I dont know if you get a lot of messages
from mums of teenage girls who are
pregnant but we need help.........My
daughter who is two weeks away from her
15th birthday told me two days ago that
she is 8 weeks pregnant and she wants to
keep it we are still in shock I need
advice on were to go for financial help
the father of the baby is only 16 and cant
support her I am the only wage earner in
my household so I need help and fast.Just
to let you know I have 7 children myself 4
including my daughter still live at home
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Makoto
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Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 287 Location: Japan
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Posted: 09-17-06 20:12pm
Was your first child a teen pregnacy as
well? You have seven children, how did
that happen? I wonder did you alread set
a pattern for your children to follow?
Maybe you should take steps to make sure
your other children do not do the same.
I think for the sake of your other kids
you need to tell or teach your kids about
teen pregnacy and how to avoid it.
You daughter is going to have to get a
part time job, or for the family excell at
school. Plus she is going to have to look
after her child. Even though she is a
child, she has to grow up and take care of
a life she is creating now.
Mr16 year old as well, better get out
there and sell newspapers or something for
his child and help support. If he will
not, you can sue his parents for some kind
of support I would say. He is a minor.
You do not have to pay for the whole
thing, his parents, plus 16yearold himself
should provide whatever support they can.
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littlesqueaks
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Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 09-18-06 00:32am
Sorry but she may be going to be a mother
but that does not make her an adult. I
was a young teenager myself when I became
pregnant with my first son but I also knew
responsibilty of raising a child. Is her
education done, does she have a full time
job, is the father a type of guy that is
going to be around forever and is the
child going to be brought up in a stable
home. All these questions I answered
myself with no help from anyone and my
answers were no as a teenager you hardley
have time to take care of your self. So
really "mom" who is going to be raising
this child. To give a child the care they
need some of the things listed above need
to be there and if there not the child is
going to suffer from it maybe not now but
maybe in the long run. I chose to place
my child under adoption 11 years ago and I
know that he is in a home that will
provide what is needed for him. I don't
regret my decission at all because I knew
the responsiblity of raising a child is
more than just playing with dolls!!!!!!
She needs to finish her "childhood" before
raising one of her own she should weight
her options before making such a decision
and you as her mother need to place them
in front of her unless you want to raise
an 8th child.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 09-20-06 09:26am
heathercarl
wrote:
I chose to place my child
under adoption 11 years ago and I know
that he is in a home that will provide
what is needed for him. I don't regret
my decission at all because I knew the
responsiblity of raising a child is more
than just playing with dolls!!!!!! She
needs to finish her "childhood" before
raising one of her own she should weight
her options before making such a decision
and you as her mother need to place them
in front of her unless you want to raise
an 8th child.
i agree.She needs to know her options.Kids
don't relize how big of a responsibility
babies are and they think it will be
wasy,especially with mom ther eto do
everything for her.Is your pocketbook
large enough to support all those
children?I suggest you go talk to the boys
parents and if they do not intend to help
you out I would go for adoption
