Well me and my girl told our parents.
They didnt take it as well as we thought
they would. There was alot of yelling at
us. We got the typical "how could you do
this" "why did you do it" "where did we go
wrong raising you" the whole nine yards.
We basically explained that it was a
mistake having sex in the first place and
not being so careful. But now its time
to take responsibility for our actions.
Then we told them we have it all figured
out. They threw at us "what do you have
figured out, you have nothing figured
out". We explained to them that first of
all my girlfriend is keeping the baby and
that we will be moving in together, raise
the baby. That first we are going to
move into the basement for a bit then
after we have enough money find out own
place.
"what are you going to do for work" was
another thing they said to us. I
explained I am still going to go into
djing and get another job so I have a
fixed income comming in every week, untill
the djing thing works out and I am busy
almost every weekend.
My girlfriends parents are like "are you
going to get married", we told them not
right away.
In the end they were taking it better then
what we thought they would. Now my
sister was like "cool" throughout the
whole time she found it nice to have a
baby in the family but I guess it's cause
she is till very young (10 years old). I
would like to say thank you for every one
who gave me advice.
They may except it more once they get over
the initial shock.
You'll be ok! Good luck!
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IoannI
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 72
Posted: 09-12-06 21:36pm
Thanx.
Well I hope they except it more, I want
them to accept it how my little sister has
excepted it.
michelle1981
wrote:
they may except it more once
they get over the initial shock.
You'll be ok! Good
luck!
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JennyJ
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2005 Posts: 195 Location: Alabama
Posted: 09-12-06 22:18pm
I'm sure they will. Just give it some
time. Your parents are just still in a
state of shock but they will love your
baby so much before long. A friend of
mine got pregnant when we were in high
school (she was 16 when she had her son).
Her parents flipped out when she told them
and her dad wouldn't hardly even speak to
her for months. When she got married to
the baby's dad and moved out of the house
2 years later her dad cried! He missed
his grandson and didn't want them to
leave.
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 09-12-06 23:41pm
ioanni
wrote:
thanx.
Well I hope they except it more, I want
them to accept it how my little sister has
excepted it.
michelle1981
wrote:
they may except it more once
they get over the initial shock.
You'll be ok! Good
luck!
well your parents are your parents ..They
are grown adults and know right from
wrong..And in their eyes you and your
girlfriend done alot wrong..I know that
right now you and your girlfriend are
wanting them to be as excited as you two
are..But it takes time..They have alot
more to worry about..They know what its
like to have children and with you two
being so young thats more weight on
them..You will one day understand why they
are saying the things they are..Just
remember not to argue with them and just
listen...You little sister is very young
..She is excited yeah..What little girl
wouldnt be..I loved playing with babys at
that age..But I just have to say congrats
and good luck..
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Emma2
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Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 4406 Location: Montreal, Canada
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Posted: 09-13-06 08:22am
ioanni
wrote:
thanx.
Well I hope they except it more, I want
them to accept it how my little sister has
excepted it.
michelle1981
wrote:
they may except it more once
they get over the initial shock.
You'll be ok! Good
luck!
ok sorry to be really upfront here but
your comparing a 10 yrs old who thinks
babies are dolls to adults....Your parents
reaction is quite normal under the
circumstances...You are young and having a
baby will change your life forever and
force you to grow up ...You did the right
thing by being honest but now youre gonna
have to accept lots of criticism and
judments by all sorts of people...Price
that comes with being this young and
irresponsible....Everyone will eventually
get over it though...Good luck
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IoannI
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 72
Posted: 09-13-06 09:26am
Thanx everyone and if any one has any more
advice please post
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jessamyn
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Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
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Posted: 09-13-06 11:51am
Your right about getting married for a
baby is not the right reason.
But be prepared to keep up on that "plan"
of yours.
Save every penny you can because you'll
need it even if its not buying that
afternoon soda or what not.
Look into stable jobs aside from djing and
show them that. Whats rent around your
neighborhood?
I had already graduated when I got
pregnant and my parents acted the same way
dont worry. But once this becomes
something real they should change their
mind. (it happened with my parents around
6 months) be responsible!
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IoannI
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 72
Posted: 09-13-06 11:58am
Im going to save every penny that I can.
I already do that by buying cd's in bulk.
The money it cost to buy a pack of 100
cd-s at office depot is the price I get
600 cd-r's for.
Rent varies from 500-1200 depening where
you go and what kind of place you get.
My friend lives in a rental unit, which
his parents own he is 19 and has come back
for oac(grade 13) his room cost 500.00 and
he can hook me up with one of those, but
that doesnt include a kitchen.
Work wise I plan to apply at this computer
store thats opening up down the street
from my house, it should open up within
the next week or two. But like you said
to look into a stable job aside from
djing, and that what I plan to do, until I
get a good name out there and I can do
djing as a full time career in which I
could bring up 1gran+ in one weekend.
jessamyn
wrote:
your right about getting
married for a baby is not the right
reason.
But be prepared to keep up on that "plan"
of yours.
Save every penny you can because you'll
need it even if its not buying that
afternoon soda or what not.
Look into stable jobs aside from djing and
show them that. Whats rent around your
neighborhood?
I had already graduated when I got
pregnant and my parents acted the same way
dont worry. But once this becomes
something real they should change their
mind. (it happened with my parents
around 6 months) be
responsible!
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