i am in complete and utter turmoil right
here. Any advice you can give me would be
great and as soon as possible too!
I met this guy six months ago and we hit
it off straight away, our relationship was
different with the fact he has a very busy
job so it was hard to see each other. I
totally understood his work was very
important and never whinged at him I just
valued the time when we were together even
more.
Everything has been going great, everyone
has been saying u two are made for each
other and you know when you feel a real
connection with someone and you two have
it. I even think he could be the one!
This is a big thing for me as i`ve never
felt like this about anyone ever!
The trouble is last week although I knew
his work getting more heavy out the blue
he said we needed to talk. What he said
next devastated me. He said the next few
months his work load was going to get
heavier so he felt it wasn`t fair for him
to expect me to hang around waiting for
him or make a date and then he has to
cancel. He is a guy of principal so I
know hes thinking hes doing this as its
the best thing for me but its so not. At
the time I was heartbroken, I cried for
days but I couldn`t speak a word to him as
I was so upset.
I have arranged to meet with him soon so I
can have my say, i`ve even wrote
everything down so I can say all thats on
my mind. He says he doesn`t want to be
selfish and say wait for me but does that
in a round about way mean wait for me? I
want him and I am willing to wait for him
so i`m going to tell him this. I know he
likes me, we have so much in common it
just isn`t right that this is happening.
We are compatible in every way and he even
said if I had a 9 to 5 job this wouldn`t
be happening.
Basically i`m going to put my heart on the
line and tell him my thoughts, do u think
I have a chance? After all its not going
to be forever!
Please help!
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Brianne
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Florida
Posted: 09-05-06 19:19pm
Well...I don't mean to sound harsh, but it
sounds like a cowards way out of breaking
up with you if you ask me. Ok, his
schedule is going to be more
hectic...Couples work around that
everyday. What would he do if you guys
were married? Get a divorce because his
job was going to tie him up for a while?.
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pinksalter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 124
Posted: 09-05-06 19:34pm
Thanks for your reply.
I know what your saying as I always
thought that anyone who said they were too
busy it would only be an excuse. However
being with him I now know its not an
excuse. I know hes doing this as he
thinks its only fair to me but its not.
I will be talking to him soon hopefully
when he gets back from working away and I
guess if he doesn`t accept that I want him
then its over. He wants to keep in
contact and I know he likes me, you just
know when someone wants you and he does.
I guess i`m scared if he says no but I
mean I thought any guy would be like wow
shes great cos she understands my
situation? I mean the night after this
happened I was asked out by someone else,
its not like I can`t find someone else! I
just want to be with him!
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