I suffer from the blues on and off. I've
recently got over post-natal depression
thanks to prozac, but the feelings still
come and go. I know when i'm getting down
as I wake up in the night frightened about
myself dying or my children. I sometimes
have late-night discussions with my
husband about the meaning of life and what
happens after we die. My main concern is
that I will be alone and not see my loved
ones again. The next day when I wake up
with puffy eyes I feel really stupid and
pathetic. This has happened since I was a
kid and it gets worse as i've got three
young children now. Am I the only one who
worries about dying and where we go
afterwards?
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 01-26-04 08:29am
Although I have always believed in god,
reincarnation & an after life - I do
have an idea of what you mean, when I
became a mother (almost 15 years ago)
& since the fear of death (of
deserting my children really) has often
caused me to be depressed.
I don't belong to a specific faith, I
don't think we need to, what we need &
for me at any rate, what god intends is
for us all to be unique & find the
beliefs that are "right" for us. Look at
the trees, the beauty of nature & the
faces of your children, you don't need a
manmade building of any sort to pray in
when you have these god made miracles.
I am not trying to convert you, I am
totally opposed to that, but it is the
only thing I can think to say that might
help you.
Much love
cheri
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Guest
Guest
Me to Posted: 01-26-04 09:31am
I worry about death constantly!!!
There's many times I can't sleep becuse of
it.
I have terrible dreams and sometimes their
have been parts of them that
have come true and that really freaks me
out!!!
I had one recently about my husband and
what I did becuse I couldn't live without
him.The dream was so vivid and real I
can't even tell him about it
cause I get too upset.
I have had dreams like this for a long
long time.
I worry alot about my brother and I have
lots of dreams about him.
Ussally I wake up crying and alot iam
hysterical,very upset.
I don't want to die or leave my family or
the oyher way.I don't handle it well.
I do believe in heaven.
And than sometimes I wonder.
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 01-26-04 09:41am
Chez,
i too suffer the same. I'm starting to
think every mother does. I worry that my
children will not be here the next day,
and find myself always checking on them to
make sure they are still "here". Then I
worry about leaving them, them not truely
knowing me. I just wish that I could be
assured that we will be together for a
long period of time...If not forever. I
wonder how my husband would feel if I
died. Sometimes I can't bear to think
about it, but do anyway. But then I
realize that I have to live for "now",
because tomorrow may not come. I hope we
can get over this.
Jennifer
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chez1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2004 Posts: 8 Location: UK
Thank You All For Your Help! Posted: 01-26-04 11:15am
Thank you all for replying to my e-mail.
I think that many people want to talk
about death and the afterlife but it is
not a subject spoken about. I do believe
in angels and I hope that they will give
me some answers someday. With love, chez
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erlindad
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2004 Posts: 1
Scared of Dying Posted: 01-26-04 11:57am
I too am afraid of dying, wondering if it
will hurt, how does it really feel when
you dye. I have lost my mother and
father, and that was really hard for me.
And now I am so scared of losing my
husband and sons, and grandkids I don't
know how I would handle this, it is
something so hard to go thru.
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autumn24
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2004 Posts: 39 Location: new brunswick
No Longer Afraid Posted: 01-26-04 14:52pm
I guess you look at death differently when
you are faced with health problems, (which
I have many of), I know that I will die
and in the begining I use to cry all the
time because I thought it was so unfair
that I have to deal with everything and
have to fear dying because it's not a what
if for me it's a it will happen. I've
watched my mother suffer for the past
three years and know that if the cancer
doesn't get me this will. I've come to
realize that everyone dies and we have no
control over that, why spend time scared
of something when you are alive now, you
have this day and tomorrow will take care
of itself.
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jojolous
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2003 Posts: 6 Location: san antonio texas
Posted: 01-30-04 05:27am
Hi chez well I too go in to a depression
when I think about death I mean I dont
understand it and I dont know where we go
I mean I think about being put in the
ground and I think about how my kids would
suffer losing there mother and I tend to
think that I made a mistake bringing them
into this world I gave them a birth day
and a death day if I knew what I know now
I prolly would of never had kids just to
spare them the pain... But anyways I
wanted to let you know that you are not
alone its a very depressing issue that we
all will go through hopefully the
transiton isnt so bad.
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kimmyh51
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2005 Posts: 2 Location: NZ
Posted: 07-25-05 07:15am
I too worry about dying and wonder about
anyone who doesnt.
Im not scared of the pain of death
anywhere near as much as I am scared of
the inevititability of death - the
complete end of life as we know it and the
loss of everything we ever value as part
of that
my fear is that death is the end and that
there is nothing else to follow.
The complete and utter certainty that I
will grow old then die haunts me and has
since I was a child - went through a phase
where I couldnt sleep because of it
how do some people just live their lives
with no thought to this? We are all going
to die and its so totally utterly final -
how come we are not all complete freaks
thinking about it????
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Brian the Dog
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Aug 2005 Posts: 2
Posted: 08-04-05 00:21am
I'm not scared of dying, i'm scared of the
process of dying regarding pain. I
know what is awaiting after life.
Anyone who is scared need not be. If
you do some research and read the bible,
it is all made clear. Have a little
faith, give your life to jesus christ and
you'll be fine. I was scared before I
walked the right path, now that i'm on it
and know what the score is there is
nothing to fear.
Jesus is with you always, just pray and
open your heart to him.
Great things await us in the after life...
But you have to admit jesus christ is
the son of god. If you do not believe
this you're eternity will be dark.
Don't take my word for it, again read the
bible. God's personal letter to us.
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weird
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jun 2005 Posts: 57 Location: conway sc
Yeah Me Too Posted: 08-04-05 11:31am
Iv been worrying about it to its scares me
when I wake up I think about it and it
eats me up inside untill I dont know what
to do its like im getting older now and I
think about how much more longer do I got
plus I have anxiety and depression and I
dont wanna die like this you know I wanna
do something with my life and live it
happey and not worry about it constantly
but I do and it sucks so yeah I think
about it to your not alone ...
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ladyspeedstick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Aug 2005 Posts: 1
I Have It Too Posted: 08-06-05 15:31pm
In some sort of weird way I kinda glad to
read that I am not the only one with this
problem. I have been thinking about dying
every day since 2 years now. I remember
very clearly, I was walking my dog and it
suddenly hit me that someday that I was
going to die.
It was very weird and since that day I
have never stopped thinking about it. I
too am scared of the thought of not
existing. I sometimes forget about it and
then it just hits me right in the face.
On the outside nobody knows that I suffer
from anxiety attacks, my mom thinks i'm
being stupid so I am really glad I can
write it down here.
I just want to live my life like before,
when I didn't think about it. I don't
wanna think about it and just be like
everyone else...
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crazygal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 5
Yeah, I Definately Need Some Talkin To! Posted: 08-12-05 12:45pm
Okay i've read the posts and it makes me
feel better to know i'm not the only one
who thinks about this... I think about it
constantly though... I mean there are
very few days that it doesn't pop into my
mind... And it starts really messing with
me... Like it will make me have bad
anxiety and i'm only 20!! I know where
i'm going when I die... It has nothing to
do with the "fear of actually dying"...
My dream is to make a life for myself and
have a family one day, kids,
career,home,dog... Ya know, just the
works... Thats all i'm living for....
I've seen young people go in my time, and
I know god has a plan for me... But for
some reason, i'm scared his plan won't be
for me to grow old and see my kids have
kids... I don't have kids yet... And
honestly i'm in no hurry to right away...
In a couple of years or so.... But I
don't know... I worry about everything...
Sure.. I'll welcome death too when i'm
old and gray and i've lived my life ya
know.. I don't know why I stress about it
cause I know theres nothing I can do to
alter god's plan... But i'm always
thinking something is wrong with me, like
I have cancer or i'm going to choke, or I
get dizzy so I think i'm bout to pass out
and die or something... Any advice would
greatly be appreciated!! P.S. The reason
for this post even is cause I was just
having an "anxiety" attack I suppose...
Cause I was shaking, lightheaded,and
dizzy..... So I looked fear of dying up
on the internet
thanks!!!
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xandibits
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: paris
Yah Your Not Alone Posted: 08-13-05 01:37am
I know how it feels, it take me years to
finally deal with it but sometimes I cant
help it but to worry and in the end when
my imagination runs! Men! My head hurts
really bad.. Mine started when I was
about to go to school and the suddenly a
crazy question pop in to my head "what if
this is your last day" at that moment I
can tell I you I had chills and then fear
came, the whole day im thinking of it and
sometimes I feel that it is hard for me to
concentrate which is very unusal to me..
Last year i've decided to talk to a
counselor, because I feel like giving
up..But my friends know about it, and they
keep on supporting me which I guess help
me..But I cant deny it the fear is still
there.. But what the !@#^! Life is
beautiful!! And I won't those crazy
thoughts manipulate me.. I know our mind
are very powerful, but hey I dont want to
be miserable for life and it can lead me
to a branch of complicated disease which I
dont want to happen!..
Whenever I feel my attacks, i'l just get
my pad and pencil and then draw or a pen
and paper and then write the things inside
my head.. And viola! Im okay atleast and
then il talk to my friends about our
adventuresa and all those stuff... You'll
just have to deal with it and fight that
battle on anxiety!.. Im not saying that
im completely over it I still have those
but c'mon im not born to be anxious for
the rest of my life.. :d
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xandibits
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: paris
Yah Your Not Alone Posted: 08-13-05 01:39am
I know how it feels, it take me years to
finally deal with it but sometimes I cant
help it but to worry and in the end when
my imagination runs! Men! My head hurts
really bad.. Mine started when I was
about to go to school and the suddenly a
crazy question pop in to my head "what if
this is your last day" at that moment I
can tell I you I had chills and then fear
came, the whole day im thinking of it and
sometimes I feel that it is hard for me to
concentrate which is very unusal to me..
Last year i've decided to talk to a
counselor, because I feel like giving
up..But my friends know about it, and they
keep on supporting me which I guess help
me..But I cant deny it the fear is still
there.. But what the !@#^! Life is
beautiful!! And I won't those crazy
thoughts manipulate me.. I know our mind
are very powerful, but hey I dont want to
be miserable for life and it can lead me
to a branch of complicated disease which I
dont want to happen!..
Whenever I feel my attacks, i'l just get
my pad and pencil and then draw or a pen
and paper and then write the things inside
my head.. And viola! Im okay atleast and
then il talk to my friends about our
adventuresa and all those stuff... You'll
just have to deal with it and fight that
battle on anxiety!.. Im not saying that
im completely over it I still have those
but c'mon im not born to be anxious for
the rest of my life.. :d
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Hightension24
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2005 Posts: 65 Location: Houston
Posted: 08-13-05 07:30am
I do that every night but it's more
hysterical laughter and insane thoughts
than depression. If you are of higher
intellect and ever get manic it seems like
you are having a million thoughs a second
and that you might actually figure
something out no one else has. It's a
design, it's a curse, we'll be
reincarnated into dolphins or trees, blah
blah blah. Fate and pre-destination,
does it even matter what we do? What if
you have no control over what you
do(design and fate). Is god dead and are
we on a runaway train of stuff I am
agnostic but I highly doubt that a god?
Cares about sophisticated monkeys who like
guns and mcdonalds. What's everything to
one person but nothing to anyone else.
Your mind! Meditation helps a lot of
people but I haven't done that.
Exercising a few hours before bed will get
your endorphins pumping and then bring on
a great wave of calm. If not, maybe take
something like xanax or klonopin so that
you'll relax and not have so many thoughts
of doom, panic and what happens when we
die.
"every living creature on earth dies
alone." - donnie darko
"people say that you'll die faster than
without water but we know it's just a lie,
scare your son, scare your daughter." -
the arcade fire
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Toiles
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 154 Location: Regina Saskatchewan
Posted: 08-14-05 14:03pm
I have always been a little scarred about
dieing, but not enough to really bother me
about it. We all have to die some time
and the sooner you face the fact the soon
you will forget about it. Dont let
something like this stop you from enjoying
life.
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Kansas
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2005 Posts: 93
Posted: 08-14-05 18:29pm
Wow. I am new here but I have been
suffering depression on and off for many
years. When I saw this topic I was in
shock because I have been having fears of
death lately. I was doing well and
depression free for a while untill this
summer. I had two very close family
members die here recently and I have had a
hard time dealing with it. Also, this
summer I have been pretty sick the whole
time, in and out of the hospital and
emergency room. First it was my
gallbladder and it got removed but I was
still having pain. The next thing they
did was a scope and found and ulcer caused
by h pylori. They also thought that I
might have this rare syndrome that is
fatel and I had to wait on the results for
about two weeks. During that whole time
I thought I was going to die. Luckly I
dont have this syndrome but it was sure
scary. I am still feeling sick all the
time and I am constantly thinking I have
something that is going to kill me. The
docs keep telling me to relax because it
is preventing my ulcer from healing but
thats easier said than done.
Anyway, that is my reason for being
scared. I am a christian and I do
believe in god and jesus. The thing I
fear is if there is really a heaven or
just nothing. I know I am just supposed
to believe and I also know there is
nothing I can do about it, but is scares
me so much. The thing that bugs me is
that we have no proof that there is a
heaven because no one has been there and
came back besides jesus. I read this one
website about near death experiances and
how these people believe they went to
heaven for a breif moment. The stories
sound neat and all but they are different
from one and other. That brings me to
the question that I thought we all went to
the same heaven, so how could it be
different for each person? I also went
and talked to a pastor which did help me a
little because I am not worrying
constantly now but it is still happening a
lot. I am just really glad to see that I
am not the only one suffering with these
thoughts. Maybe we could all be a
support for one and other.
Tia
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-14-05 23:19pm
I am also afraid of death, I am 23 and I
dont drive, I am terrified that the day I
drive im going to get in an accident and
die lol its crazy, im also afraid that if
I leave my daughter and go to work that if
im not there then something bad will
happen to her, it sucks, I always tyhink
the worst is going to happen and I have
always been like that, when I was little I
used to ask my mom every night before bed
if something bad was going to happen :lol:
I make myself sick with worry.
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Toiles
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 154 Location: Regina Saskatchewan
Posted: 08-16-05 18:39pm
I think everyone is scarred of dieing a
little bit. I mean I really dont care
that much but obviously ifyou think about
it. It is going to scare you a little
bit. Its normal. The best thing to do is
just not too think about it. You are
still young so you dont have to worry
about stuff like that for a long time yet.
And when the time comes it wont be so bad
its your time to go. And you wont be
scarred anymore :d just try not to think
about it.
