HcoBrunette06
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Spanking
Posted: 09-28-06 13:33pm
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Well here, maybe this'll be controversal
(haha I dunno how to spell and the spell
check on my computer doesn't work, sorry)
but I hope not.
I saw this on tv, mamas talking about
spanking their kids, and some saying it's
abuse.
What do you think about spanking your
kids?
Do you think it's abuse if someone spanks
their kid on the butt?
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Emma2
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Posted: 09-28-06 13:35pm
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I dont agree with spanking on the face
.....I do believe a good spanking on the
butt when neccesary ......
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 09-28-06 13:39pm
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Maybe a pop or swat on the little tushie
is ok....But not like my dad did to me and
hit me 5-10 times really hard and by the
third shot it could be my back, bum, or
legs he didnt' really care. But I don't
really want to think about spanking my
little skoot right now so we shall see
when she gets that old. But I do know
that I won't drill holes into a fish board
so that I can swing it faster like my did
did.
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Posted: 09-28-06 13:42pm
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| sunflower_pie81
wrote: | | maybe a pop or swat on the
little tushie is ok....But not like my dad
did to me and hit me 5-10 times really
hard and by the third shot it could be my
back, bum, or legs he didnt' really care.
But I don't really want to think about
spanking my little skoot right now so we
shall see when she gets that old. But I
do know that I won't drill holes into a
fish board so that I can swing it faster
like my did did. |
wow thats messed up.I think spanking is ok
but hitting any otehr place is not a good
thing.It will just make your children
scared of you and then resent you.My aunt
has never once hit her kids and they are
fine
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JUNGLE JUICE
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Dad Is a Thug
Posted: 09-28-06 13:50pm
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| sunflower_pie81
wrote: | | maybe a pop or swat on the
little tushie is ok....But not like my dad
did to me and hit me 5-10 times really
hard and by the third shot it could be my
back, bum, or legs he didnt' really care.
But I don't really want to think about
spanking my little skoot right now so we
shall see when she gets that old. But I
do know that I won't drill holes into a
fish board so that I can swing it faster
like my did did. |
your dad channeled his
agression into hitting you didnt he?
He was out of order.Sorry 4 u.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 09-28-06 13:52pm
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Wowthatsreally messed up.
I agreewith you all. My mom and grandma
used to spank me with a spatchula lol or a
yard stick, or they had this thick board
they used. Or a belt... Lol I agree
with spanking on the bottom but anywhere
else no way.
Last edited by HcoBrunette06 on 09-28-06 13:53pm; edited 1 time in total
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inezrina
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Posted: 09-28-06 13:52pm
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Wow I can't believe u all think spanking
is ok! Forget the abuse thing for a
second I just think it is an unhealthy way
of dealing with a problem or situation.
There are so many other ways to punish a
child for example taking away a toy. And
honestly I believe most of the time
talking frankly with a child about what
they have done is enough punishment kids
don't want to do wrong and once they
realize they have done something wrong
they feel remorse and gulit which are
normal feelings. Also it seems to me
that spanking can easily get out of
control. When a parent is spanking a
child they can be letting their anger out
physically on their child. And sometimes
it is hard to tell am I spanking my child
repeatedly and hard because I am angry
they wrote on the wall or am I also taking
out anger about my bad day on them too.
Also I wonder how spanking affects a
childs relationship with their parents...
It is a confusing relationship their is
authority but also love and acceptance and
sometimes fear.
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Posted: 09-28-06 13:56pm
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I believe in spanking totally! Like emma
said, not on the face, unless they cuss.
When I was growing up, I got popped in the
mouth, the head, whatever just to let me
know what I said was out of line.
My mom didn't believe in it, so it was
left to my dad. He didn't get out of
control though. It was *alwaysa8 3 hits
with a belt.
I, therefore, didn't act out as a child.
Now I would never spank a child under 1
year old. That's just abuse. I would
wait to spank until my child *knows* that
what she's doing is wrong...
Call me a child beater...But this is just
my opinion!
Sarah
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MorissaW
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Posted: 09-28-06 13:57pm
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I spank. I do not all out beat the mess
out of my kid but she gets a good swat to
get her to realize what she did was wring.
9 times out of 10 I talk to her about
what she did wrong and if she does it
again then she gets spanked.
Spanking now a days is a lot different
than it was when I was a kid and really
when my mom was a kid my parents hit us
with switches and belts. If you do that
these days you are goign to jail!
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:03pm
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| inezrina
wrote: | | wow I can't believe u all
think spanking is ok! Forget the abuse
thing for a second I just think it is an
unhealthy way of dealing with a problem or
situation. There are so many other ways
to punish a child for example taking away
a toy. And honestly I believe most of
the time talking frankly with a child
about what they have done is enough
punishment kids don't want to do wrong and
once they realize they have done something
wrong they feel remorse and gulit which
are normal feelings. Also it seems to
me that spanking can easily get out of
control. When a parent is spanking a
child they can be letting their anger out
physically on their child. And
sometimes it is hard to tell am I spanking
my child repeatedly and hard because I am
angry they wrote on the wall or am I also
taking out anger about my bad day on them
too. Also I wonder how spanking affects
a childs relationship with their
parents... It is a confusing
relationship their is authority but also
love and acceptance and sometimes
fear. |
i would only spank until the age of 2 or
3ish, and only if absolutely necessary. I
would try eveyrthing else first, and if
that doesnt work, I would, but not hard.
It has nothing to do with taking me anger
out on them.
There are situations where you need to.
If a two year old is about to touch a hot
stove, a slap on the wrist or bum to
gently scare them is necessary. You cant
"talk a 2 year old out of" touching a hot
stove, because they are extremely curious.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:03pm
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I dont' agree with spanking. But I do
beleave a sharp swat on the butt will get
the point accross. I think that a sharp
little sting will help the child get the
point, but beating my child with an object
isn't right.
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:03pm
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I was spanked as a child. But my father
would always spank me when he was angry,
and ultimately ended up hitting me harder
than was necessary. Aaron's father would
wait until bedtime to spank him, because
by then he was calm.
I'm not sure where I stand on spanking.
The thought of spanking .Aly makes me
nauseous, but I don't know. It's way too
early to even think about it right now. I
think honestly, I might only spank her if
she were doing something dangerous, like
reaching for a hot stove or running into
the street without looking. But i'm going
to try time-out for naughty behavior. I
just hope time-out works on her, because
it doesn't work on some children.
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:14pm
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Everyone has a different style of
parenting. I don't think .I'll ever be
able to spank my children (easy to say
now, eh?). Chris thinks its the perfect
way to punish your kids, .I say no way.
He will never lay a hand on our kids,
&neither will .I. I think it depends
on how you raised. If you were spanked as
a child, chances are, you'll spank too! I
don't think there's a real problem with it
if it's just one swift smack on the bum.
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:17pm
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I think spanking is okay as long as its
not actually physically harmful, and is
only to discipline. People have to
remember to not spank their kids out of
pure anger. My dad used to calm himself
down before he'd spank us, so that he'd
just do it to sting a little and make us
cry, not hurt us. I only got spanked a
couple of times , one for putting clothes
in the toy box instead of my dresser, and
another time because I crossed the street
when I was told not to. He had a board
that was about 2 feet long and 2 inches
thick with holes in the end. He used it
on my sister once, and that scared me
enough to behave. Me and my sister
burnt it eventually. Dad never did find
out where that paddle was. Hee hee.
Edited to add this...I hope that I can
have the kind of relationship with my
babies that they can just talk to me about
what they did and not have to swat them at
all. Hopefully I can teach them early
on. I know they'll do bad things and try
my patience but, hopefully they'll feel
like they can talk to me and learn that
way. All my parents really had to say to
me was that they were disappointed by my
actions and that did it. No hitting
involved.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:20pm
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| ayamiyaki
wrote: | | the thought of spanking
.Aly makes me nauseous, but I don't know.
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that is why I said that I couldn't think
about spanking .Melia.
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inezrina
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:22pm
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I am sorry I totally agree sometimes u
have to push a child out of the way or
sometimes u might grab them to keep them
from getting hurt. If my kid was heading
towrds the hot sove I would grab him or
his hand but not spank him. And honestly
how can u say that just a little sting
enough to make a child cry is not hurting
them.
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:23pm
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I don't disagree with spanking but only as
an absoloute last resort and then only in
the case of the child endangering
themselves.
I beleive that there are other ways to
discipline a child and I also find that
telling a child what to do rather than
asking the child is a sure way of
confrontation between parent and child.
Also if you do find the need to spank it
should always be followed with a calm
explanaition of why you felt the need to
spank and the consequences that could have
come from said behaviour but mostly that
you love them just not the way they were
behaving.
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:26pm
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| sunflower_pie81
wrote: | | ayamiyaki
wrote: | | the thought of spanking
.Aly makes me nauseous, but I don't know.
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that is why I said that I couldn't think
about spanking
.Melia. |
we're so alike, .Gen. Just a couple of
wimps, that's us! 
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:30pm
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| ayamiyaki
wrote: | | sunflower_pie81
wrote: | | ayamiyaki
wrote: | | the thought of spanking
.Aly makes me nauseous, but I don't know.
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that is why I said that I couldn't think
about spanking
.Melia. |
we're so alike, .Gen. Just a couple of
wimps, that's us! |
that we are, wimps!!!
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Posted: 09-28-06 14:43pm
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Of course when they are little babies you
wouldnt dream of it but wait until they
get older and you'll wanna pull your hair
out because they are out of control...Im
not saying that in a rude way...Im just
saying all kids misbehave at some
point...And all parents get extremely
frustrated
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