Has anyone else been in a situation where
they felt like they were used for sex?
When is too soon to sleep with someone?
What are you supposed to do when a guy
doesn't call you after you slept with
him??
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Tillybird
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Apr 2006 Posts: 8 Location: Uk
Posted: 10-17-06 08:59am
I think this happens to most people at
some point.
There is no set time to wait for sex but
if it starts off from the word go as being
a sexual fling chances are it will stay
that way. Obviously this isnt always the
case, I have had a relationship after sex
on the first date.
To avoid feeling awful best thing is to
forget about it move on and make note to
self to think seriously next time. If you
had a million dollars you wouldnt just
hand it to anyone after knowing them for a
few hours, a day, week or month you'd
want to get toknow them first and you are
worth more than that!!! save it for
someone who deserves it & dont beat
yourself up over it.
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uglybunny
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2006 Posts: 2
I Know How You Feel... Posted: 10-23-06 04:53am
I met this girl in a writing class I had
freshman year of college. We talked a
little, but never really hung out. Then
on the last day of the quarter, my writing
class had a barbecue. While at the
barbecue this girl started to hit on me.
I wasn't expecting this because she's so
out of my league. I mean seriously. I
don't think i'm ugly or anything(despite
the screen name), but I didn't even
consider trying to pick up this girl
because, frankly, I was intimidated by her
looks.
So, when she started hitting on me you can
imagine my surprise. It was an
interesting night, but I didn't think
anything would come of it. The quarter
ended and I forgot about the whole thing.
But when we came back in the winter, we
crossed paths again. She shared the same
hometown with my roommate at the time and
they hung out every once in a while.
She renewed her interest in me and I
proceeded with caution. I had just
gotten out of a really serious
relationship that ended pretty badly (for
me). I didn't really want anything to do
with women at the time, but she seemed
nice. And fun. And I needed that, or so
I thought, to get out and do things.
So we saw each other a few times. I
commented to a friend at about this time
that I felt like she was "hunting" me
because she seemed to pursue me with such
vigor, yet for what seemed to be no reason
-- again I still didn't think I was good
enough/attractive enough for her. So
after seeing each othera few more times we
ended up sleeping together.
Now I don't know what happened really
after this point. Basically we hung out
a few more times and fooled around etc.
We weren't dating exclusively but I felt
like we had a connection of some sort.
But one day she just got extremely flakey.
She stopped calling me, and I got tired
of leaving messages only to get hurried
messages or calls back days later with
nothing but apologies. So, I stopped
calling her.
I feel like she used me for sex, and I
don't know why she would do that. If she
just wanted to sleep with me a few times
and that was that, she could have said so.
I wouldn't have tried to get to know
her, opened up to her, and I wouldn't have
had any other feelings for her than
lustful ones.
The point is that, yes, I know how you
feel! It really hurt me too. But know
this, while sex is very personal, it isn't
the end all be all. It doesn't define
you as a person. Your sexuality, sexual
needs, limits, and morals are just one
aspect of yourself.
The person above has some great advise so
listen to them!
save it for
someone who deserves it & dont beat
yourself up over it.