Is my husband gay? No sex for 5 years... Posted: 09-03-06 10:48am
My husband suffers from ED. He has tried
viagra but he goes in and out of being
hard. What does that mean? I know he
watchs a lot of porn, tells me he doesn't
but i know he does. He always watches
guys getting blow jobs? Is that normal or
does he preffer to watch that you think
because he can relate to that more then
having intercourse with a women? Is it
true, that him watching porn kinda makes
our situation worse. I know it feels
crappy to me when he goes to that and not
me. Please help! I try talking to him
but get no where! I need to know if I am
wasting my time with him. It has be
almost five years dealing with this and he
never even trys to have sex with me, he
goes to the blow jobs and masturbates to
that. I am seriously woundering if he is
gay!
Lady12
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Sexual Health - Men Answer A1462 Posted: 09-11-06 03:51am
There is a medical difference between
desire and ability to perform sexual
intercourse. In other words, it is best
to distinguish first if a man DOESN’T
WANT sexual relations with women or
CAN’T have sex with women. If a man
desires but can’t have sex with a woman,
then he might be experiencing erectile
dysfunction. Viagra might help here. But
if a man doesn’t want to have sex with
women then it can be expected that he
won’t be able to perform sex with women.
In that case, he might be experiencing a
lack of any sexual desire (frigidity) or
he has sexual interest other than women
– for example: men (homosexuality).
According to your description (husband
having no interest/ability to have sex
with you, enjoying and masturbating during
gay-porn, avoiding any discussion with you
about it), it seems that your husband has
some kind of sexual dysfunction that can
be defined only by a psychiatrist. You can
try to convince him to go together with
you to a psychiatrist or another mental
health professional to address the issue.
Homosexuality is not considered a sexual
dysfunction (according to WHO-definitions,
World Health Organization) but it
doesn’t seem likely you will accept such
a husband.
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