diamondsz
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Going to Cry Soon
Posted: 10-11-06 20:10pm
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Elisa has gone out of control, I do
disicpline her her with timeouts and room
time but I cant seem to control her, the
other day I thought someone had broken
into the house instead it was elisa in the
kitchen with borken eggs/flour on th
floor.
It has gotten to the point I have to lock
her in her room at night to keep her away
from dangerous stuff cause she can climb
over the gate at the stairs and im
terrified of her flipping down the
stairs.
I have talked to my dr and local health
nurse and all they can tell me is she is
having tantrums, I know she is going
throught "terrible twos" but omg it never
ends. I honestly feel like she never
stops and I cant take my eyes off of her
for a sec or she may doing something bad
or hurt her brother!
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-11-06 20:39pm
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The 'terrible two's' are when children are
testing their limits and boundaries with
the people in their lives. You'll notice
she does things that seem to be just
exactly what she is not supposed to be
doing. Kids are wired that way. All kids
(well, most) go through it.
Structure is what they need. The same
discipline every day. Time out is time
out is time out - the same amount of time
(generally the child's age in minutes. So
a 2 year old would get 2 minutes of time
out.) every time out. She needs to know
what is expected of her and how you expect
her to behave.
That may seem like the last thing she is
expressing she needs at this point, but it
is exactly what she is demonstrating she
needs.
Kids, thankfully, outgrow the 'terrible
two's' and things calm down.
Good luck!
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diamondsz
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Posted: 10-11-06 20:59pm
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| *dalicia*bray*
wrote: | i don't know what to tell
you jess, she's going through terrible
two's so it's hard to control that because
it's what every kid goes through, all I
can do is give you advice on how we cured
my niece.
Try it and it may work, if not I seriously
don't know what to tell you besides going
to some kind of doctor thats a specialist
in this and getting some good tips and
advice on how to control
it. |
its just bloody frustrating, cam is such a
good baby he never cries and she never
stops omg, anyways ive seen a specialist
and they says shes fine not to worry but
her behaviour is normal.
Ill try that other maybe abit differently
though but its something I havent done and
parenting books are somewhat hopeless
lol!!
Anyways thanx "d"
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michelle1981
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Posted: 10-11-06 21:02pm
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Oh, the joys of being a parent lol
just make sure you're consistent with her
punishments. There are so many phases
they go through, it's insane!!!
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channy-leigh
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Posted: 10-12-06 01:13am
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Omg my little cousin is two turning three
in december and I could just beat that kid
sometimes.. She slaps, screams, swears,
punches, you name it she does it. Its not
like her family gives a sh*t anyway.. Her
uncle is like 14 and teaches her sayings
such as "me so horney"!
Anyway I know you were looking for advice
but I just thought I would share, sorry!
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Kia
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Posted: 10-12-06 05:31am
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| channy-leigh
wrote: | | i could just beat that kid
sometimes.. |
i sincerely hope that is a sick joke.
Kids never ever require beating and this
community is all for the safety of the
child.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 10-12-06 10:58am
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I saw on a tlc special that what .Elise is
doing is actually being done consciencly.
It's her brain *trying* to adjust. It'll
throw out sparks that make her wail crying
and flip out!
She's also trying to find her
independence. She *needs* to start
knowing that *she's* the big sister now.
She has to teach .Cam how to be a "good
boy" by her being a "good girl".
Also, on the show, they said to command
them with short commands. Like "stop it
*now*!" or "come here *now*"
not, "ok, do you wanna come over here by
mommy?" or "hey look, please seetle down
for me."
sometimes they understand those long
commands. But in the midst of
misbehaving, their brains aren't able to
comprehend. They need sharp, commanding
phrases that they're brain can understand
and know.
I can't *wait* till I go through this with
.Oni!! There's no way of dodging it!!!!
Which suuuckkkss!!!!
Sarah
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 10-12-06 12:42pm
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Kia I think she meant a spanking lol which
isnt a big deal.
Id spank her a few times, I know everytime
my mom said she was gonna spank me I quit
what I was doing because I knew what was
gonna happen.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 10-12-06 12:44pm
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| hcobrunette06
wrote: | kia I think she meant a
spanking lol which isnt a big deal.
Id spank her a few times, I know everytime
my mom said she was gonna spank me I quit
what I was doing because I knew what was
gonna happen. |
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 10-12-06 12:49pm
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Hahaha...I believe in spanking.
I don't believe in spanking if your child
has a hitting problem though. I don't
believe that hitting in reposnse to
hitting makes much sense.
I don't believe in beating. Beating, to
me, is taking out anger from another issue
on your child. It's disguisting.
I believe that you can talk out a problem
with a toddler, they just have to be of a
right age.
My dad whipped me and I had this respect
for him that I didn't have for my mom who
*never* whipped me. She says now she
never whipped me because she was
constantly whipped by my granny.
If people are beaten as a child they tend
not to want to spank their children. But
some people are the total opposite. They
beat their children because they were
beat. And that's not right...
Sarah
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 10-12-06 12:49pm
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Lol she probably liked pulling my pants
down and spanking me
what a perv :p
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 10-12-06 13:02pm
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| hcobrunette06
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what a perv
:p |
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Kia
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Posted: 10-12-06 14:02pm
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Exactly what sarah said.
I believe in spanking but beating is
totally different and wrong
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 10-12-06 15:44pm
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I dont believe in spanking, i've already
done it, but I dont want to ever do it
again. There's other ways. I felt so
guilty because he was obviously too young
to understand, and it didnt work anyway.
Always trying not to do it again. If I
get angry and want to lash out and smack
or something, I go into a different room
to calm down a few minutes so I dont do
it...Everyone has a limit to how much they
can take. With elisa i'd definately try
the sticker chart and reward system, its
supposed to work really well, kids love
stickers. Also could you try taking one
of her favourite things away from her when
she's naughty? Or maybe she's too young
for that, I know someone who does it with
their 3 year old, and it seems to
work...Most of the time.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 10-12-06 16:18pm
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You spanked your seven month old??
Wow, I don't know if i'd admit to
that.....
Sarah
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 10-12-06 16:24pm
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Allie how old is your child?
Ahhh, I see sarah listed the age.
Allie, your son is truly 7 mos. Old?
Maybe you should see someone for parenting
classes or anger management. It's never
okay to spank an infant. Never.
Ever.
*edited because age was posted*
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 10-12-06 17:30pm
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You're right. Allie, the fact that you
don't believe in circumcision because it's
"torture" and then turn around and whip
your infant.....Is totally hypocritical of
you. I mean in sickening ways.
Why isn't anyone else saying anything
about this? Come on now yall....I know
she hasn't been here in a while. It
doesn't excuse her from whipping her
infant.
Sick....
Sarah
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Posted: 10-12-06 17:32pm
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She said she regretted doing it, and that
she realizes he's too young for that. I
just hope she won't do it again.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 10-12-06 17:36pm
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Oh jesus! To hit him in the first place
is the problem. Regretting it after he
skreaches in pain is nothing.
I know, as well as everyone else, that a
child cannot comprehend right from wrong
at such a young age. Many kids don't know
right from wrong in the 2's!!
I mean, it really is none of my business.
I don't know this girl from someone on the
street, but if her child is being hit,
something needs to be said.
I know she's young. But to react without
thinking is something we learn not to do.
To hit her infant, without thinking
logically of the circumstances, is
insane!!!!!!!!!!!
Sarah
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-12-06 17:47pm
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Well, what I meant was maybe she realized
that it is wrong to do. If she's already
discovered that hitting an infant is
completely wrong, then there's no point in
us telling her just that. It'll just make
her feel worse about something that she
did and (hopefully) won't do again.
Although I do wonder what a 7 month old
could have done to receive a spanking?
I'm not defending her or what she's done.
I'm just saying that we shouldn't attack
her if she's already realized she was in
the wrong.
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