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Ticked Off, Need to Vent Posted: 09-23-06 13:20pm
My husband and I have a gift certificate
to a very nice local restaurant. This
morning my husband tells me he'd like to
go. This is fine, but .I'm a little bit
nervous about leaving the baby. She
hasn't been without at least one of us
since she was born. But anyway, he said
that his mother (my mil) will watch her
and we can go have a nice time.
Anyway, I take my shower and everything
while he watches .Aly, and I can hear her
crying the entire time. So when I get out
I joke with .Aaron that she must know
we're leaving her. He gets sooo mad and
starts telling me not to say anything else
about leaving her because it's pissing him
off. His reaction angers me off, so I go
into another room for a bit with the baby
to calm her down. I mean damn, I was just
joking! A little later on it occurs to me
that some of the nicer restaurants have
special hours of operation, and my husband
is never the kind of guy that bothers to
check on that sort of thing. So I ask him
if he knows what hours they're open, and
he flips out! He starts yelling that if I
don't want to go, just say so.
Well I completely lose my cool. I start
screaming at him that of course I want to
go, but if he's going to act like an
problem then maybe he should just go by
himself or take one of his buddies, and
.I'll just stay home because at the least
the baby doesn't make me feel like crap.
So he checks the hours out and sure
enough, they're closing for lunch at 2:00
and reopening for dinner at 5:00. It's
like 12:30 at this point, so I start
freaking out. I start throwing clothes on
and ask him if his mom is home, since
she's going to be watching the baby. He
calls and she's not home.
So at this point, it's getting close to
1:00 (the place closes at 2:00), so I
start saying maybe we should wait until
5:00. He says as long as we get there by
1:45 they'll stay open for us. Umm,
excuse me? This is supposed to be a
really nice dinner. I don't want to get
there right as they're closing, and feel
like the people there are rushing me out
the door. I want to be able to take my
time and relax. Well, .Aaron doesn't want
to hear it. He starts slamming doors and
stuff and that's the final straw for me.
I've already changed out of my clothes and
I don't want to go at *all* now. How
romantic would our dinner be when we're so
pissed off at each other? Screw that.
Sorry that was so long. I'm just sooo
pissed off!
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Sandbox Party
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 7276
Posted: 09-23-06 13:33pm
Eek.. Yeah sounds like a bunch of drama.
Having a new baby around makes for a
stressful situation for both mom *and*
dad. He's probably just overwhelmed and
like a man. Doesnt know how else to
deal.
Take a little bit of time by yourselves..
Recollect.. Then approach him about it
while the babys sleeping so u have no
interuptions. Tell him u dont appreciate
how he reacted to what you said earlier,
and also tell him you're sorry if he took
anything u said the wrong way, since none
of it was meant to be rude.
Sounds like you guys need a dinner away..
U just gotta get around the hurdles before
hand.
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Eyes Wide Shut
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 7892 Location: *UPTOWN*NEW ORLEANS*, La
Posted: 09-23-06 13:51pm
I agree. I think the anxiety that you
*both* are having with leaving the baby,
came out.
Trust me, me and .Baron had our bouts when
.Oni was born and fresh in our lives.
It's not uncommon for him and even you to
get snappy at times.
Yall should *all* take a nap and start
over!!!! That's what i'm going do **right
now**
sarah
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Sandbox Party
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 7276
Posted: 09-23-06 14:00pm
babymajic0506
wrote:
it's not uncommon for him
and even you to get snappy at times.
Sarah
