Love Hurts After 15 Yrs ~~ What to Do ~ Advice Please Posted: 10-05-06 00:30am
Need some advice here. I just come back
from a visit with my ex-boyfriend from 15
yrs ago. Going back I was the one who
ended the relationship back then but have
alway kept in touch. We have spoke off
and on from time to time the past 15 yrs
and maily I calling him. In the past yr
we have been in touch on a weekly basis.
After many conversations we both felt like
we had some unresolved issues, so I went
to visit him for 5 days. Let me add 5
wonderful days. I am lost and have a
millions things running in my mind> I
have always told him that I still love
him, this past 5 days I know more than
ever. From his words I am heading down a
one way street, I understand that I hurt
him bad in the past and we both agreed to
be friends. But his actions throw me a
curb ball. Now maybe I am reading into
it because I with there was more or more
to come in time. How do I know to trust
the word or the actions??? The actions
he could not stop watching me, looking at
me, holding my hand, touching my leg,
kissing me, and we even went to the mall
his got me raybans and a tiffany ring. I
asked why he said I am a nice guy. Oh
did I say he paided for a plane ticket to
see him. I love this boy to the depth of
my sole! I do not want to read into
something that is not there just to get
let down but the actions.... I think they
say more. What to do?? Do I go for
it??? Do I see that is likes me??? I
am not sure~~ I told him on my departure
one thing to never dout is that I love him
always have always will ~ he said he has
no dout but nothing more in return.
Before my plane landed he had called me to
telling me he was thinking of me........
Oh I am one lost hurting girl right now!
Any advice
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 10-05-06 09:48am
Ever heard "actions speak louder than
words"? Well I think that applys to this
situation.
He maybe is scared he will get hurt again
and is trying to protect himself from
it.You could talk to him and say "i know
how you feel and I know what I did hurt
you but I love you to the bottom of my
heart and would never do it again.That was
15 years ago,i was stupid and had some
growing up to do and I would like another
chance if you wold allow it."
I don't know,maybe you could start out
slow,like hang out a a couple times a
month(sounds like you all live far away
from each other) and get to know each
other better and trust each other again.It
takes time but in the end it will be
waaaay worth the wait! : )
