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desazius

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Scared of death Posted: 04-01-08 10:51am


Hi people i am new to the forum, I also have a very serious issue with the fear of death. but i dont get the same as some of you. i dont seem to think about it at night when i go to sleep. im not a smart person but i love to read Stephen Hawkings theroy's i can't say they help but to me they are rather fasinating, i was reading a public lecture that is easily found on the net called life in the universe. Anyway im not going to go into that. but im going to describe the feelings i get, i tend to just think about when i die, its mostly when im alone and am not distracted and have time for my thoughts, i tend to go into like a very intense deep thought about it and get images and nasty thoughts of death. and its like theres a barrier that i go past the sort of barrier when you think about something and eventually come to terms with it and forget about it. but this is not the case i go past that and scare my self sh**less i get a really nasty scare pain in the bottom of my lungs and belly and sweat alot about it i think they call that shock. The sort of scare when some one jumps out on you. you know the feeling?... its like as if my body and brain thinks OMG im going to die one day and then i think when i die thats it..... theres no more me... there will never ever be a me... i will no longer exist and i will be gone forever i will never walk a street tate food open my eyes or experience anything in life once more it will all be gone. i will have fallen through into the cracks of the earth and into history and will never know the future of the human race and see new inventions and amaizing beautiful things by man. its wierd when people discuss people from the past they seem too look at it in a frame of mind much different to my own. for example if the topic is say about... Ray Charles the musician or Beithoven, ye sure we can listen to there cd's or music they've played and read biography's or watch tv shows about them and see pictures of they're past. but there not alive there not there and you will never ever see that person he or she is gone and there will never be a person as unique or as similar as them....i dont know what it is but when i talk about it to relatives or friends they just ignore me and just dont seem to see it as i do. i think i have serious issues with my thoughts and views on death. its very hard to describe and im not helping much im sure. but i just felt i needed to speak to someone that maybe on the same level as i am. does any one get this feeling of a barrier that you go past and thoughts become deeper and more intense as if u really think true and come to terms that death is absolutely awfull. i am not religious at all and have no believe or faith in gods and afterlife. i still stay rather true to the theory of evolution and thats it. i find it very hard to get buy and dont wish to be preached by religions i found that it has not helped in the past as i stay to my believe that we are born experience the beauty of life and then die. thankyou very much for your time people and please pm me if you have similar thoughts. much love to you all

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damn i thought i was alone Posted: 05-07-08 16:14pm


well i live my life happy up until twenty nine aceppting the fact that one day i was goin to die in thininking jesus died so i must die to thats how i use to be in i was fine with it living my life like it was golden then i was on the couch one night smoking my joint in it hit me so hard i mean really hard like i might have already died os something i couldnt belive it how yes i im goin to die one day no im really goin to die one day well i got over it i stopped smoking i have been clean for a year now six months had pass i was doin good then it hit me i fell into depression thinking im goin to die any day now crying for no reason it was vary serious im getting better the crying has stoped but i still have the thoughts of dying

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Posted: 05-27-08 08:12am


I was always so afraid of dying. i mean nearly all my life. I'm 29. The thing that changed it for me was having a reading done through a medium. He contacted my nan and grandpa and the things he came out with no-one could have possibly known. on top of that at the start of my reading my lights flickered. It was a great validation for me that my nan was around. so now after 29 yrs I can finally say I'm not afraid anymore. I know when I die I'll be greeted by my grandparents and by that stage I'll probably be greeted by my parents too. If you are interested in a reading his name is connect and can be found through spiritualblessing.org . He's a member of that site. Just click on his name and you'll find his email address. Harmony1 xo

mysilentguess

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Posted: 06-28-08 01:12am


i guess i used to be really scared of dying. there was even one time when i couldnt wait to die. but now i realize that you should value life to the max, dont waste any of it. you are here for a reason. i see death a part of life and life as a part of death. it links somehow.

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Posted: 06-28-08 03:53am


To anyone that is afraid of dying I don't think there is anyting to be afraid of. I'd suggest to you to look into spirituality though. Just read some stories and experiences and you will realise that we do not really die when we pass over. Our spirit lives on...

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Scared of dying Posted: 06-28-08 05:04am


hi there i am new here and i am so glad i have found this site. I have been having terrible nightmares and i constantely worry about death. Everyday i get upset by it and wake up thinking about it and going to bed at night the same. I dont kbow whta to do about it. I dont no if i am depressed or just mad! it has got so bad now that i wont let my husband go training in the evening becasue i am obsessed with the fact that i need to spend every second with him. its absolute madness but its starting to effect his work, i ring him in the day and constanely ask him when hes coming home. does anyone know if i have sort of depression or is it just me? smr

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There is life after d. Posted: 07-08-08 21:48pm


I used to feel the very same way. Thinking what's going to happen to me. i'm just going to d and the world is going to go on and on without me. It isn't until recently that my fear has been put to rest. I had a reading done with a psychic medium. I remember when my nanna was a alive she said "when I die I'm going tomake your lights flicker and you'll know that it's me" Well, all my life i thought of that and thought to myself"don't you dare do it because i'll run from here to mexico, over the ocean and all" that's how scared I was. Anyhow yrs later I started looking into spirituality. I've always been a believer though in there being somethong more to life than this but I had no proof so it was just a belief to make me happy. I never really knew for sure that It existed so I was a still a bit of a sceptic. Late last yr I joined a spiritual forum called Spiritualblessing.org. and felt that i really, really wanted to come across a medium. Funnily enough one joined there and I asked him for a reading. His name was Connect. I had two readings. With the very first one do you know what happened, well it kinda a funny story. I hate spiders and I had a white tail spider (poisonus) in my computer room and I was al ready to start my reading (over the net) but there was this spider. I'd already msged connect and told him i was there waiting. he hadn't logged on yet. So I was trying to kill this spider (with half a tin of spray) he must have logged on and started the reading. Still trying to kill this spider and as i fear them so much i couldn't go passed it to get to the computer. My lights flickered. On , off, on , off. I thought nothing of it and went to my computer and there was a message. I have a female here from the other side, two levels higher than you. I feel that it's your grandma. I guess she'd waited until I was ready in life to flicker the lights. She also used it as a validation that it was really her. she described our area, where she lived, the beach, the creek and the walking track. Lots of little things came through that were really amazing. My grandfather came through too. The medium came through with the first letter of his name and said there was a father figure that had come through but he wasn't mine and his name started with c. Claudio was his name! Then he made validations that it was him by validating things regarding his daughter (my mum) Oh it was an awesome experience. i can't even put into words how it has changed my life. I tell you this though. I'd feared dth my whole life and at the age of 28 I didn't fear it anymore. I was sure. I wasn't a sceptic anymore. There is no way on earth this man could've known the things he did. None at all. So i don't fear it anymore. i am true believer in the after life. I've had the validations to prove this for me. I know that when I d**. My nan will be there to welcome me. Then after that the spirit lives on. Do you really think that this life is all there is to life. look at the birds, look at the trees, they'r beautiful. they didn't just come here from nowhere. This can't be all there is to life and it isn't. If you so much as only belive in the after a life a little. Find a medium, have reading and put you're mnd at rest.