Dated 8 Months, She Wants Space... Posted: 09-05-06 13:14pm
So , we dated for 8 months, at about the 3
month mark we took some space, and then a
month later got back to gether and things
where wonderous for both parties. She
was in love, I was in love. . And we
did that for a couple of months, things
were great and we were talking marriage
one day, and planning our lives out
together... Then one day, she just says
I need a break, I want to take a break.
And then the next day I visited her it
turned in to its over. And I still have
not gotten a reason why... I asked her
mother and she said you were just
smoothering her.. Well okay, i'll back
off, no big deal... So now we just
reached day 10 of our break, and i've been
trying my hardest to let go, and just
leave her. I can't yet. And also, I
have been trying to give her, her space
and not talk to her. Yet, she confronts
me, and texts me. But then the convo's
are very distant on her side. But she is
the one making the effort to talk to me.
And today, we talked about my future, my
career, and she said 'oh, well good luck'
... Is she implying that its over for
good? Or what can I do say? I've
read/am reading books on separation, and
stuff. They all say give her space and
work your problems out.. Which I am
doing, I am just worried she won't be
there when I return. . . Is this a
risk I have to take, well not take, just
overcome, because its there no matter
what.
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pinksalter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 124
Posted: 09-06-06 19:16pm
I wish it was easy this dating stuff!
Maybe she is scared of the commitment?
Sometimes people kind of back off when
they get scared, my sister is like this.
If a guy gets serious she starts to back
off, or maybe you have been spending too
much time together. I would never say to
anyone just forget about them as it just
doesn`t work like that. Only you yourself
knows if she is worth the wait. Your
still in contact which is a good sign, its
not fair of her to keep contacting you if
she is being so distant with you.
Its hard to move on and im certainly not
in any position to say whats right or
wrong as i`m in a situation myself.
Follow your heart thats what I always say.
