Just Trying to Cope With a Hurt Heart Posted: 10-13-06 22:53pm
I recently filled for divorce this sept.
And I know I have to go through with it.
We have been married for 11 years I had
her served on our anniversery. She was in
another state shacked up with another man.
I had known for about 2 months prier to
filling. I just wanted till the right
time. We have two boys 5 and 9, which my
9 yr old wasn't taking it to good but
coming arround. She has left a hell of a
hole in my life for now and I know time
heals all wounds. I know if I take her
back it will happen again seeing this is
the third time. It has been 6 or 7 years
since the first two I was hopeing she had
got this out of her system. But I guess
what they say about cheaters is true once
a cheater always a cheater. I do know I
have to wait for the divorce to be
finalized before I go off into the dating
world. I just wish the final date would
hurry up. I wish I could just get my mind
off of her like it says in the tips forum
but it is harder to do than say. They say
putting your thoughts on paper helps with
getting it all
out. Heres just something I wrote
tonight.
10-13-2006
sabrina uuummmm....... I thought I had
found the match for me in my life. But
life throws you curves as it did in mine.
I thought our marriage was strong enough
to take on the world. I never thought I
would be writing something like this.
Like i’ve told everyone before this is
not by no means what I want to do but what
I have to do. She is not the same girl or
grown up now women I married. It seems
like if you really care about someone you
would never plan or take action in a
attack on your marriage and life with
them. I do not know to this day what I
have done that was so wrong to make the
things that took place happen..I know that
I am not a selfish person and I do have
morals. I do still love her very much and
wish I could turn back time. I just hope
she find’s whatever it is in life she is
looking for because I have lost a piece of
mine for know.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 10-17-06 08:39am
I know how you feel.Not in the cheating
sense. . .Well maybe.I just got out of a
relationship a month ago.Don't know if he
cheated on me,he says he didn't but thats
not why we broke up.Anyway,now that a
little over a month has passed,i feel a
little better,i'm over the hump.I'm
starting to accept things for how they
are.All I can tell you is it takes time.I
know it hurts and you don't knwo why or
how she could do this to you when you've
tried everything in your power to make it
better,make it work.But she just doesn't
appreciate you.I know . . .Time is what
it takes.In the mean time,spend lots of
time with your kids,or some time with
friends out to lunch or the beach or
something.Keep yourself occupied.I'm sorry
you had to go through this!
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 10-22-06 10:12am
Strugling, don't see it as something
you've done wrong.................."or how
could I have done it
differently?"...........................Wh
at's done is done! Humans are an odd
lot......................Say and do things
totally contrary to what they said 5
minutes ago.................Live for your
children, find a woman who will appreciate
you.......
...............And as usual, melissa's
right...............Sounds very cliche
but, time heals all
wounds.................................Hey
, .M hope your doin all right sweetie!
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