Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Long Island New York
Does Anyone Have Any Suggestions?? Posted: 09-15-06 23:43pm
I have a question for anyone. I am 34
and single. No kids and never married.
All I want is to be a wife and mother. I
have health issues that make me not feel
well most of the time and have been told I
may not be able to get pregnant and if I
do I prob will miscarry. Needless to say
im scared to get pregnant and even more
scared of it never happening. I wanted
to wait for mr. Wonderful and its not
looking so good!! I have no family
except a neice who is having a baby girl
soon. I wanted so much to be there for
her birth but, she is having a c section
and im not allowed. I dont have the
funds to go to school to be a mid wife.
Ive always been amazed and interested in
the birthing process and my not knowing if
I will ever have a baby want to attend a
birth. I dont know if there is people
out there locally (long island n.Y.) who
are alone or need a coach? Does anyone
have any suggestions? :?:
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diamondsz
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Posted: 09-16-06 10:12am
My sugesstion why not volunteer to work in
a teen mom shelter, offer your service or
maybe even adopt, there is so many things
you can do nowadays.
Everybody needs volunteer and at the
sametime your contributing to society, I
always believe if you offer what you do
best or think you do best it would make
you a great person as well you are
mentally/socially satisfied.
Adopting is a great thing as well, you get
to raise a child who is not your own but
you become their mother because you are
the one who teaches them moral, who
teaches them day to day living.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 09-16-06 12:03pm
I agree with .Jess. Adoption would be
ideal. That way you get what you really
want, and a little person gets the home
they need.
I have thought about adopting as well. I
have a 6 month old, but I have always
wanted to give a needy baby/child a loving
home.
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priceless34
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Long Island New York
Thanks For Suggestions Posted: 09-16-06 23:44pm
Thank you for your response. I cannot
afford adoption. People would place a
baby with two parents over a single woman.
Again the fiancial of adoption is
impossible. Does anyone know of a person
who could use my help???
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arcadia
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Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 4468 Location: Illinois,
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Posted: 09-16-06 23:48pm
People will gladly give you a child to
adopt even though you're a single woman.
That doesn't mean you're inadequate. If
you cannot afford adoption, you would not
be able to afford having your own child.
Not to be rude. Just saying.
I'm not sure if anyone is from your area
that could use help, but keep searching.
Good luck!
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priceless34
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Long Island New York
Thanks!! Posted: 09-17-06 13:19pm
I can afford to have a child in regards to
takeing care of him or her but, the amount
of money it takes to adopt or have a
surrogate I cant do. I also am thinking
of having a baby by a donor see if it
works. That to do for 1 try nooo
guarantees is $2000.00 thats a gamble when
money is tight but, id be willing im just
so unsure of being everyone to my baby.
Mommy, daddy, grandparents, aunts, uncles
I have just a neice and her soon to be
girl shes having. My parents are
deceased as well as my grandparents. I
have a few close friends who will be
involved but, most of them dont live near
me. With me having no family and my baby
not having a daddy or his family I feel is
that wrong of me?? Is my wanting a baby
sooooo much and my being almost 35 years
old being selfish given my situation???
Im not a kid wanting a kid. Im a fully
grown adult who wants to be a mommy. I
will then be single and alone and
pregnant. My friend will be my birth
coach but, ofcouse id like it to be my
husband. My reason for posting this to
begin with was to see if there was anyone
near me who is alone needs help and a
coach. I really am interested in the
birthing process and if someone is alone
they shouldnt be in that moment of a
miracle. If god intends on me not being
able to carry a baby(not sure yet) then
my helping someone would be wonderful.
People always need good people in there
lives and someone who understands and who
can help. When someone gets cancer they
can call a church to find a person who
they dont kbow for a ride to the doctors.
Im just seeing if anyone need help and in
helping her it would fill me up as well.
Somebody has to know of someone right??
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Jules
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Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 3689 Location: Merrie Englande, UK
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Posted: 09-17-06 13:50pm
I think you might be going about this the
wrong way. No disrespect, but asking a
bunch of strangers on the internet if they
know of anyone who would trust you
(another stranger on the internet) to be
their birthing coach when you have no
qualifications is a bit of a long shot.
Perhaps you could volunteer at your local
hospital?
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