Please Help =( I Dont Know What to Do I Just Need Advice :( Posted: 09-15-06 12:24pm
Well I found out monday I was 9 weeks
pregnant but the baby actually 6 weeks in
development. We had it all sorted with my
parents and I was going to be supported.
It was a total shock for everyone.
My boyfriend who was gonna be there and
support me told his parents they are very
strict with high standards and told him if
I dont get rid of it then he can never see
me or the baby again and they want nothing
to do with it. They will support me
financially. My boyfriend and I hate
this. But then I think u know he should
rebel against them this is his girlfriend
and his child he just doesnt have no back
bone.
So now I have to make a decision between
my boyfriend and my developing baby. I
cannot be without him as I love him very
much =( but this is so hard.
I just dont know what to do. I cannot do
this without him :(
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 09-15-06 12:54pm
If you truly want this baby, don't abort.
You will regret it your entire life. In
my opinion, it isn't fair for someone to
expect you to homicide your child because
of their stand on it. You might even hold
it against your boyfriend and his family
for forcing this choice on you.
So many relationships end, whether they
are teenaged or adult. Look at the
divorce rates, for example. If you ended
this pregnancy in hopes of continuining on
with your boyfriend, only to break up
later on, how horrible would that be? As
hard as it would be to raise the child as
a single mother, keeping your boyfriend
should not be a valid reason for ending
your child's life.
And not to mention, your boyfriend's
parents might change their mind if you
follow through with this pregnancy. In a
few months' time, it's possible that
they'll be completely supportive.
I'm not saying don't abort. Just make
sure that, if you decide to, that it's for
.V.A.L.I.D reasons. Please don't let
someone else try to force you into this.
Follow your heart.
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Jules
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Posted: 09-15-06 13:07pm
I agree with everything ayamiyaki said, I
really think you would regret it if you
had an abortion. You would not be doing
it for the 'right' reasons but because you
felt pushed into it.
Please don't rush into anything.
Relationships can end but the love between
a mother and her child is everlasting.
Don't be pressured into abortion if that is not
what you want .
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Emma2
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Posted: 09-15-06 13:27pm
Your boyfriend needs to grow some
balls......If he loves you and your baby
he will not put up with that manipulation
from his cruel parents. Last I checked no
one can stop someone from seeing or
talking to them and there is absolutely no
excuse if he decides to do what his
parents wish. You do what you feel is
best for you but remember no man is worth
having to chose something you really do
not want. G.L.
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jparry
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Posted: 09-15-06 15:14pm
:? How could someone be like that? I
would most certainly not get an abortion
because of pressure from someone else...
This growing individual is your baby...
Yes your boyfriend had part in your
conception.. But he is growing with you,
you would be the one suffering with the
pain of an abortion and the emotional
effects it puts on you! If its not
something that you want don't do it! Do
what you feel is best for you and your
child. If your boyfriend loves you as
much as you love him, and as much as he
says he loves you, he will stand behind
you no matter what.. He will support you
through it all.. Relationships end,
marriages end, however the bond a mother
and her child has will never end. You
have a loving family that will support you
through your pregnancy, and I am sure you
have wonderful friends as well.. You will
get through it if you chose to keep this
baby... I wish you all the luck in the
world.. My thoughts are with you!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 09-15-06 15:46pm
I would tell your bf's parents to screw
off and it they don't have any helpful
advice or support, you don't want to hear
anthing.If you want to have the baby,have
it.You already have support fromm your
family you don't need his family's
negativity
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liwikiwi
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Re: Please Help =( I Dont Know What to Do I Just Need Advic Posted: 09-16-06 19:20pm
220589
wrote:
well I found out monday I
was 9 weeks pregnant but the baby actually
6 weeks in development.
:(
what does that mean...Were they going to
support you if the baby was normal
development stage...I dont get what this
is all about...