I am very angry with this whole teen
pregnancy rates going up higher than ever
now days.
Nobody is shocked if a 15-17 year old is
pregnant.Its nearly nomal now.Because we
hear about teen pregnancys
everywhere,especialy on soaps. If a 12-14
year old says they are pregnant we will be
a little shocked but we wont be suckers as
we would of been 10years ago. We will
accept it.
I actualy thiink it is becoming a trend.
To shock your family anf friends and your
boyfriend by saying your pregnant, and get
all the attention in the world, and get
lots of drama, and you go around being a
drama queen. I do actualy believe that
teenagers who have kids love their child
but I also believe there is a part of them
who really likes the attention. This most
stop! If this gos on in the future every
little kids parents will be only about
16years older than them, and they will not
be with their father. They will be either
divorced and single and looking or married
to someone who isnt their father. And
they will probably have step-grandparents
and half-siblings. And half-uncles and
step-uncles. I do not think that is
healthy.
A child should have a mom and a dad who
love each other and grandparents who are
together. They should not have to be put
through haveing step families. They will
probably feel think love is cheap and not
really know what love is (no matter how
much the mother tells him/her she loves
him/her to make up for the messy family
thing) and become a bad behaving rebel.
I am so sick of all this teen's coming up
to their parents or whoever and saying 'im
pregnant' they are secretly thinking they
are gonna get the attention they want. It
is perfetic. If your life's boring and
you think no one really care's about u and
you think you need some drama dont get
pregnant, you dont need a baby to show
people your a strong intresting person.
I dont think it helps that soap's on tv
always has a plot where teen's get
pregnant. Teens watching will see it and
see all the drama and think 'i want a
piece of that' and I dont think it helps
that they talk so much about sex now days
on tv and laugh about it and they turn
around and start talking about how teen
pregnancy rate is an issue. They were
talking about sex. And they expect teen
not to watch and suddenly swich the
channel. They are all hypocrites.
I think the best way is to not give teens
too much symphony and attention, just tell
them oh, ok your pregnant. Well good
luck.Bye. And eventualy all the teen's
will start to get sick of it. And they
will stop having children.
And I think all this accepting teen
pregnancy thing must stop. They should at
least pretend to be appoled. And then
ignore (not completely but dont go on
about how she is pregnant and having a
child so much) her.
I think teens who want to be pregnant they
think if they have a child you can still
get lots of good things in life like
boyfriends still. Teens in the past may
have thought if they have a child thats
it. Your life stops there its feeding
your child for the rest of your life. But
teen now days know better and know there
are many many options out there helping
you and your child. So they dont really
mind having one or two children. Its even
pretty cool. 'oh im called mia and im 17
I have two children.'
all im saying is teen's out there who are
considering not using protection tonight
and gonna pretend you forgot to take the
pill think twice. Why do you want a child
now? You are still a intresting amazing
person with out one. Wyhy do you need a
baby to make you whole? I bet there are
many other things out there besiders a
baby that will make you feel complete.
Say finding your perfect man and building
a good strong relationship with him. Or
concentrating on your school/college work.
I bet you want to be someone with a
important job when your older. Or you
could concentrate on you looks and try to
shapeup if you think u look as good as you
can get your self to look that will maybe
make you feel complete. See you dont need
a son or a daughter to make your self feel
complete.
Yo dont need a label on you saying
'mother' . You can have a label on you
saying 'pretty clever girl with lots of
friends who wants to become a nurse
someday' or something like that.(if that
make's sence.) its just as good or even
better as having a label saying
'mother'.
Im not saying teen parents are bad
parents. I would never say that. I know
a 16year old who is the bestest mom you
could ever imagine. But im saying you can
be a great mom when your 20 or something.
Not now.. Why do you want your child to
have a messy family?(like he/she's gonna
live with you and her/his step father and
see his real daddy on weekends or he/she
dosnt see him at all because you and him
dont talk.) why cant you wait just at
least 4 years? When you have a good b/f
or when your married and when you have
lots of qualifications and when youv done
traning or wotever. Why now? Isnt it
gonna be harder finding mr.Right? Going
to uni/school/college/traning? Because
you have part time jobs to pay for her/his
nanny/day care while your out studying??
Just think. Why do you want to hurry?????
Life is really long and I think it wud be
as cool to be pregnant when your 20-23+ as
when your 17 or under. Dont you think
so????
I want to get pregnant when im 19 or 20.
And with my husband/fiance.And when im
nearly done training to become a nurse.
Dont u all think thats much better than
being preggo when your in school doing ya
gcse's and having a part time job??(and
your bf somewhere out there drunk and
lyeing in some gutter hammered )
I shouldn't have to tell a total stranger
this.. But you've seriously p*ssed me
off, so I will.. I used protection and it
didn't work. Ever think of that, b*tch?
It wasn't some big plan to get attention.
I was in 6th form at a grammar school..
Where we're all meant to be good little
girls who should "know better". I
couldn't get an abortion because it's
something that I personally could never
do.
Yes i'll only be 18 years older than my
daughter... So what? That won't make me
a bad mother. And i'm still with the
father and have been for 4 years.. We're
planning on getting married as soon as we
can afford the wedding we want. We're a
little more bothered about earning money
to buy things for our baby at the
moment.
Never ever post anything like this in a
teen pregnancy forum.. It's a place of
support. And, erm, you plan on getting
pregnant at 19? You'll still be a
.T.E.E.N.A.G.E.R then, you retard.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 10-05-06 08:57am
I'm not a teen and I took offense to
that.You are one rediculous individual.
Most the teens I know did not get pregnant
on purpose,it was due to the birth control
only being 99.9% effective.And most that I
know don't go around trying to start drama
and get attention just because they are
pregnant.Do you relaize how many of them
are ashamed because it is
looked down on? Do you think they're
happy to tell their parents that they will
be grandparents at the age of 35-40 years
old,and (some) will have to support that
child because (some) are not old enough to
work yet? No.Get a life.
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randomgurl06
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2006 Posts: 4 Location: uk
Posted: 10-05-06 09:08am
zanyzanny
wrote:
ok.. You freak.
I shouldn't have to tell a total stranger
this.. But you've seriously p*ssed me
off, so I will.. I used protection and
it didn't work. Ever think of that,
b*tch? It wasn't some big plan to get
attention. I was in 6th form at a
grammar school.. Where we're all meant
to be good little girls who should "know
better". I couldn't get an abortion
because it's something that I personally
could never do.
Yes i'll only be 18 years older than my
daughter... So what? That won't make
me a bad mother. And i'm still with the
father and have been for 4 years.. We're
planning on getting married as soon as we
can afford the wedding we want. We're a
little more bothered about earning money
to buy things for our baby at the
moment.
Never ever post anything like this in a
teen pregnancy forum.. It's a place of
support. And, erm, you plan on getting
pregnant at 19? You'll still be a
.T.E.E.N.A.G.E.R then, you
retard.
1st of all I meant I want a baby, but id
rather wait until im at least 19. U
health question. At least I didnt medical
answer say I want a baby now. At least I
have the decentcy to wait. Even if it is
just 4years. At least im not jumping into
bed with the 1st dude I see. Thats wot I
meant. So dont you dare critisise me for
willing to wait. How dare you. (u di*k)
omg u hav really pis*ed me off there.
And I wasnt talkin about all teens god
cant u even think? I was on about most
teens. Not those small percentage of ppl
who got pregnant accdently (and not just
pretend it was a accedent) and who are
*really* upset.But the truth is there are
lots of girls out there secretly wantiong
attention. Why d'ya denay it?? (rolls
eyes)
yes, im sure your not a bad mother. I
mentiond that before. Teen moms can be
medical answer great moms. Thats not the
point, if u could read ud notice that I
said why b a gud mom now, why not b a gud
mom later on in life.
And lastly yes, its a place for support.
If you keep on giving them lots and lots
of support then their friends will see it
and think 'o gosh being preggo wont b
scary look at all the friends and support
you'll get' and think its alright to have
kids early. Anyways its just sumthing I
feel strongly about.
U giv support andfeel sorry for each other
(and tell ppl like me to medical answer
off )and teen pregnacy keeps growin n
grown n growin n growin n growin.... N
growin......
Anywayz good luck wit ya babys ppl (rolls
eyes.)
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 10-05-06 09:15am
1st of all I meant I want a baby, but id
rather wait until im at least 19. U
health question. At least I didnt
medical answer say I want a baby now. At
least I have the decentcy to wait. Even
if it is just 4years. At least im not
jumping into bed with the 1st dude I see.
Thats wot I meant. So dont you dare
critisise me for willing to wait. How
dare you. (u di*k)
omg u hav really pis*ed me off there.
And I wasnt talkin about all teens god
cant u even think? I was on about most
teens. Not those small percentage of
ppl who got pregnant accdently
anywayz good luck wit ya babys ppl (rolls
eyes.)[/quote]
she was saying 19 is still young and its
still concidered teen pregnancy, which you
are obvioulsy against and I think that
gives her every right to critisize you
since your doing it to all other teens. .
.If you meant *some* teens,maybe you
should have mentioned that in your first
post smart one.And not *all* teens who get
pregnant have just "jumped into bed with
the fist dude they see".Its usually a
boyfriend.Not all teen moms are skanks : )
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randomgurl06
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2006 Posts: 4 Location: uk
Posted: 10-05-06 09:20am
Yes it dosnt work 99.9 percent of the
time. But its so hard to believe that
protection didnt work for all those teens
cos seriously preggo rates r rising.
Teens 10years ago used protection like now
days but 10yrs ago hardly any1 got proggo.
Isnt it funny how now everyone is gettin
knocked up wen theyv used protection now
days..? Hmmmmmm...
I mean its a 00.1 percent chance. And
for everyone it dosnt work. Wow.
(rolls eyes) think of the facts,
bi*ch,before telling me that im perfetic??
(rolls eyes )
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randomgurl06
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2006 Posts: 4 Location: uk
Posted: 10-05-06 09:21am
Ok...21 then.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 10-05-06 09:27am
randomgurl06
wrote:
i mean its a 00.1 percent
chance. And for everyone it dosnt work.
Wow. (rolls eyes) think of the
facts, bi*ch,before telling me that im
perfetic?? (rolls eyes
)
wow,hopefully before you have a kid you
learn how to spell and mostly I hope you
grow up.Whats the name calling for? I
didn't call you one name.Why don't you
look up the percentage of teens who get
pregnant on birth control each year in the
.U.S.A.Maybe it was so low a long time ago
cause hmmm,teens didn't have much sex???
Wow,theres a concept.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 7892 Location: *UPTOWN*NEW ORLEANS*, La
Posted: 10-05-06 09:30am
Yikes....Random, I respect your opinion,
as I do everyone. But come on, you only
posted this to twist the girl's
panties....Please go to the abortion forum
and post nonsense there....They like
it...
Sarah
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-05-06 09:47am
I read two paragraphs and stopped. You
make my head hurt with your fantastically
lacking grammar skills.
Teenagers get pregnant. Get over it.
By the way, by the time most teenagers
find this forum, they're either already
pregnant or think they might be. Bit
late for telling them they're doing the
wrong thing, really. What's done is
done, and they'll either learn from their
mistakes or they won't. Some random
internet person spewing garbage at them
certainly won't help any. We offer
support here, not lectures. These girls
catch enough crap in their lives
already.
If you won't be supportive, kindly leave.
Have a nice day.
***editted to add***
and another thing! A lot of teenagers
don't set off trying to make babies. They
thought sex is this huge awesome thing,
the ultimate romantic fantasy... Just
like they think that boy from .Algebra
class will love them forever and ever, and
that they'll die if they don't have a cute
prom dress. It's just how the teenaged
brain works. Reality kicks in with time
and experience. Most of them didn't think
pregnancy would happen to them, for the
same reason that teenaged boys don't think
about paralysis when they race their cars
on the highway. Teenaged pregnancy is,
for the most part, a mistake of some
kind.
We support teenaged mothers and expectant
mothers. We don't .P.R.O.M.O.T.E teenaged
pregnancy. In fact, many of the young
mothers here try to talk other girls out
of it. But do you know what happens if
you spend your time rubbing their mistakes
into their faces? Telling them they're
s|utty, and stupid, and ruining their
lives? That's how these girls wind up in
the .E.R giving birth and their families
have no idea they were even pregnant.
That's how newborn babies wind up in trash
cans at the big formal dance. That's how
a lot of girls drop out of school when
they can't walk down the hallway without
getting dirty looks and giggles behind
their backs.
You don't have to like it. No one is
expecting you to. But get over yourself
and keep your damned "advice" to yourself,
because you're helping no one.
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emiliej87
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2006 Posts: 17 Location: Canada
Posted: 10-05-06 10:28am
Ok, first of all, regardless of the fact
that I am almost 19, I am an adult and I
can make my own decisions. I think you
had no right to come in here and insult
everyone like this. You obviously have
nothing better to do with your life so
here's a suggestion:
get a life, go to school, learn to write
properly, including your syntax skills
before you critique someone else's typo,
and just screw off and leave the rest of
us alone! What do you know about me? I'm
in university, i've been with my boyfriend
for over a year, I have two jobs and more
than enough money in a savings account to
support myself and my baby while
continuing to go to university, and I am
sure that there are other people on here
who are just as stable as I am, even if
they are going to be parents at 17, 18, or
19.
You obviously have some resentment issues
with your own family life if you have to
come here and complain about other family
types. I bet you're racist, sexist and
prejudiced as well? It wouldn't surprise
me anyway...
Go away and find some other people to talk
to because, obviously, no of us want to
read your bullsh*t.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 10-05-06 10:44am
Um this is a teen pregnancy forum, if you
don't like hearing about it or seeing it
dont come here.
1st of all I meant I want a
baby, but id rather wait until im at least
19. U health question. At least I
didnt medical answer say I want a baby
now. At least I have the decentcy to
wait. Even if it is just 4years. At
least im not jumping into bed with the 1st
dude I see. Thats wot I meant. So
dont you dare critisise me for willing to
wait. How dare you. (u di*k)
omg u hav really pis*ed me off
there.
sweetie, can you read? I was commenting
on the fact that you said you were gunna
have a baby at 19, as if that was waiting
.A.G.E.S compared to having a baby at 17.
You'll still be a teen at 19,
technically, so why bother making out
you're some sort of saint for waiting til
then?
And calling me a "health question" is a
bit of a joke, being that you obviously
can't spell or use punctuation or
grammar.
Sometimes life doesn't go to plan.. And
i'm telling you that so that if, despite
using contraception, you fall pregnant
before your "ideal age" of 19, you'll be
prepared for it. Although I sincerely
hope that doesn't happen, for your kid's
sake
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 10-05-06 11:32am
How ignorant to come in here and post a
bunch of crap. Go preach somewhere else
pal, because nobody here wants to see what
you have to say (if they can read it that
is.)
are you living some sort of
fantasy...Thinking every single marriage
will work out and nobody will have to have
an evil step family? I agree that would
be great if all marriages ended in
"happily ever after", but get real. Your
probably some lonley old guy whose wife
left and now you have to come and try to
ruin everyone elses day with your
nonsense. Get a life.
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emiliej87
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2006 Posts: 17 Location: Canada
Posted: 10-05-06 11:41am
Most of us on the forum are way older than
you are and know a hell of a lot more
about this stuff considering we're
pregnant and some of us acutally already
have babies! You're just a childish fool.
Clearly, by posting what you did, you're
just showing us that you are the attention
seeker.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-05-06 11:43am
This is a support forum for teens that are
pregnant and/or young mothers.
This is not a preaching to teens about not
getting pregnant - each of the girls here
draws from the others experience.
