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220589

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Please Help =( I Dont Know What to Do I Just Need Advice :(
Posted: 09-15-06 12:24pm

Well I found out monday I was 9 weeks pregnant but the baby actually 6 weeks in development. We had it all sorted with my parents and I was going to be supported. It was a total shock for everyone.

My boyfriend who was gonna be there and support me told his parents they are very strict with high standards and told him if I dont get rid of it then he can never see me or the baby again and they want nothing to do with it. They will support me financially. My boyfriend and I hate this. But then I think u know he should rebel against them this is his girlfriend and his child he just doesnt have no back bone.

So now I have to make a decision between my boyfriend and my developing baby. I cannot be without him as I love him very much =( but this is so hard.

I just dont know what to do. I cannot do this without him :(
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AyaMiyaki

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Posted: 09-15-06 12:54pm

If you truly want this baby, don't abort. You will regret it your entire life. In my opinion, it isn't fair for someone to expect you to homicide your child because of their stand on it. You might even hold it against your boyfriend and his family for forcing this choice on you.

So many relationships end, whether they are teenaged or adult. Look at the divorce rates, for example. If you ended this pregnancy in hopes of continuining on with your boyfriend, only to break up later on, how horrible would that be? As hard as it would be to raise the child as a single mother, keeping your boyfriend should not be a valid reason for ending your child's life.

And not to mention, your boyfriend's parents might change their mind if you follow through with this pregnancy. In a few months' time, it's possible that they'll be completely supportive.

I'm not saying don't abort. Just make sure that, if you decide to, that it's for .V.A.L.I.D reasons. Please don't let someone else try to force you into this. Follow your heart.
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Jules

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Posted: 09-15-06 13:07pm

I agree with everything ayamiyaki said, I really think you would regret it if you had an abortion. You would not be doing it for the 'right' reasons but because you felt pushed into it.

Please don't rush into anything. Relationships can end but the love between a mother and her child is everlasting. Don't be pressured into abortion if that is not what you want .
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Emma2

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Posted: 09-15-06 13:27pm

Your boyfriend needs to grow some balls......If he loves you and your baby he will not put up with that manipulation from his cruel parents. Last I checked no one can stop someone from seeing or talking to them and there is absolutely no excuse if he decides to do what his parents wish. You do what you feel is best for you but remember no man is worth having to chose something you really do not want. G.L.
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jparry

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Posted: 09-15-06 15:14pm

:? How could someone be like that? I would most certainly not get an abortion because of pressure from someone else... This growing individual is your baby... Yes your boyfriend had part in your conception.. But he is growing with you, you would be the one suffering with the pain of an abortion and the emotional effects it puts on you! If its not something that you want don't do it! Do what you feel is best for you and your child. If your boyfriend loves you as much as you love him, and as much as he says he loves you, he will stand behind you no matter what.. He will support you through it all.. Relationships end, marriages end, however the bond a mother and her child has will never end. You have a loving family that will support you through your pregnancy, and I am sure you have wonderful friends as well.. You will get through it if you chose to keep this baby... I wish you all the luck in the world.. My thoughts are with you!
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Melissa_20

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Posted: 09-15-06 15:46pm

I would tell your bf's parents to screw off and it they don't have any helpful advice or support, you don't want to hear anthing.If you want to have the baby,have it.You already have support fromm your family you don't need his family's negativity
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liwikiwi

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Re: Please Help =( I Dont Know What to Do I Just Need Advic
Posted: 09-16-06 19:20pm

220589 wrote:
well I found out monday I was 9 weeks pregnant but the baby actually 6 weeks in development. :(

what does that mean...Were they going to support you if the baby was normal development stage...I dont get what this is all about...
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