Alright so i'm pretty stoked about this
but it's an insane event. I'm 18, my gf
is 16 going on 17 in october, and we just
found out she was pregnant. The only bad
thing about this is, were only 1 month
into the relationship. Me and her have
started to mentally prepare ourselves and
know the consequences. We dont drink, we
dont smoke or do anything, were both
graduating this year from high school.
She plans on takin 1 more test to get the
final answer. I'm a little scared to deal
with the parents right now on both sides
because of our age and the time being
together, what should I say or do?
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AVA18244
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 21
Posted: 09-15-06 18:12pm
And ya I just turned 18 yesterday so dont
think its creepy that im going out with
someone 2 yrs younger cause technically im
not.
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AVA18244
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 21
Posted: 09-15-06 18:15pm
Sorry to bump this but id just like some
suggestions thats all.
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jparry
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 89 Location: PA
Posted: 09-15-06 18:15pm
I know the situation... When I found out
I was pregnant I was just casually seeing
my boyfriend of now 6 months. We were not
offical when I got pregnant nor did we
become offical right away. I told my
parents right away about the situation.
My parents were understanding as my mom
was my age when she got pregnant with me.
I have my family's full support. However
meeting my boyfriends parents and telling
them the news was a little aqward. On
account of our situation, the asked me all
kinds of questions, are you sure its his,
are you going to get a dna test done. I
guess we can say as nervous, scared, and
anxious as I was about my baby, I wasn't
prepared for these questions.
I myself didn't wanna believe that I was
pregnant and took 2 home pregnancy test.
However they both came back positive. I
also asked my doctor if he was going to do
a blood pregnancy test because I took only
took home ones.. And they said any home
test is as accurate as the blood test.
You will never be 100% mentally prepared
for the up coming months and it get
difficult.. I am going through so many
mood swings and things just are changing
all together.. No matter what stick with
your girl. Relize that her harmones are
going crazy and her moods will change..
She may cry alot, be mad alot, or be
herself everyone varies.
Dealing with your parents or her parents
isn't going to be easy. They may ask you
questions you don't have answers too! You
may want to go to a free clinc that offer
you advise! I know there is one in my
area however I don't know if there is one
in yours or not!
I wish you both the best and hopefully
this helps you out a little.. If you ever
need to talk feel free to pm me or send me
and email.
Joey
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AVA18244
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 21
Posted: 09-15-06 18:19pm
Wow thanks alot. Ya im pretty scared
cause her parents actually think shes
never ever kissed a guy before. I was so
shocked but at the same time excited, I
left school today, traveled about a half
hour to an hour walk to her school just to
see and be with her. I wanna make
everything right. And ya she has been
going through some mood swings lately but
ive just been the best bf I possibly could
be. And another thing, her parents dont
know were going out, shes keepin it from
them cause she got out of a tough
relationship 2 weeks before we got
together and want her to focus on school
first...This is gonna be real tough,
hopefully they understand tho.
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jparry
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 89 Location: PA
Posted: 09-15-06 18:30pm
You are more then welcome... I can relate
to your situation... Its a hard
situation, for both you and your
girlfriend and both of your parents as
well... That is sweet that you traveled
so far by foot just to spend some time
with her! She is going to need every bit
of support. Its not easy being pregnant
and I know I wouldn't be able to do it
alone..I have been going through many
changes myself.. Mentally,physically, and
emotionally. I am sure that everything
will work out just fine! She is going to
need your support exspecially if her
parents don't give her support.. I am
sure that they will understand but one
never knows how there parents will
react... Best of luck...
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AVA18244
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 21
Posted: 09-15-06 18:32pm
Thanks alot once again. I know my mom
shouldnt react to bad to it considering
she had my brother at 18 and I definitely
see no regrets whats so ever
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jparry
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 89 Location: PA
Posted: 09-15-06 18:36pm
Thats the best thing... When you have
parents that were once in the same
situation it makes it a little bit easier
to tell them.. I don't see any regets
either.. My little one is a boy.. And I
can't be any more excited... I am just
now having a tough time with my self
control.I want him here now!!! I can't
wait to hold him, kiss him and feed him..
Although he wasn't planned.. He sure
isn't an accident either.. Good luck and
stay incontact!
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AVA18244
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 21
Posted: 09-15-06 18:38pm
Thanks alot, I hope everything goes well
for you and I hope you have a wonderful
future for you and your son. How old are
you and how far along are you?
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jparry
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 89 Location: PA
Posted: 09-15-06 18:39pm
I am 19 years old, and I am 32 weeks
pregnant.. So I only have a couple of
more weeks to go... I wish you the
best.. You are very welcome!
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AVA18244
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 21
Posted: 09-15-06 18:56pm
Anyone else have anything to say? Itd be
rad to start a good discussion in here
