Sexual & Trust Issues Ruining My Sexual Life Posted: 09-03-06 00:35am
Hi i've been raped and molested number of
times with family members.Anal,and
viginal.Also was beaten that caused me to
have trust issues and not being able to
enjoy sex. Like i'm scared to have sex
but i'll do it to please my boyfriend.I
know he will never take it but its just
that thaught that keeps me from
experiancing what I want.I had 2 orgasims
but I had to focuss really hard.Does
anyone have insite on my issues!
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-03-06 10:19am
Congratulations on getting past your
initial sexual experiences and move on to
healthy adult relationships -
unfortunately trust is an issue that
affects everybody: protect yourself as
best you can, protect yourself against
unwanted pregnancy and std's first and
formost, it might help you relax and enjoy
yourself in that department - but realize
that not every relationship is going to
work out, very few do the first time, and
trust issues are universal.
Still, you may, and probobly will, have
more than most, and it may take time to
resolve them - there are those out there
who empathize with your situation, so just
do the best you can. Seek profesional
help if it becomes overwhelming, and there
may be incest survivor groups in your
area.
Try not to get too deep into a victim
mindset, however tempting: what happened
to you sucks, but it needn't define you or
your adult relationships - easier to say
than to do, but you strike me as a strong
person who has already realized this.
