I am new to this so bear with me. I have
been married for 17yrs. Have 4 kids.
The youngest one is 14. I have not had a
desire for sex since my youngest has been
born. I hurt, bleed, cannot breath when
he is on top of me, he weighs app 325lbs,
I have had my tubes tied cause I had 4
c-sections. I get told it is normal for
me to feel this way, I do not care if I
ever have sex with my husband ever again.
I cringe when he asks(can we fool around)
he is not romantic at all. I have been
emotionally abused by him. He has false
teeth. And he bites my breast when I do
finally give in. So what would you all do
and how would you handle my situation
please tell me
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Fairy*Godmother
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Joined: 11 Oct 2003 Posts: 1387 Location: , Georgia USA
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No Communication? Posted: 10-18-06 12:26pm
You stated you'd been married to this man
for 17 years. Can you not talk to him and
explain how you feel? I understand the
emotionally and verbal abuse, its a turn
off and nothing in hte world can take that
pain away...As for being over 300 pounds
and false teeth biting.......I just can't
imagine. I do understand where you are
coming from..........."you can wake up its
over now"....Does that ring a bell? How
about," did you know the ceiling fan
blades can go around 8 times before it
starts wobbling?" or "move, I can't see
the tv"........After 17 years, things do
get borging, especailly if there is no
romance and there has been hurt from
things said. If there is anyway you can
talk to your husband, maybe tell him he
bits, and it hurts...Maybe suggest a
little romance, light some scented
candles, put on some soft music, put on
somehting really seductive and get him a
zorro mask!Whatever it takes. 17 years is
a long time to stay with someone, and I
know you love him, you just can't stand
the thought of "performing the wifely
duty"...... Good luck girlfriend!
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-18-06 16:11pm
Woah girl I am not suprised you do not
feel "horny".
Without being rude but how old are you.
I ask because as we get older the lining
of the vagina gets thinner and drier.
Therefore we need a little extra help in
the lube department.
Be a proud ky user
but even then a 300+ man lying on top of
you grunting and biting is hardly
attractive.
I'm afraid there is nothing for it but
telling him firmly no biting.
You would probably benefit from couple
counselling or something as it sounds like
a communication break down.
If you have been emotionally and
physically abused by him are you looking
for support to leave him? Or are you
looking to try and salvage the
relationship?
