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Joey9725
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2005 Posts: 32 Location: Sydney
Posted: 09-16-06 21:54pm
This must be a hard thing for you to go
through. Especially if you love him. My
advice would be to ask him to seek
professional help or you need to try and
build up the strength to leave him. You
can't change him only he can change him
self. But he has to want it to get
better.
But for your safety you really should get
professional advice and ask him to see
someone. If he really does care for you
he will go and get help.
Hope this helps
take care
goodluck
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3rdtimearound
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Sep 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Toronto
Re: Do I Need to Worry? Posted: 09-16-06 23:23pm
In a word - yes.
I'm sure your boyfriend has legitimate
reasons for the way he is...But reasons
are not excuses, and they don't make it
ok. I can tell you that he will
definately abuse any children you have,
and the abuse to yourself will only
increase as he sees, perhaps
subconciously, that you will put up with
it and continue to forgive.
I have heard this story so many times!
He's sorry later and he cries? The better
part of sorry is not doing it anymore. So
how sorry can he really be?
Let him get help, etc...That's being
supportive, sure. But here's a tough
lesson: if you don't watch out for
yourself and your kids, future or present,
no one else will. And there is no excuse
for subjecting children to the behaviour
you describe - even if it 'only' means
watching their mother being treated that
way.
He's great 'most of the time'???? Big
deal! His abuse counteracts his good
behaviour and staying with him is the same
as saying do it again!!!!
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Sarah5953
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 09-19-06 15:56pm
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3rdtimearound
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Sep 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Toronto
Do I Need to Worry? Posted: 09-19-06 20:21pm
I'm glad I helped you in some small way.
Please just remember that his impulses are
still violent even if he can check them
somewhat.
But don't kid yourself into thinking that
he'll ever change, please. It's hard for
you to imagine leaving him, sure. But you
are strong, or you wouldn't even be
wondering if you should.
Here's the newsflash: there are guys out
there who never hit. There are guys out
there who get very, very mad and never
raise a hand against the person they're
mad at.
That's the kind of guy you deserve - but
only if you think so.
Staying with a guy who treats you bad,
even some of the time, is the same as
saying you deserve what he dishes out.
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 214 Location: Australia
Posted: 02-12-07 06:37am
Im not exactly sure what you have written
but I wish you the very best of luck and I
hope that things are going better for
you!
