natzcee
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Location: glasgow
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Left Out :(
Posted: 09-13-06 17:56pm
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I just had my little girl almost 5 days
ago I h8 the fact my bf doent give me much
attension :|i mean I love me little girl
with all my heart and its soo sweet seein
him playin with her and all over her like
a rash but I just want a cuddle and a kiss
but I dont seem to get them as much as I
useto :(
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Tazzy D
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Posted: 09-13-06 18:11pm
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I def. Can relate with you on this one.
Especially after I had our daughter. It
was like thank you but I dont need you
anymore. That is the way I feel at times.
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ANGELOS MAMA
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diamondsz
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Posted: 09-13-06 21:21pm
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It does happen or your relationship goes
downhill for abit, kids put alot of stress
on a relationship and you have to remeber
when you have a kid the attention will be
directed more to the kids during their
waking hours.
The only advice I have is be patient, your
relationship will start to improve, I wont
lie it took a few months for mine to
improve but it does work and then your
learn how to work as a family unit.
Once a child enters your life its all a
balancing act, relationship,emotional,
work, school etc.
You have us so vent but it does get better
just be strong
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Zanny
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Posted: 09-14-06 06:20am
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Awww hun I feel for you.. I have a
feeling my boyfriend will be the same when
our daughter is born. It's the "daddy's
little girl" thing I think.
I hope things get better for you soon!
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princess_amy89
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Joined: 05 Sep 2006
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Location: england
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Posted: 09-14-06 07:57am
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Im scared I will feel like that everyone
is just giving the baby attention and we
wont me and max wont be that close anymore
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Sunflower_pie81
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006
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Location: to hell with this crap
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Posted: 09-14-06 11:17am
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Unfortunatly when you have a baby, your
life becomes all about the baby. My
mother doesn't ask how I am doing anymore,
neither does my sister, nor the people at
work. It's always 'hows the baby' but it
doesn't really bother me because that is
what my life has turned into. I don't
have my husband anymore so I don't have
the 'relationship issues' but I am glad to
have my little one because it takes away
some of the pain of loosing him. You
know? I am sure it will get better for
you. It's something 'new' and once
motherhood and fatherhood sets in you guys
will get back on track.
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natzcee
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Joined: 11 May 2006
Posts: 288
Location: glasgow
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Posted: 09-14-06 13:35pm
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Well me and marc "my bf" are goin out for
a meal and to the cinema tomorrow and the
baby is goin to my mums I had a small talk
with him last nite and says we need to
make time for us too or we'll just fall
out all the time like we have been doing
im realy moody just now and feel like im
being a nasty mother becuase everyone is
pickin her up and its me that has to deal
with her when she wants lifted and
everyone is away shes gettin spoiled and I
dont want that. Its horrible I feel like
me and teegan arent bonding :( also my mum
is realy pushin in :| its driving me mad
its like teegan is my sister rather than
my little girl my mum comes in and takes
her off me to feed her and I feel like I
cant go "what r u doin?" im gona go mad!
Its so horrible :( I love teegan with all
my heart and I just want me teegan and
marc to b a family without anyone butting
in!!
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Sunflower_pie81
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006
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Posted: 09-14-06 13:40pm
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Phew girl I am really sorry your having a
rough time. I know that when people come
over to my home and they want to do
something with the baby or something I ask
them not to if I really don't want her to
be held or picked up or fed or what ever
the reason. But I guess its different
when you live with those people.
I dont' know how you can leave your skoot
at 5 days old.....I can't hardly leave her
now and she is 8 weeks old. I only spent
20 mins away from her while I ran to the
store and I thought I was going to die.
I can't believe that I am back to work now
and I only see her when I go down to feed
her. I am glad that I am still feedign
her though.
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natzcee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 May 2006
Posts: 288
Location: glasgow
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Posted: 09-14-06 14:15pm
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I so dont wanna leave her but I think me
and marc need a bita time to talk and just
cyuddle hes neva nar me he sleeps at the
bottom of the bed to be near teegan I no
all al do is miss her but I tihink if we
dont have a bit of time together without
teegan al find it eaier to talk to him,
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Posted: 09-14-06 14:35pm
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Your not over reacting.Its just how it
is.Tell him you need him sometimes.Its not
stupid its normal! When the baby is
sleeping its the perfect time!
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DaliciaLynn
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Location: Missouri
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Posted: 09-14-06 15:14pm
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I'll tell you something.
My experience.... As my son got older,
the easier it was to have a relationship.
I work a lot and attend school, my husband
works a lot aswell and we always find ways
to cuddle when the baby is sleeping.
Things like going out to eat and such the
baby usually comes with us. He's a really
good baby too so that probably makes
things a lot easier on us.
But I promise, it gets so much easier when
they get older. Things may seem so crappy
right now but if you just make it through
this rough time things will eventually get
better with time.
My husband and I also do things as a team.
When the baby needs changed, we both go
upstairs and do it as a team (unless hes
at work) we give him a bath together and I
think being a team when you have a baby
makes a relationship a lot closer, so no
one feels left out of anything.
I'm just rambling but I hope I helped
anyways lol.
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