How Do I Get Dh Ready to Make a Baby Posted: 09-22-06 16:18pm
My hubby and I have been together for 5
years and we have been married since
march. We have talked a lot about having
children in the last 3 years, I am ready
when ever but he is still insistant on not
being ready. He keeps using the excuse
that our appartment is not big enough (we
have 2 bedrooms) and I think it is really
becuase he is not mentally ready. I have
tried talking to him about it, but he is
unresponsive except for saying "someday"
when I ask when we can really start ttc.
We are not activly trying to prevent
pregnancy either. I chart my cycles and
we know when I have an increase in chances
to get pregnant and he has the choice to
ask for protection or just pull out and
see what happens. 9 times out of 10 he
chooses to just pull out, which tells me
(i think too far into it) that he doesn't
care if we do get pregnant and if it
happens it happens. But I want to know
what any of you said to your man when he
was "not ready" but you were. I just
want to do this while I am young and
somewhat still healthy (i have some health
issues since birth).. I am 25 and dh is
28, so it isn't like we are old, but
menopause comes early in my family and I
have told him this, but it doesn't seem to
click in his head. Anyway, I have wrote
enough for now, so any advice or info
would be soooo great. Thanx.
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Malory
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Dec 2005 Posts: 95 Location: York, England
Posted: 10-07-06 06:03am
Make up a budget showing how you will be
able to pay for all your bills and rent
plus the baby's food, clothing, nappies,
childcare etc. On your income and his
income.
Then show it to your husband. It will
probably make him more relaxed if he
doesn't have to worry about future money
problems.
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High_Voltage
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2006 Posts: 27 Location: Oakwood
Posted: 10-07-06 08:02am
Malory had some good advice... Take care
of any debts or anything too... If you
plan on buying a house in the future,
maybe buy the house first... Rent is
usually more then a mortgage payment
anyways.
You really just need to sit down with him
and have a talk about it. Find out what
is wrong etc. Because his is obviously
something that means alot to you and he
needs to listen.
Unfortunately it doesn't sound like he is
really interested...
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