Girlfriend Went With Good Friend.... Posted: 10-16-06 19:33pm
So what had happened was I was going out
with this girl for 2 years and 4
months....She was the first and only girl
I have ever had sex with...And I was the
first and only guy she ever had sex
with...
I broke up with her for 2 months and we
got back together again...But I found out
that during those 2 months she slept with
a good friend of mine (no longer)....
I really don't know what to do...I know
i'm acting childish and selfish about this
but I want to sleep with someone else too
if she did...But i'm not the cheating
guy...She went abroad for 2 weeks and said
I could but I didn't even though the
chance came around....And when I think
about her and him it really tears me up
inside...The whole dream of being someones
first and only for the rest of your
lives....
I love her with all my heart and don't
want anyone else...But I really don't know
how I can live with myself...I know it is
my fault cause I broke up with her....I
dunno maybe someone can see where i'm
coming from and can help me?
Thanks
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 10-17-06 06:46am
Dude,you just gotta let it go.You guys
were broken up which gives her every right
to sleep with whoever she wants to.You let
her go.As for your friend,i wouldn't call
him a friend.Even if I broke up with
someone my friend would never go after
him.Its childish for you to want to have
sex with someone else just because she
did.Ask yourself,"is this going to make
things better,or make things feel worse?"
I know how you feel but don't do something
stupid!
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kriger
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Oct 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 10-17-06 09:34am
I know what you mean but what gets to me
is the fact that when we weren't together
I didn't go with anyone...I tried to build
something with a person cause I only do
sleep with someone cause it means
something...
And when she told me that she went with
him her words were 'it was just a medical
question' ...
I don't know really....Just never pictured
her to be that kind of person...She first
said she did it to get over me but then
realised she did it cause she was mad at
me.
And i've thought about it...And I honestly
don't know if it will help or not...It
might it might not....Doing it will
probably be stupid as hell haha...But it
just sucks....I feel really confused.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 10-17-06 10:27am
kriger
wrote:
i know what you mean but
what gets to me is the fact that when we
weren't together I didn't go with
anyone...I tried to build something with a
person cause I only do sleep with someone
cause it means something...
And when she told me that she went with
him her words were 'it was just a !@#^'
...
I don't know really....Just never pictured
her to be that kind of person...She first
said she did it to get over me but then
realised she did it cause she was mad at
me.
And i've thought about it...And I honestly
don't know if it will help or not...It
might it might not....Doing it will
probably be stupid as hell haha...But it
just sucks....I feel really
confused.
well maybe she was mad about the break
up.There really isn't anything you can do
about it as you weren't together at the
time although it was disrespectful.The
only thing I can tell you is if it bothers
you that much maybe you two shouldn't be
together anymore?. . .
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kriger
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Oct 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 10-17-06 16:20pm
It bothers me once in a blue moon...Now
being one of those times....Well not now
exactly more like last night.
I can't not be with her, she's the best
thing in my life and I love her with all
my heart and would do anything for her.
Just being hurt by a person who means this
much to you is kind of painful.
But she is the only person I see a future
with.
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Frook
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 7
Go Easy On Him.... Posted: 10-17-06 17:14pm
melissa_20
wrote:
dude,you just gotta let it
go.You guys were broken up which gives her
every right to sleep with whoever she
wants to.You let her go.As for your
friend,i wouldn't call him a friend.Even
if I broke up with someone my friend would
never go after him.Its childish for you to
want to have sex with someone else just
because she did.Ask yourself,"is this
going to make things better,or make things
feel worse?" I know how you feel but don't
do something
stupid!
guy just had his heart broken...Let's try
and be a little more sympathetic. Even if
broken up for a bit, that doesn't give you
a "right" to have sex with other people.
By which I mean if you have sex with
another, don't get back together with the
first person. It's not fair to them.
It's obvious she didn't love you man...I
am sorry. But trust me, a cold hearted
woman like this who after less then 2
months "broken up", would have sex with
somebody, your former best friend for
christ's sake...She is not a good woman.
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 273 Location: Japan
Posted: 10-18-06 10:49am
First broke up is broke up. The is no
rule that says you cant have sex after you
break up. I never heard of the chasity
rule after a break up. It is not like
they were married but seperated. They
were broke up, over with, done, kaput.
Next, I do not see the big deal about a
friend dating a girl or person I went out
with. You can not control people. And if
two people want to hook up, so be it. I
would never tell my friends that they
could not date my ex girl friends. I have
enough confidence in myself to handle
that. If anything, I would limit contact
with said people, but to dis-friend some
one is just wrong, jealous and
controlling.
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Frook
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 7
So What You're Saying Is.... Posted: 10-18-06 19:27pm
makoto
wrote:
first broke up is broke up.
The is no rule that says you cant have
sex after you break up. I never heard of
the chasity rule after a break up. It is
not like they were married but seperated.
They were broke up, over with, done,
kaput.
Next, I do not see the big deal about a
friend dating a girl or person I went out
with. You can not control people. And
if two people want to hook up, so be it.
I would never tell my friends that they
could not date my ex girl friends. I
have enough confidence in myself to handle
that. If anything, I would limit
contact with said people, but to
dis-friend some one is just wrong, jealous
and
controlling.
thing is it wasn't rweally a breakup but a
temporary seperation. If you break up
that entails not getting back together,
they did. Granted of course you can't
"control" anyone but no offense, any
friend who did that is not a friend. How
could a "good friend" see you're heart
broken, then less then 2mths after the
break-up sleep with the girl? It's not
about confidence, it's about being a good
hearted decent friend.
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saz89
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2007 Posts: 12 Location: northeast england
Posted: 03-15-07 07:02am
she will have done it to get over you and
to try and uplift her ego "yer i was
dumped, but i slept with one of your
friends, youv lost two people"
theres nothing you really CAN do if you
want to staywith her
and if u keep bringing it up it will grind
on her and she wont be happy with you.
try having a good long chat with her then
sweep it under the mat
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Willa Weintraub
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Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 3399 Location: The Beach!
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Posted: 03-15-07 08:56am
this is an old post man! but since I
missed someone replying to me. . .
Frook
wrote:
melissa_20
wrote:
dude,you just gotta let it
go.You guys were broken up which gives her
every right to sleep with whoever she
wants to.You let her go.As for your
friend,i wouldn't call him a friend.Even
if I broke up with someone my friend would
never go after him.Its childish for you to
want to have sex with someone else just
because she did.Ask yourself,"is this
going to make things better,or make things
feel worse?" I know how you feel but don't
do something
stupid!
guy just had his heart broken...Let's try
and be a little more sympathetic. Even if
broken up for a bit, that doesn't give you
a "right" to have sex with other people.
By which I mean if you have sex with
another, don't get back together with the
first person. It's not fair to them.
It's obvious she didn't love you man...I
am sorry. But trust me, a cold hearted
woman like this who after less then 2
months "broken up", would have sex with
somebody, your former best friend for
christ's sake...She is not a good
woman.
I know this is an old
ppost but. . . hey man,i'm just telling
the truth.yeah he had his heart broken but
guess what?*he* let *her* go.his
fault.sghe was free to do what she wanted
and there is nothing he can do about it
but get over it or move on to someone new!
she had every right to do what she
wanted.they weren't together anymore.means
she isn't attached to him,there was no
cheating involved. maybe sghe had sex with
soeone else to helkp get over him,I don't
know,but you don't come across as a woman
so you wouldn't know (excuse me if i'm
wrong).
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RedDelight
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 131 Location: I'm a Yettie!
I Agree Posted: 03-15-07 09:54am
I am sorry- but you are wrong, Frook.
It's ok- we all make mistakes!
If you don't agree, then there is no
reason for you to be out of control.
Besides- look at the ratio here- Melissa,
saz89, Makoto are all correct... that's
3:1 well now it's 4:1 with me in the mix
Oh...and kriger- get over it. Get out
there- find yourself a barbie- and go to
town with her!!
RedDelight
