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Becky
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Is This a Valid Reason to Abort?
Posted: 10-01-06 11:31am
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My (not so close) friend confessed to me
that she is nearly 18 weeks pregnant but
doesn't know who the father is. Her
boyfriend is black but she cheated on him
with a white guy.
She is now scared that the white guy is
the father and the baby will be born white
(she is white also)
she was very happy initally to be pregnant
and wanted a baby (her boyfriend and her
were trying) she come off birth control to
try for a baby with her boyfriend and
didn't use a condom with the one night
stand 
she is now saying that she is going to get
an abortion as she is scared that the baby
will come out pure white. She
.R.E.A.L.L.Y wants a baby and is upset at
wanting to have an abortion but she said
that she can just have another.
I think her reasoning is wrong and she
will regret this. What do you think?
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Carifairy
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Posted: 10-01-06 12:06pm
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The truth is that any reasons that is good
enough for the woman, is good enough to
have an abortion.
Even though you may not agree, it is not
up to you as a friend to necessarily
agree... We do not know her inner
feelings, and what she is going through.
Yes, she technically can have another baby
later.
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Becky
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Posted: 10-01-06 12:26pm
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I know this but it is the way she is
saying that she really does want this baby
and has picked out names/bought clothes
etc already.
She has already bought a push chair too.
This to me isn't someone who truly wants
an abortion... She goes on about the baby
kicking all the time,
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Jules
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Posted: 10-01-06 13:21pm
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It does seem a bit twisted to be buying a
pushchair one minute and then talking
about abortion the next.
How long has she known she is pregnant?
I think she's leaving it a bit late,
personally.
Maybe she is just attention seeking?
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Carifairy
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Posted: 10-01-06 14:48pm
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She may in fact want a baby, but he
doesn't want a 'white' baby because it
would be obvious that she cheated.
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Posted: 10-01-06 15:02pm
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Yeah, its pathetic that she would abort
just because its a "white" baby.
Maybe she should learn to use protection,
especially with a one night stand, what a
promiscuous person . What if he had
aids? Then what? fool.
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cherry88
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Posted: 10-01-06 15:39pm
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Gotta say beck, your mate is only thinking
about herself. She cant keep chopping
and changing her mind. Shes obviously
confused and needs to decide soon, or seek
professional help. None of us can decide
for her. Its her life, so she needs to
live it.
Last edited by cherry88 on 10-02-06 07:05am; edited 1 time in total
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Posted: 10-01-06 17:27pm
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| stillherelosers
wrote: | | nataliachick7
wrote: | | maybe she should learn to
use protection, especially with a one
night stand, what a promiscuous person
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you really shouldn't take about the night
of your conception that way, cunt. |
commit suicide.
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Posted: 10-01-06 20:39pm
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At 18 weeks, she would need a lot of
money, time to travel, and to find a
doctor willing to perform the abortion.
She is fast running out of time for that
to even be an option at all.
They can do prenatal paternity tests if
she is so inclined. However, I think it
may already be too late for her to seek an
abortion anyway so she might as well suck
it up, tell her boyfriend what happened
and that she doubts he is the father. I
don't see any other way for her.
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Meandering Away
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Posted: 10-02-06 03:15am
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| cherry88
wrote: | | gotta say beck, your mate is
only thinking about herself. She cant
keep chopping and changing her mind.
Shes obviously confused and needs to
decide soon, or seek professional help.
None of us can decide for her. Its her
life, so she needs to live it. And as
for this whole ''white baby'' shite- well
im gonna leave that alone. Cause thats
the most bollocks ive probibly heard in
my life. Whats she scared of? Shes
white! |
can you read fool, she has a black
boyfriend, did you actually learn anything
at your special school, black father,
white mother = mixed race child.White
father, white mother = white child, damn
these illiterate children the education
system must of gone bad since my kids were
at school.
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cherry88
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Posted: 10-02-06 07:04am
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| cowboys
wrote: | | cherry88
wrote: | | gotta say beck, your mate is
only thinking about herself. She cant
keep chopping and changing her mind.
Shes obviously confused and needs to
decide soon, or seek professional help.
None of us can decide for her. Its
her life, so she needs to live it. And
as for this whole ''white baby'' shite- well
im gonna leave that alone. Cause thats
the most bollocks ive probibly heard in
my life. Whats she scared of? Shes
white! |
can you read fool, she has a black
boyfriend, did you actually learn anything
at your special school, black father,
white mother = mixed race child.White
father, white mother = white child, damn
these illiterate children the education
system must of gone bad since my kids were
at school. |
get out of here sicko. Considering your
70 years old your kidsn went to school a
loooonnnnng time ago.
So I mis-sread so what.
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Meandering Away
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Posted: 10-02-06 07:44am
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| cherry88
wrote: | | cowboys
wrote: | | cherry88
wrote: | | gotta say beck, your mate is
only thinking about herself. She cant
keep chopping and changing her mind.
Shes obviously confused and needs to
decide soon, or seek professional help.
None of us can decide for her. Its
her life, so she needs to live it.
And as for this whole ''white baby''
shite- well im gonna leave that
alone. Cause thats the most bollocks
ive probibly heard in my life. Whats
she scared of? Shes white! |
can you read fool, she has a black
boyfriend, did you actually learn anything
at your special school, black father,
white mother = mixed race child.White
father, white mother = white child, damn
these illiterate children the education
system must of gone bad since my kids were
at school. |
get out of here sicko. Considering your
70 years old your kidsn went to school a
loooonnnnng time ago.
So I mis-sread so
what. |
then are you not just as illiterate as
those you attack [ which is all you do ].
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Posted: 10-02-06 09:45am
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I can't believe what i'm reading. Someone
has come on here asking for help and
advice, and these are the replys she
gets?
'can you read fool'??? Not very friendly
if you ask me
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cherry88
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Posted: 10-02-06 10:10am
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| anna_belle
wrote: | i can't believe what i'm
reading. Someone has come on here asking
for help and advice, and these are the
replys she gets?
'can you read fool'??? Not very friendly
if you ask me |
exactly. You cant escape the anti-women
pro-lifers. Theyre everywhere like a
fucking virus. Just ignore
him. He will go away.
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Posted: 10-02-06 10:16am
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| cherry88
wrote: | | anna_belle
wrote: | i can't believe what i'm
reading. Someone has come on here
asking for help and advice, and these are
the replys she gets?
'can you read fool'??? Not very
friendly if you ask me |
exactly. You cant escape the anti-women
pro-lifers. Theyre everywhere like a
fucking virus. Just ignore
him. He will go
away. |
just pass the blame and don't blame me ehh
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Posted: 10-02-06 10:24am
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| cherry88
wrote: | | anna_belle
wrote: | i can't believe what i'm
reading. Someone has come on here
asking for help and advice, and these are
the replys she gets?
'can you read fool'??? Not very
friendly if you ask me |
exactly. You cant escape the anti-women
pro-lifers. Theyre everywhere like a
fucking virus. Just ignore
him. He will go
away. |
i would say your anti-rights
pro-life has just as much right here as we
do
second off we dont agree with their views
vice versa get used to it, they have a
right to an opinion as we do so if your
pro-choice then support their choose to
think that way..
I left a post regarding this in the
abortion debate beck
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cherry88
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Posted: 10-02-06 10:28am
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At the end of the day if your not
pro-choice then leave.
Diamond I am not anti-rights I do agree
with some pro-life things. But not many.
Just cause I dont write that I agree with
them doesnt mean I dont.
In fact I dont really write much cause
when I do, it gets turned into a massive
slagging match started by pro-lifers like
cowboys and diamond splinter.
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Posted: 10-02-06 10:34am
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| cherry88
wrote: | at the end of the day if
your not pro-choice then leave.
Diamond I am not anti-rights I do agree
with some pro-life things. But not many.
Just cause I dont write that I agree
with them doesnt mean I dont.
In fact I dont really write much cause
when I do, it gets turned into a massive
slagging match started by pro-lifers like
cowboys and diamond
splinter. |
why should they leave when they have
rights as well, you need to understand
that even if you think you are right
they/you will need to learn that but dont
worry it comes with time, everday I learn
something new.
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cherry88
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Posted: 10-02-06 10:37am
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| diamondsz
wrote: | | cherry88
wrote: | at the end of the day if
your not pro-choice then leave.
Diamond I am not anti-rights I do agree
with some pro-life things. But not
many. Just cause I dont write that I
agree with them doesnt mean I dont.
In fact I dont really write much cause
when I do, it gets turned into a massive
slagging match started by pro-lifers like
cowboys and diamond
splinter. |
why should they leave when they have
rights as well, you need to understand
that even if you think you are right
they/you will need to learn that but dont
worry it comes with time, everday I learn
something new. |
this is an abortion support forum. So its
not me who needs to learn anything. If
your not offering support then as tazzy
has said before to those two many times
nicely. Leave. They know it. I know it.
Now you know it 
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Posted: 10-02-06 10:38am
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I don't see why pro-lifers should have to
'leave' this board. As long as they are
not being argumentative and imflammatory
then I think their opinions and advice is
just as useful as a pro-choicer's (to whom
the same rules apply). Obviously, if
someone is writing to say they are certain
they want an abortion and want to know
about procedures and stuff then it would
be inappropraite for a pro-lifer to tell
that person that they are evil and wrong
etc.
However, if someone wants advice about
what to do in their circumstances of, for
example, an unwanted pregnancy, then a
pro-lifer has as much right as a
pro-choicer to respond on this board.
Everyone just needs to respect each
other's opinions, not stoop to childish
name-calling and most of all, be
supportive and helpful to the original
poster.
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