His No Sex Drive = Driving Me Away Posted: 10-15-06 17:40pm
My husband (age 36), was recently
diagnosised with low testosterone and type
2 diabetes and given the androderm patch.
We have been married for 8 years and his
sex drive has never seemed normal and it
only got worse. I had begun to suspect
that he was a homosexual.
He also has high blood pressure. I have
brought his low libido up to a few
doctors, but it was usally ignored because
we have 4 kids. I have tried everything
over the years to encourage him on the
importance of having an active sex life,
from bibilical, physical and emotional
well being. I have threatened to leave
and cheat on him numerous times. He has
pretty much ignored me.
So, I am relieved to know the cause.
Although, I do believe that if he would
have tried to do participate and used his
"utensil" a little more frequently that it
would not have gotten this bad so fast.
He didnt kiss me, hold me, give massages
or anything, absolutely nothing. We have
had intercourse about 5-6 times this year
and it is the middle of october. Does the
old adage use it or loose it apply here or
is low testosterone the cause of it all
? Please help.....
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niners
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Joined: 25 Oct 2005 Posts: 31
Posted: 10-16-06 08:12am
Even if he has low test level he still has
to cum. A guys balls can only hold so
much so, he either is jerking off or
having wet dreams, having sex. My wife
has a low sex drive because of depression
and she is on anti-depression meds that
lower her sex drive. So I know how you
feel about only having sex four or five
times a year. I would at least eat out
your pus@y for you if I was him. My wife
knows I get horny so at least she gives me
bj.Lately our sex life has picked up
alittle. I love her and would never leave
her. If you want you can pm me if you
want to talk.
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2queen
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Joined: 15 Oct 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 10-16-06 14:11pm
Thanks, for the info. I totally agree.
Low testorone, does not answer everything
here. At least your wife tries to be
attentive to your needs in the ways she
can. Because like you said out of
consideration for me, he could have taken
care of my needs. But he was not doing
that either. Which is why I still
struggle with rather I should mess around
or not.
I didn't know that a guy's ball can only
hold so much cum. He tell the doctor
that every since he had his vasectomy 3
years ago, when he ejaculates it hurts.
Could build up in his balls be the cause?
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niners
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Joined: 25 Oct 2005 Posts: 31
Posted: 10-17-06 06:55am
I learned that from sue johanson show. A
wife called in because her husband was
jerking off .But she wasn't having sex
with him, sue said that a guy either has
to jerk off, have sex or he will have a
wet dream, period!!!
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mark13
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Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 13
Posted: 10-17-06 07:20am
One can check sypmtoms for low libido like
:having sleeping problems,
hair-loss,gaining weight, depression,
getting tired quickly.If these symptoms
prevails than surely you have a problem of
erectile dysfunction.So if your
testosterone level is decreasing than you
have to resort to erectile dysfunction
drugs like [advertising removed] and
others.
Tips on increased libido and healthy
penis:
1. Don't smoke since it introduces
chemical in blood which affects
testosterone level.
2. Do some physical exercises.To get
testosterone levels up naturally, put
yourself on a good weight lifting program
and it will increase naturally.
3. Proper diet.Eat plenty of fruits it
will drop your weight naturally and you
will notice your libido returning and your
ability to satisfy it as well.
4. Do not over-indulge in drinking.
5. Find food rich in all the vitamins
and minerals.
6. Mastrubate if alone because the
chemicals and reactions required for
keeping your penis healthy are put to
use.
Source:
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-17-06 13:51pm
niners
wrote:
even if he has low test
level he still has to cum. A guys balls
can only hold so
much.
wrong
sperm production is on demand.
It take approx 24-48 for sperm to mature
(which is why when trying for a baby sex
every other day is best).
Sperm is not made and "stored" in the
testes - that is a myth used by men to get
girls to give in and have sex with them.
To the orginal poster - it doesn't sound
like you give your guy much
encouragement.
It probably began as something small and
he felt ashamed and so now he just has an
incredibly low sex drive.
Gentle persuasion and encouragement and
support will get better results.
And no, if he has low testosterone - he
has a medical reason - in fact he may not
even be producing sperm depending on his
testosterone levels.
Sounds like he has a genuine low sex drive
and a medical reason to boot.
I doubt he is jerking off at all - in fact
I doubt he even thinks about sex much at
all.
This does not make him gay either.
Cripes the man has a medical low hormone
level - the very hormone that fuels his
sex drive.
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niners
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Joined: 25 Oct 2005 Posts: 31
Posted: 10-17-06 14:10pm
Thanks kia I didn't know that. I figure
what sue was saying was right since she
was a lpn.
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niners
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Joined: 25 Oct 2005 Posts: 31
Posted: 10-17-06 14:29pm
Kia are you a doctor or a nurse? I was
just on sue's site and it said said that
if a guy doesn't jerk off or have sex that
he will have wet dreams. Sue was a
lnp(nurse).
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2queen
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Joined: 15 Oct 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 10-17-06 15:11pm
Thanks, for the input. He was overweight
when I met him and he has gotten even
bigger (unfortunately so have :d from
lack of activity). I have purchased
vitamins, herbal libido busters, and told
him that rather he feels like it or not
sex is good for his health. His father
had prostate cancer, which makes him more
at risk in addition to his other medical
problems.
I told him that I am sorry to hear about
his problems and that I hope he is able to
get help. He will need to take ownership
of his problem, I can't anymore. It has
caused me to much stress and trauma.
I do not know if he masturbates, but I do
quite a bit :d . He sleeps on one side
of the bed and me on the other. He has
not used his testorone patch yet, and I
read that that can cause side effects on
the female partner or children if we come
into contact with it. Side effects like
male pattern baldness, deepening of the
voice, facial hair etc, so even if he does
use it, I will be scared to be next to him
not exactly something I need at this
point. He has to change the location of
the patch each night to different
locations on his body. I do not want the
residue touching me.
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-17-06 15:19pm
niners
wrote:
kia are you a doctor or a
nurse? I was just on sue's site and it
said said that if a guy doesn't jerk off
or have sex that he will have wet dreams.
Sue was a
lnp(nurse).
nope, i'm just educated
also don't believe what everyone tells you
they are on the internet.
I could just as easy say I was a nurse or
a gyn or whatever.
? Please help.....
