I Need Your Help@@ Divorce Is Looming On the Horizon Posted: 09-04-06 09:04am
Hi ...Just on a lark I put hypothyroid and
divorce into google and got a lot of hits
(150,000) my wife and I have been married
for 6 years and for two-3 of those years I
am convinced she was hypothyroid.
Because thats when the health forum ...The
hoplessness and the weight gain happened.
It was finally disgnosed this last
january after we had started living
apartand were trying to work things out.
Here is the problem I am having ...After
she gained weight and lost hope
(depression) and was very irritable to be
around because everything upset her and
she wouldn't go to the dr even though we
all tried to make her ...We thought she
was suffering from depression ....Anyway
what happened is that we all tried to have
as little time around her as possible
after dinner I would retreat to my office
and work etc. She had zero interest in
an sexual relations at all which I took in
stride so she says she's moving out and we
all help her pack and the week before I
file for divorce I sit down with her and
tell her she needs to go to the dr before
we end our marriage and our family because
she wasn't the happy girl I had married
her voice was lower and gruff and she had
the roundest face you can imagine ...Still
I loved her I just couldnt be around her
and she needed to go and get help if
possible and I was in no hurry to get
divorced and that I would feel terrible if
it was something besides her that was
causing these problems...She went was
diagnosed and people let me tell you
within 45 days she was happy and at 60
days she was dropping weight so fast you
would have thought she had cancer
...Anyway she was back 100% and happy and
feminine the whole package that I married
. What also came back was her memory of
us shutting her out ..And she was really
hurt and mad...The problem seems to be
that she doesnt really think there was any
change in her demeanor since taking the
pills and that she wasn't difficult to be
around ...She also thinks if she moves
back in with me that she will go right
back into her depression because she has
projected those negative symptoms of her
disease onto me ..I caused the depression
and hopelesness I caused the weight gain
and if she comes back then it will happen
all over again I promise you thats it I
was never abusive or angry back or
anything else if you would like to write
her an email and send it to me that would
be fantastic ...Especially if it hurt your
relationshps with your loved ones as well
I we are just about out of time before the
attorneys get ahold of her and we get a
divorce that never should happen can
anyone please help me ro
gerbaby2003@hotmail.Com
Last edited by DIVORCING on 09-04-06 09:44am; edited 2 times in total
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Jules
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Posted: 09-04-06 09:09am
Wrong forum, mate.
Oh and by the way, i'm not surprised your
wife doesn't want to get back with you if
your post is an accurate portrayal of your
relationship: you don't sound very
understanding. Far too many comments
about her physical appearance and wanting
her to 'humour you' and have sex when she
doesn't want to?!!! Makes me wonder if
you are for real actually...
I was exceptionally understanding this
went on for almost 3 yrs ...The problem
wasn't her bitterness it was that she
wouldn't let anyone try to help her
....I'm sorry if my description of hrer
symptons made me sound shallow and
uncaring I used the description to allude
to her loss of self esteem and the
obviousness of the problem believe me if I
hadn't of cared about her I would have
been gone 6 months into the thing sorry
I didn't do a better job of writing my
request for help
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Jules
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Posted: 09-04-06 09:34am
Do you realise you are posting on a board
called '.Abortion .Debate'? Try
'.Dealing with .Divorce and .Ending a
.Relationship' instead. Just an idea!
;-)
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Moo
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Posted: 09-04-06 09:37am
Not sure why this is in the abortion
debate forum but I have to agree with
purestgreen, why should your wife have
"humoured you" for five mins when she
clearly didn't want sex?
Seriously, hypothyroidism is linked to
depression (in that depression is one of
the symptoms, amongst the weight gain you
mentioned) but it can be exceptionally
difficult for people who are suffering and
feeling low to allow anyone to help them.
I understand you would get frustrated but
remeber your vows? "sickness and in
health".
Once the illness had been taken care of
and she dropped back to the weight she was
previously she was back to the woman you
matrried, the "whole package" - well i'm
sorry but marriage is about more than
looks and it seems kind of shallow to
me...
I really wasnt looking for anyone to
crtique my writing oops I was looking
for heklp from people who had had similar
problems resulting from hypothyroid
disease I posted it in the abortion colum
because it looked like it got the most
visitors
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Tylanas
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Posted: 09-04-06 19:11pm
Well go post where it belongs, we are not
going to give you anything you want here.
I advise no one else to respond; nto to be
mean, but just because this topic will
(hopefully) be moved soon by a mod. How
selfish to post on the forum with the most
hits, instead of where you belong.
