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My Bro Is Screwed Posted: 09-30-06 21:08pm
Well my bro and I had a chat tonight, him
and his girlfriend have hit a wall, his
girlfriend wants to get married to him
asap and he doesnt as he isnt mature
enough, well he still lives at home,goes
to school and works part time.
The thing is I have this odd feeling his
girlfriend might be pregnant cause she has
been all god loving lately and she has
been saying she wants to get married
before the end of the year. She is a
nice girl and I told my brother to
compromise with her maybe get engaged
first and then get married, do you think
this girl is trying to pull a fast one on
him"?
I told my brother to talk to her and
mention the real facts of life, like they
should have a full time job and a place to
live as being married and living with mom
and dad is kinda low(depending on the
sitiuation.)
personally I am hard on my family, I
believe if you an adult and can get
pregnant or be married you should have the
finances available as well as a place to
live. I told him to ask her if her
parents were paying for the wedding or
not, what will happen if shes pregnant.
My brother is 18 and his girlfriend jsut
turned 18, my brother just started college
this year for social sciences and she is
getting her last credit at adult ed as she
was home schooled need some advice!
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ANGELOS MAMA
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Posted: 09-30-06 22:00pm
Probably she is pregnant.
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Cambion
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Posted: 10-01-06 00:27am
If he's mature enough to risk knocking the
girl up before he heads off to college,
then he should be mature enough to handle
the consequences of his actions. If he
can't, then he can give the child away -
just because they're going to be married
doesn't mean they need to keep a child
they may not be able to support or have
the time to properly care for (not saying
this is the case, but if both parents are
in college, they won't have all the time
in the world for junior/princess).
He graduated high school, so he must have
some kind of a mind. Tell him to use it.
How will your parents feel about a baby
being in the house? How will your brother
feel working full time to support his
child? That is, if he doesn't mooch money
off his parents. I would advise you to
simply have him think about how life will
be with a baby - make him babysit some
infants if need be. Remind it's not all
kodak moments. No need to talk him out of
being a father, but make sure he knows
it's no bowl of cherries.
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arcadia
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Posted: 10-01-06 03:49am
Traditionally, the parents of the bride
&groom help with the cost of the
wedding.
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Posted: 10-01-06 07:52am
How long have they been together? I
personally think 18 is a bit on the young
side for marriage, but if they've been
together long enough to know they're
suited for each other then maybe it will
be a successful union. I was in a serious
relationship with a guy starting just
before my senior year of high school, and
we've been together for 8 1/2 years now.
But we waited until we were 23 and 25
before finally getting married, because we
wanted to really take our time and make
sure we really wanted this.
As far as a possible pregnancy, I would be
very worried if she were trying to get him
to marry her without telling him she was.
Marriage is based on communication,
honesty, and trust. It's not a great idea
to start things off with keeping secrets.
I would flat-out ask her if she was if I
were you, and tell her your brother
deserves the truth before he decides to
commit himself to her.
For their sake, I hope she isn't pregnant.
I hope your brother can finish college
without the worries of being a young
father. It would be nice if he had solid
ground under his feet before starting a
family, but either way, I wish him and his
girlfriend the best and hope they find
their way through this situation.
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Jules
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Posted: 10-01-06 10:41am
Perhaps she isn't pregnant yet but wants
to be? She could be testing the water to
see if your brother will commit to her
because she is getting broody.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 10-01-06 19:14pm
I dont know gals, my brother has been with
her for 8 months, now because I got
married to abel after being with him for a
year and some she thinks my brother is the
same im assuming.
Second off, my family isnt very
traditional, they paid 85% of my wedding,
my brother is ready for marriage but would
be willing to compromise 50/50.
Purest, that is what im wondering if she
is testing the waters I hope not cause its
not funny, plus I told someone at work I
felt someone close was pregnant and we
both agree we think something is going and
my bro wont say yes or no. Oh well im
not the one suffering but mom and dad
expect so much of him, they think im a
screw up, which is unny cause I make more
money than they do but they think he will
be the next primeminister lol!
