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Hightension24
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2005 Posts: 65 Location: Houston
I'm Not Trying to Be Mean But... Posted: 09-03-05 22:08pm
Having kids is not a great thing. If you
and a million other stupid people decided
not to have kids guess what? There'd
still be overpopulation. If you feel
like your purpose is to have kids, every
cockroach and spider have done their duty.
People suck compared to bugs. But bugs
can have millions of babies. The fattest
women can only have 2 or 3, we suck. I
love lamp.
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Eternal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2005 Posts: 38
Posted: 09-05-05 13:28pm
It's easy to say "don't think about it"
but for me my fear of death is like a
voice saying to me "you will die soon, you
will die, and it will be the end of
everything, your entire existence, any
meaning, any love, you'll rot and be
forgotten". Sometimes I can even think of
death and have no anxiety at all, yet at
other times it terrifies me - I can handle
death when I am old and have lived my
life, but the fear of dying young (i'm 17)
terrifies me. Being young doesn't reduce
the fear of death for me, it just means
the probability of dying is lower. My
other great fear is damage to the brain
and it would be the only occasion where I
would rather die than live if I had severe
brain damage. Sometimes I have
inexplicable feelings of numbness in my
head and I wonder what is the cause, which
triggers such thoughts. I am starting to
recover from such outbursts of anxiety,
but I believe it will be an emotional
state of realisation rather than thinking
that there is no point worrying about it -
of course there's no point, and I think
everyone here who is anxious doesn't want
to think about it, but it's not something
that can easily escape the conscious mind.
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chepas
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: New Zealand
Posted: 10-12-05 19:11pm
I'm not afraid of dying. It might be
because i've lived around death most of my
life, most of my mother's family has
passed away already and i'm only 20 years
old. But I think it's mostly because I
think that death doesn't effect the person
who died all that much, but the people who
are left behind. That is where the real
loss is. I think that once i'm dead, i'm
gone forever. That doesn't scare me
because I will no longer exist and if you
don't exist then you cant be scared. It's
perfectly natural, it happens at all
stages of life and death makes life worth
living.
Just my thoughts, maybe if your thoughts
on death are effecting your life then you
should think about counciling?
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lonely_angel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 128 Location: missouri
Getting Old Posted: 10-12-05 22:34pm
I do worry about dying and things like
that. One of my biggest fears is getting
old. I think about it but not alot alot
though. I don't know why it is but I am
so scared of death and dying and gettin
old. I am only 15 but I get terrified
thinking about it though. It is like how
people are scared of spiders and things
like that mine is getting old. I know how
you feel though it also looks like alot of
other people do to...
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Re: Scared About Dying Posted: 10-13-05 07:25am
chez1
wrote:
am I the only one who
worries about dying and where we go
afterwards?
no your not. I do to my friend. We all
do. It's something scary to think
about... Where on earth do we go?
There's many solutions and theories but if
you believe that your spirit lives on in
another world, than that's what happens,
if you believe you come back as another
life form then you do so, etc.
Death is scary; I fear of losing loved
ones every since my nan died. It's a wake
up call to say that people as well as
yourself won't be around forever. It's a
feeling we all feel and what we will all
face. But I wouldn't worry. I can easily
say that, I know, but I think the more you
worry the more it becomes unbearable and
you will make yourself ill.
Keep well and smile. Xx
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ceecee83
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 1 Location: milton keynes
Posted: 10-14-05 21:42pm
:cry:
hi there,
i am new to this board. I just wanted to
say that I am glad i'm not the only one
who feels this way. I am married with 3
children, although I am nearly 23 and am
really scared about the thought that I
will no longer be around anymore, plus the
fact that I have a lovely hubby and 3
children under 5, one who is nearly 3
months old. I sometimes think to myself
to treat each day as if it was my last
because you just don't know what is around
the corner and we all know that at some
point it will happen.
It's only recently I have been feeling
like this as I lost a very good friend of
mine, and going to the funeral/burial
suddenly hit home that at some point I
will be heading that way too, to the point
where I cry about it.
Maybe when I am older it might not bother
me so much, but at the moment being part
of a young family I sometimes dread it.
As I said before although we are all in
the same boat we should just enjoy
whatever time we may have left, otherwise
when we get old we'll wonder why we wasted
so much of our younger years worrying
about it and thinking I wish I had enjoyed
my life a bit more.
Take care
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little Debbie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Georgia
Posted: 11-02-05 23:41pm
What you think about will expand into your
life. The only time I think about death
is when I have become depressed. I ask
god if I can come home! I believe death
is just losing the confines of our bodies.
We become one with god. Most people
feel alone and separate from each other.
We are all connected in spirit. So, if
one person is hurting,worried, hungry,or
lonely so do we.
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LeSigh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 10
Posted: 11-13-05 01:38am
Hi.
You all don't know how good it feels to
read this thread right now. I suffer from
panic attacks, anxiety and depression and
though I am on medication, I still often
feel alone; like the only one. Tonight I
started thinking about death and I too am
scared of dying and dying young. The real
fear is of being young and not fulfilling
hopes and goals that I want to achieve.
I'm afraid when the time comes I won't be
able to say goodbye to everyone I want to,
tell them I love them; get unfinished
business taken care of; and basically just
living a full life -and a healthy long
life. I mean, all my grandparents have
lived to be pretty old so I guess I have
that going for me but you never know.
Ever since I was a young kid I can
remember being scared of getting a serious
illness, cancer or something and dying
young. Then in high school a bunch of
kids from my class died or got serious
illnesses and a bunch. Like atleast 10
kids. I'd never known anyone personally
who died before. And that's when my
anxiety started getting worse thinking
'you could be next'. And then after high
school i'd hear about a kid I went to
school with died or had brain cancer or
something every once and a while and it
really freaks me out. And the worst part
is that thinking about this stuff makes
you feel sick, makes you an insomniac,
makes you have stomach problems, which
leads you to think more that you're sick
and dying, and people are like "stop being
a hypochondriac!" and the circle goes on
and on. The brain is a strange thing let
me tell ya. And don't get me started on
mental illness; that freaks me out to all
hell too- losing my mind.
Siiiiiiiiiiigh.
But yeah it does feel kinda better that
i'm not going through this alone. This
kinda "support" does help. It just sucks
when everyone in your real life around you
is 'normal' except you.
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popprincess
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 46
Posted: 11-23-05 11:02am
I am very scared of death aswell, I
constantly think of me or my fiance dying
and leaving the other behind, like if he
is late coming round, I imagine he has
been in a car crash!!
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
I Know... Posted: 12-05-05 09:39am
:shock: god i've had that scary thought
run through my mind. Like when my
boyfriend doesn't answer the phone!!!
It's like 'don't be silly' but then you
think 'well what if it has'?!?!?! :shock:
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Paddy78
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Dec 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Oxford
Fear of Death Posted: 12-12-05 13:29pm
Kinda new to this but very interested in
what people are saying, and to a certain
degree, finding it all useful.
However, can anyone tell answer the one
question that therapists, samaritans, and
just about everyone appears reluctant to
answer. If we're all going to end up, in
a box, in the ground, what's the point in
living? I've never really been prone to
this type of thinking until 2 years after
graduating from uni, and living with a
physical and learning disabilities, i'm
permanently unemployed, whilst all my able
bodied peers are sailing through life
without any problems.
I used to believe in god; even watching
that mel gibson film about jesus, and
believing all of it. But tell me, what
kind of god would allow people, like
myself, who lost their mum at age 3, and
despite trying their very hardest, never
achieve their full potential? I've never
done anyone any harm, I come from a
respectable irish family, and yet I am
plagued, almost on an hourly basis, with
thoughts that one day i'll be dead.
Surely, at 27, this is unhealthy, so is it
a way of grieving for people i've lost, or
am I likely to suffer like this for my
entire life. Would it be better to go
when i'm ready, and when I chose to,
rather than waiting for 'nature' to take
its course?
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 12-13-05 09:26am
Paddy, that question will never be
answered.
Because we are all different
individualists, so some people may beg to
differ on what we feel; some people, such
as your friends, sail off into the sunset
and apparently live happily ever after.
Whereas we are stuck in our little
problems. Little do you realise that
really when you think about it, we are all
achieveing something here. Your 27 right?
Good for you; you've got this far, are
trying to gain things even if they are for
now out of reach. I understand what you
said about your disabilities, but you have
got so far. You've been at uni, which I
hardly feel i'll achieve cause my
organisation is zelch.
But to answer your question, or rather
give an answer (and do with it what you
will), I think that if we never died and
weren't put in a 'box in the ground', we
would forever roam this earth, ever trying
to find somethng that would make us just a
little bit more powerful. And I feel that
if you have inner power, you can leave
when you want to, but sometimes it is best
to let 'nature take it's course'. You
were born into nature, so why die from
nature?
Kitty
:)
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Yeti
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Apr 2006 Posts: 1 Location: California
Hello I Am New Posted: 04-02-06 01:45am
Hi, I have been thinking about this topic
since I was 5 and my perents didn't know
what I was talking about and neither did
my friends and family. It felt sort of
like a curse, "how could nobody else think
like this." I am a male and have found
this type of thinking much more common in
women but I am somewhat pleased to see
this topic being discussed. I didn't read
every post but I mostly saw the same sort
of thing... We all feel the same way and
all have "depression" and "anxiety
dissorders". I am 22 now and I used to
just distract myself from the topic by
watching tv but 2 months ago I allowed
myself to really think about it and it has
sent me into a depression... With sever
panic attacks twice a week, but I keep
thinking about it. I am scared that
people will read these and be like, "great
more people feel the way I do but now
what?" so I would like to share some of my
thoughts over the past 2 months... Death
is very scary, so is eternity, lots of
things are, and they seem more important
than the every day stuff. I have been
watching everything more closly, talking
to local churches, studying science online
and ordered about a million books... (for
me is a miracle in itself.) sometimes I
blame my parents for not raising me with
religion or not helping to guide me
through life with regards to the subject
of death. But its not some people choose
not to talk about it and thats fine.
I am rambling on, it feels good to talk
about this, but I would like to let you
know what I have started thinking so that
it may allow you to start thinking about
this, but in a more productive more
possitive manner. Remember I am only 22 I
do not have the answers to your happiness,
(yet). :-d ok, yes death is scary and
just because everyone does it doesn't mean
its fun, you and I know this but nobody
else seems to right?
The japanese see suicide as a form of
respect a noble way to leave this earth,
and I am not suggesting suicide but I
think death may be a beutiful thing when
the time comes. Look at pictures of
yourself as a baby, where were you 20
years before that picture? You were not
born yet... At peace with everything and
you didn't exist, death is the same simply
on the other side. I bring this up
because this is the worst that could
happen although we cant imagine not being
able to feel or think etc. Doesn't mean
its scary and bad... We already did it
for eternity up until the time we are
born, we just dont remember. Death will
most likely be much more peaceful then
life.
I have just started looking to religion
because science isn't cutting it for me
and manages to create more questions then
answers. Jesus did exist and honesly I
cannot imagine the univers created
itself... I see science as the study of
the materials god used to create life. We
can never figure it all out and who cares
if we do. I do not have much to say about
religion yet, because I just started,
other then we can see proof of god all
around.
Science has brought me some comfort in 4
ways.
1)other things on earth were here for
billions of years without being completely
wiped out, so other then man made things I
dont thing we really need to worry about
total anialation.
2)the world is full of living things, and
life cannot just dissapear. We may just
go back into the earth and our energy will
be converted into grass or trees... We
wont be able to think or do anything but
our energy will still be a part of
earth... Not roaming through space or
completely gone.
3)if evolution really does exist animals
do not produce things that would not help
them to live. Humans are not mindless
robots like other animals we were givin
this ability to reason for a purpose, we
are supposed to think these thoughts if
for no other reason then to gain the power
to protect the earth. We have a
concious... It is you. Something
seperate from your brain. If it was just
a human it could do all the acts we do but
wouldn't need a concience, there is a
reason "we" control these bodys.( I dont
know why yet) and honestly I am not
sureeveryone has this "concious" and just
act human like an animal would. We would
need a way to detect it.
4)technology is evolving at such a high
rate every day that any day could be the
breakthrough day that we find some of the
answers, maybe we will be able to detect
angles or see another dimension or follow
a soul wherever it may go. Also, if we do
not have the brain power to find the right
questions or answers, we could develope ai
inteligent enough to think of it and
translate the answers, and we shouldn't be
too far away.
My medication will probably kick in in
another 2 weeks... Takes 3 for them to
start, but honestly I have gotten to a
point withought medication where I have
some comfort and have what I think is a
good grasp on life.
I would love it if there were a way to
start a movement where we could really
just put our prioritys in the right place.
Put some government spending into this
type of research rather then throwing it
into a poiintless war over oil. I am not
speaking about a new religion because
there are plenty in the world and all the
new science ones are seeming to turn into
money grubbing cults.
If you hate what I said... It made you
feel much better, or you would really like
to discuss it with other like-minded
people who will be there to support you
when an "attack" comes on send me an
e-mail... I build websites etc. And I
think we could really make a difference,
while keeping an open mind. E-mail: thesch
wager@gmail.Com
or just reply to me here I will check on
it a couple times in the next couple
weeks. :d
if you are just someone looking for
answers and you read my whole schpeel
please keep hope, the more there are of us
the better. :d
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mxgurlie101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 92 Location: maryland
Posted: 04-06-06 20:11pm
You cant be scared of dying its bound to
happen one day and you might not even know
your going to die. I am not scared of
dying theres no point if im to die then
its time to die for a reason. Scared, you
shouldn't be because its life
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lovinlife
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Apr 2006 Posts: 1
We Don't Have to Fear Dying Or Depression Posted: 04-21-06 08:25am
I once was worried about many things: will
I ever marry, will I be able to stop
drinking, do people like me, there has to
be more to life. Wow, was my life turned
around when somebody shared with me that
jesus truly loves me and wants to see me
succeed.
After asking jesus into my heart, he now
lives in me, so my view of everything has
changed. I no longer worry about all the
little things (and things of tomorrow)
because that will steal my joy and peace
today. And if I do that everyday, guess
what...Every day will be a constant cycle
of me worrying about tomorrow and not
enjoying today.
Every day is a gift and you are here for a
reason. God has us on this earth for a
purpose, and if we are still on the earth
then he is not done with us yet (he still
wants to work in our lives and have us
trust in him). Only jesus can make that
transformation in your life if you believe
and trust in him.
God knows that humans worry, and that is
why his word in the bible says, "who of
you by worrying can add a single hour to
his life?" and "...Do not worry about
tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about
itself. Each day has enough trouble of
its own." (new international version,
matthew 6:27,34).
Also, jesus said we don't have to have all
this weight on our shoulders. We can give
it to him! In matthew 11:28-30, he says,
"come to me, all you who are weary and
burdened, and I will give you rest. Take
my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I
am gentle and humble in heart, and you
will find rest for your souls. For my
yoke is easy and my burden is light." god
created us to be with him, and he wants to
see us succeed.
It took me a long time to get past the
"sin" part of believing in jesus. I
thought, i'm a good person, i'm nice to
people, I help people, I don't hurt
anybody. However, sin was born into man
through adam & eve, and we still carry
that. Basically, all people are imperfect
and cannot say they never have had a bad
thought or have done a bad thing. Romans
6:23 says, "for the wages of sin is death,
but the gift of god is eternal life in
christ jesus our lord." sin separates us
from god; we cannot be close to him
because he is god! He is holy. But
having a relationship and believing in
jesus christ bridges that gap.
It really is that easy! Say a prayer
containing these thoughts when you are
ready. Admitting to god that we have
sinned (agree with him that we have done
wrong); acknowledging to him that jesus
died for our sins, rose from the grave and
is alive forever; opening the door of our
hearts and lives and receiving jesus
christ as our savior (the best way we know
how at this time); telling him we want to
follow him as lord of our lives. Amen.
I assure you that if you truly believe and
put your hope and trust in jesus, he will
begin to make amazing changes in your
life. Once with a shotgun to my head
ready to give up, with 3 dwis, time in
jail, and a divorce, through jesus, god
has blessed me amazingly! Yes, jesus
loves to save those that are hurting and
are lost. It doesn't matter what you have
done in the past, if you confess it before
god and follow jesus, you will be
forgiven, free, and will live an eternal
life in heaven. Yes, jesus accepts those
who have committed even the worst of sins
(homicide, rape, etc.); if they believe in
him, he will transform them and save them.
There are many "religions" out there.
Jesus prefers you have a "relationship"
with him--not simply be a religious
person. You do not need a priest or
pastor to receive jesus. You can say this
prayer on your own.
I wish you the best in your decision.
With love,
alex
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mxgurlie101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 92 Location: maryland
Oh Posted: 04-21-06 13:33pm
I see I have feelings just like that also
have feelings like you all.
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alone
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 81 Location: england
Posted: 04-21-06 14:02pm
I was so relieved to read some of your
responses to being scared of dying... Its
something that worres me alot but I do not
have children, one of my biggest fears is
to die and have never had children to have
never been a mum... It is something that
has always bothered me, sometimes I just
cant stop thinking about it and it makes
me feel sick to my stomach that one day I
wont be here anymore and everything will
carry on without me and ill be
forgotten... Im scared that there is
nothing after we die, but I think there
is, theres got to be... My auntie was
killed in a car accident 7 years ago and I
would hate to think that that was it and
id never see her again, but im sure its
not I no shes watching over me looking out
for me.. My other auntie died of cancer
last year, but honestly she never got over
my uncle dying ten years before but she
always believed there was soemthing after
and theyd be together, and I like to think
that she was right..
But sometimes I just dont know...
Ive just had 2 miscarriages within a few
months of each other and now I dont no
what to think...
Im glad im not alone though in these
thoughts of dying, u feel silly when u get
urself in such a state about it but when
ur thinking about it u cant imagine what
your going to do when it happens...
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lonelychick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Apr 2006 Posts: 9
Posted: 04-23-06 22:26pm
Repost from another post:
well, everyone's scared of dying, really,
but im kinda getting used to seeing it
this way:
"to the well-organised mind, death can be
the next adventure."
and yes, that was dumbledore from harry
potter ahaha, I love the series. Anyways,
yeah, just think about it....Death cant be
all that bad, I mean im pretty sure
there's something after life and I have
read an article on it in like grade 7 or
something for english (we were forced to,
but it was really interesting.) and the
people who have died and come back to life
arent scared of death anymore. The only
reason why people are scared about it is
because we know so little about it and
probably will never mind out its full
meaning. But I doubt it's scary.
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leanne 28
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2007 Posts: 15 Location: sthelens
Re: Scared About Dying Posted: 01-19-07 12:23pm
chez1
wrote:
i suffer from the blues on
and off. I've recently got over
post-natal depression thanks to prozac,
but the feelings still come and go. I
know when i'm getting down as I wake up in
the night frightened about myself dying or
my children. I sometimes have late-night
discussions with my husband about the
meaning of life and what happens after we
die. My main concern is that I will be
alone and not see my loved ones again.
The next day when I wake up with puffy
eyes I feel really stupid and pathetic.
This has happened since I was a kid and it
gets worse as i've got three young
children now. Am I the only one who
worries about dying and where we go
afterwards?
