Jules
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Question About This Forum
Posted: 09-04-06 02:04am
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I'm sorry but I wasn't sure where to put
this.
I just want something clarified for me
please! This particular board is just
titled 'abortion' and I realise that it is
different to the 'abortion debate' board
because this is where women come if, for
example, they are considering an abortion
and want advice.
I have noticed that if anyone does
anything other than advise the woman that
abortion is the best way to go they get
shouted at by other posters. So, are you
allowed to discuss all the options with
someone who is unsure of what to do or
not? People keep saying this is an
'abortion support' board - does that mean
you can't discuss anything other than
abortion as an option?
Many thanks.
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Meandering Away
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Re: Question About This Forum
Posted: 09-04-06 02:40am
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| purestgreen
wrote: | i'm sorry but I wasn't sure
where to put this.
I just want something clarified for me
please! This particular board is just
titled 'abortion' and I realise that it is
different to the 'abortion debate' board
because this is where women come if, for
example, they are considering an abortion
and want advice.
I have noticed that if anyone does
anything other than advise the woman that
abortion is the best way to go they get
shouted at by other posters. So, are
you allowed to discuss all the options
with someone who is unsure of what to do
or not? People keep saying this is an
'abortion support' board - does that mean
you can't discuss anything other than
abortion as an option?
Many thanks. |
it is supposed to be support but some
people are just so damn pro abortion that
they can only see that as an option but
most of them are just immature children
who have had no life yet.People like eiri
and sandyallen will try and discuss other
options but they don't come on too often
because of all the arguments.
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Moo
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Posted: 09-04-06 08:35am
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If someone is confused about their
pregnancy then I think all options should
be discussed but it just seems that most
posts are people who are having or have
had an abortion, maybe that's why other
options aren't discussed so much?
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Meandering Away
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Posted: 09-04-06 08:43am
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| moo
wrote: | | if someone is confused about
their pregnancy then I think all options
should be discussed but it just seems that
most posts are people who are having or
have had an abortion, maybe that's why
other options aren't discussed so
much? |
i can see where you are coming from moo, I
was talking about cambion who put three
options out there made two of them sound
so bad and the last one so good, I am not
saying either one is better but I am
saying if you are giving advice then at
least try to be objective.We could all
make a case for our own preferences that
make that choice sound better but that is
just as bad as telling her she will get
cancer if she aborts or die in
childbirth.Can you see what I am saying
moo.
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Moo
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Posted: 09-04-06 09:29am
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Yes I understand that. I think if we
can't at least try to be objective in this
forum then maybe we just shouldn't reply
on questions when people are just
genuinely confused as to their pregnancy
and not sure what they'll do
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Meandering Away
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Posted: 09-04-06 10:40am
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| moo
wrote: | | yes I understand that. I
think if we can't at least try to be
objective in this forum then maybe we just
shouldn't reply on questions when people
are just genuinely confused as to their
pregnancy and not sure what they'll
do |
thank you moo that is why I do not reply
because I do not feel that I could be
subjective and these people have an hard
enough decision without someone trying to
influence them their way.
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Jules
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Posted: 09-04-06 13:24pm
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| cowboys
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thank you moo that is why I do not reply
because I do not feel that I could be
subjective and these people have an hard
enough decision without someone trying to
influence them their
way. |
but surely the reason why such women come
to this forum is to hear the pros and cons
of all options? I'm not talking about
those that have already made their
decision to have an abortion but those
that are unsure.
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Moo
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Posted: 09-04-06 13:29pm
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I think if most women come to an abortion
forum then their mind id pretty much made
up. As I said those who come and say they
have no idea then all options should be
discussed but if they ask about abortion
then surely the pros and cons of abortion
would be sufficient.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 09-04-06 14:52pm
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If someone wants an abortion, I don't feel
that discussing adoption or parenting is
very respectful or even prudent.
If I want an abortion, please do notthrow
other options at me, and I believe many
women fel this way.
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Meandering Away
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Posted: 09-04-06 15:31pm
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I am not talking about those that know
what they want but those that are
undecided,
| Quote: |
tr> | but surely the
reason why such women come to this forum
is to hear the pros and cons of all
options? |
this what I am saying they deserve all
the options fair and unbiased not what one
person thinks of the options or biased
information.
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dramaqueen
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Posted: 09-04-06 17:08pm
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Abortion is a very scary subject, and it
was nice to have a forum where I could
post questions about my decision, and the
after effects, and having the
pro-choice/pro-life forum separate is an
excellent idea. I felt "safe" to ask
questions and not be ostracized for it. I
felt like I could get an answer to the
questions I had without having to defend
myself. I do agree that likely most of
the people who come here have probably
made up their mind, but I am sure there
are still plenty who haven't. As far as
seeming like other options aren't thrown
out there, it seems like many of the women
who respond to the posts come here because
they have had abortions themselves, and
are in a place to give truly subjective
advice about the option of abortion. They
understand what a woman has been through
or may go through, and because in their
choices most of the responders chose
abortion, that is probably why it doesn't
seem that there's a lot of posts about the
other options, because the people
responding are responding largely based on
their own choice. I did however have
someone private message me to suggest
other options, which didn't bother me.
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Tylanas
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Re: Question About This Forum
Posted: 09-04-06 19:04pm
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| purestgreen
wrote: | i'm sorry but I wasn't sure
where to put this.
I just want something clarified for me
please! This particular board is just
titled 'abortion' and I realise that it is
different to the 'abortion debate' board
because this is where women come if, for
example, they are considering an abortion
and want advice.
I have noticed that if anyone does
anything other than advise the woman that
abortion is the best way to go they get
shouted at by other posters. So, are
you allowed to discuss all the options
with someone who is unsure of what to do
or not? People keep saying this is an
'abortion support' board - does that mean
you can't discuss anything other than
abortion as an option?
Many thanks. |
that's not true; in fact many times, when
we advise, we don't push in one direction
or another. But if we even mention that
abortion is a smart desicion in some
cases, we get yelled at that we are
advocating the killing of babies.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 09-04-06 20:18pm
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Just so everyone knows, i'm posting the
campaing (ignore stillhere) info on
multiple topics to make sure that everyone
who would think of replying to her can see
it. It'll only work if we cooperate ^_^
she is a detriment to the debate an
support forums; and she is not a person
that pro-choice wishes to be assosciated
with. I swear, we're not all crazy, like
her.
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Cambion
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Posted: 09-04-06 23:36pm
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I definitely agree that more people come
here to debate than to offer support. I
don't know what cowboys is snorting or
smoking, but I offered very unbiased and
fair information to lorrieandkeith about
her situation, even though I am
pro-choice.
Honestly, I think this board is only
supportive of the pro-life decision,
because at any time if abortion is even
mentioned as a potential option, the
attacks start flying.
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candie2122
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Re: Question About This Forum
Posted: 11-08-06 16:35pm
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| purestgreen
wrote: | i'm sorry but I wasn't sure
where to put this.
I just want something clarified for me
please! This particular board is just
titled 'abortion' and I realise that it is
different to the 'abortion debate' board
because this is where women come if, for
example, they are considering an abortion
and want advice.
I have noticed that if anyone does
anything other than advise the woman that
abortion is the best way to go they get
shouted at by other posters. So, are
you allowed to discuss all the options
with someone who is unsure of what to do
or not? People keep saying this is an
'abortion support' board - does that mean
you can't discuss anything other than
abortion as an option?
Many thanks. |
i won't ever try to persuade someone one
way or the other. We need to inform them
and let them make the decision for
themselves.
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alphamom
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Posted: 01-26-07 09:21am
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Purest green
this is an abortion forum to discuss
issues about abortion. It contains as
I can see for the most part, much valuable
information from those that have had
abortions or who work in the medical
field.
If someone wants information on adoption,
lets give her the credit to be bright
enough to know she can keep it, go the
adoption route or have an abortion.
She will certainly be bright enough to be
able to google "adoption forum" I just
did and as I suspected, there are many
wonderful sites where she can get
information on adoption - much more
accurate than she can likely get on an
abortion forum.
I'm sure it is the same with having her
baby - I didn't check but I am sure that
she can find pages of information about
single motherhood or having her baby and
find better information from those that
have walked or are walking in her shoes
than on an abortion forum.
It has never amazed me how this tactic has
always been used to promote other's
interests. I came to this forum to
discuss abortion - not get in debates
about other options.
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