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HongKongChick
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 222 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 08-21-03 17:28pm
Jessica--i am so sorry about how closed
minded ur parents are, but afterall, they
are ur parents who brought u into life, so
I think u do need to tell them what
happened. But, remember that whatever
they think u should do, you dont need to
follow!
As u mentioned u have had one abortion
before and it was not good for ur own
health because of the depression and
anger, so I think u have decided to keep
it?
Are u and ur boyfriend very close and
serious?
At this point, u have alot to think about
1. Are u gonna be able to support the
child on ur own in case ur bf and ur
family will not help out at all?
2. Are u still gonna finish school after
giving birth or during pregnancy? If so,
there are more to think about.
3. How will u be able to work and take
care of the baby?
Well even though it might seem
overwhelming right now, but trust me,
there are ways to do it! Women do it all
the time everyday!
So the main question is that do you want
to keep the baby?
After deciding that, then, u will make a
plan and then stick to it.
I will help you more if you have any more
question or concern
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MeganMcD
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2003 Posts: 7 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posted: 08-21-03 19:50pm
It is you who is scared of having a
biracial baby because of your parents.
This is so unfortunate. I am a biracial
child myself and am happy, healthy and
educated. My mother was slightly afraid
herself to tell my grandparents, it ended
up fine but really it was up to them (my
grandparents) if they missed out on their
daughters life and the future lives of
their grandchildren. If your parents
can't love you and your baby for who you
are or except the father of your baby that
is truly sad. You already had 1 abortion
that you regret, I am sure you don't want
to make it #2. Your parents seem not to
want to except a black man in your life
and why would a white one be better?
Your boyfriend is a man and soon to be
father. It is up tp the two of you (no
one else) if you decide to raise this baby
or give it up for adoption. Your physical
and mental health is what is important
right now, not a friend or family members
opinion. This will not be an easy road
for you or your boyfriend but you can do
this. Good luck and best wishes for you
and your baby!
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crazedincanada
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2003 Posts: 1 Location: calgary
Posted: 08-21-03 20:43pm
Hello jess
i am also 20 years old and pregnent. My
family does not approve of my boyfriend.
If you think that your family wont approve
of this then you need to decide what is
best for you. Not what your family wants.
Does your boyfriend know if so what does
he think. Dont be afride to make your
own decisions. Your family may be angry
and tell you things you dont want to hear.
You are still their daughter and they
are still your parents. If u decide that
you dont want a abortion there is always
adoption and if you dont want to do that
then you have to fight for you child and
do what is best for you and your baby!!
Hang in there
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jezzable3002
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2003 Posts: 2 Location: detroit mi
Posted: 08-22-03 23:48pm
Kk
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jessicalynn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 68 Location: oregon
I Dont Care What Peps Says, Posted: 08-23-03 03:33am
Im gonna have this child I am ready and I
can do it, and yo I did finish school I
graduated like a year ago, and my guy is
in the army he supports me and always will
hes one of a kind, im lucky he wants me to
be a full time mom, and im not scared to
tell my parents, my family now knows and
there verry happy for me, im an adult and
on my own they cant do caca, so im happy
there happy carry on,,,,,
thanks to u all who
suport me,
thanks to u all who
suport me,