometimes you just have to
move on with life and leave the past in
the past. If they don't contact you, and
your contact with them isn't helping you,
don't contact them. Go out. Find new
friends. Find new life experiences. It
isn't easy (trust me, I know) but once you
are involved in other life things (hanging
out with new friends, etc), you will feel
so much better.
Are you working? Are you dating? Are you
involved in any clubs or organizations?
Why did you move to the other coast and
yet still so far away from other family?
Going through a sever injury and being
laid up for a long time is very difficult
in itself! That can cause depression too.
As can a major life change of losing a
boyfriend! And the move is a major
(major!) life change. You have a lot
going on. Maybe you should see a doctor
and get some medication to help you cope?
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terimau
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Joined: 02 Sep 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Temecula
Hi Posted: 09-02-06 22:39pm
Thank you, ingi for your reply. Yes, I
have thought of therapy and perhaps drugs
to help. I am currently seeking
employment and don't have insurance so I
don't have the financial means to go to a
doctor at this time. I've had a lot of
transition in my life this last year from
the death of my father, to my accident
that broke my back, to the loss of my job,
to a new location here in ca from va and a
loss of many friends & my boyfriend.
Let's just say that life has dealt me a
'good deal' lately and i've had trouble
dealing with it. It's hard because I
don't know anyone here and I don't have
anyone I can confide in, thus my entries
here on ehealth. Nothing seems to keep
my attention these days so my hobbies are
pretty much out the window right now. My
birthday is tomorrow and as stupid as this
sounds, I checked the mail and email and
found nothing was in there from family and
friends...Thus my feelings of abandonment
and depression (even more than usual). I
guess I feel like after all the times i've
been there to call people, email them,
and/or stop by just to let them know i'm
here and then to have absolutely no
contact from my so-called friends and
family really hurts. I just feel like
people have become more and more the
'me-me' society.
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Ingi
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Re: Hi Posted: 09-02-06 22:47pm
terimau
wrote:
thank you, ingi for your
reply. Yes, I have thought of therapy
and perhaps drugs to help. I am
currently seeking employment and don't
have insurance so I don't have the
financial means to go to a doctor at this
time. I've had a lot of transition in my
life this last year from the death of my
father, to my accident that broke my back,
to the loss of my job, to a new location
here in ca from va and a loss of many
friends & my boyfriend. Let's just
say that life has dealt me a 'good deal'
lately and i've had trouble dealing with
it. It's hard because I don't know
anyone here and I don't have anyone I can
confide in, thus my entries here on
ehealth. Nothing seems to keep my
attention these days so my hobbies are
pretty much out the window right now. My
birthday is tomorrow and as stupid as this
sounds, I checked the mail and email and
found nothing was in there from family and
friends...Thus my feelings of abandonment
and depression (even more than usual). I
guess I feel like after all the times i've
been there to call people, email them,
and/or stop by just to let them know i'm
here and then to have absolutely no
contact from my so-called friends and
family really hurts. I just feel like
people have become more and more the
'me-me'
society.
i know this is going to sound really hokey
and all 'earthy' - but go out and walk.
Walk every single day for at least 1/2
hour to an hour. Don't count job
searching or anything like that. Just
walk and let your mind go. Walking does
wonders for depression. Don't skip a
walk. Just walk. It is free and
excellent therapy. Try to find a walking
path, or a jogging path, a recreation area
or something like that near you. You'll
see people. You'll get exercise and
exercise gives off endorphins. Endorphins
being the natural anti-depressants your
body gives off. ;)
happy birthday tomorrow! And, as much as
it sucks that you don't think anyone is
thinking of you, rest assured that you are
important! You are thought of on your
birthday and you should definitely do
something special for yourself on your
special day!!!!
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terimau
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Sep 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Temecula
Re: 'depressed & Not Sure What to Do' Posted: 09-02-06 22:57pm
Thanks, inga. Man, I feel like i've been
so alone so it really helps just having
someone to vent/talk to...Thank you. :)
to answer you...Yes, I just started
walking about a week ago. I have a
14-year-old son who rollerblades as I
walk. It is very relaxing. Yet it
doesn't completely get rid of my sleepless
nights. Everything comes flooding my
brain at night and I can't sleep. I
either wake up in the night or wake up
like 3/4 am and can't get back to sleep.
It sucks! I even tried one of those
tylenol p.M deals and it was absolutely
horrible b/c I couldn't get to sleep and
then when I did it was all nightmares.
I'm trying...I promise...I am. I don't
want to sound all doom and gloom but I
have tried a variety of things before I
reached out via forum like this. I'm
just at my wits end is all. I guess
you're right though...It's time for the
professional. Maybe a good head shrink
with some mind altering drugs is the
answer now. I don't know. But I do know
just having some one to talk to is good.
I haven't had that for a while. Thank
you.
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-02-06 23:06pm
You know, you probably qualify for
medicaid (since you are currently
unemployed and have a child at home) and,
while I know the state has cr@p for mental
health specialists (they must get the drop
outs or something), you could still get
some anti-depressants. Which will be
better than nothing at this point.
Tomorrow, bake a cake! Put candles on it!
Sing happy birthday. Feast on cake and
ice cream! Enjoy your special day being
you!! ;)
sometimes, and again this sounds really
hokey, a journal can help. There are a
billion online places you can journal so
you don't feel all alone. Just search for
"blogging" or something. Myspace is a
good way to 'meet' people to chat with -
as are various other places.
Not that any of this fixes your problem, I
understand - but it might make you feel
less lonely for awhile.
