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Untimely Blessings
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 383
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Need Some Air to Breath And Some Room to Cry
Posted: 01-27-04 23:24pm
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I am sorry about not being on in a while,
we have gotten a lot of bad news here
recently and I am trying to pull my family
and myself together. We found out that my
mom is sick again, but I don’t think she
is getting well this time. I want
christina to spend as much time with her
as possible, so we have been doing stuff
everyday. Wow, I am like in tears again,
its so frustrating, I can’t do anything, I
feel helpless. Well I just wanted some
time to talk with you girls when christina
is in bed so she can’t see me cry. Its
hard to talk about any of it. If any of
you have any ideas of how I can tell
christina, it would be good. My mom said
that she doesn’t want her to know, but how
can I lie to her? She can see that she is
getting weaker and paler, and I don’t want
her to wake up one morning and her nana
not be there and her not know why. I mean
should I tell her? Should I not? Damn it
this shouldn’t be happening, she is too
young and I need her, christina needs her,
my dad and laura and my brother and kyo
and nathan and matthew need her. Ok I am
going to stop before I cry any harder.
Thank you for reading, it means the world
to me that you care enough to do that!
Kelly
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004
Posts: 1436
Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
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Posted: 01-27-04 23:36pm
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Hun.. Im so so sorry.. .How old r u and
how olds your daughter? And I how is your
mom sick? Im so sorry this is happening.
. I dont know what I would do.. Maybe
just tell her that her gramma is sick and
that she will be here long as she can and
hopefully will get well.. But if she does
have to leave just tell her how much her
gramma does love her and to never forget
it and just to cherish every minute shes
here. . But u dont want to scare her..
Is your mothers sickness fatal? This must
be so hard. Im so sorry you have to go
through this. But u must be so strong not
to cry in front of christina.. I really
hope ur mother gets well I will keep her
in my prayers.. Im sure everyone will..
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Untimely Blessings
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 383
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Posted: 01-27-04 23:47pm
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Kari thank you, I am 19 years old and my
daughter will be 6 years old on july 4th.
My mother has cancer, it started as breast
cancer and has moved into her bones and
blood stream. The doctor told her that it
is too far gone for any treatment and that
any treatment now would only prolong her
pain and weaken her, she goes in tomorrow
for a time assessment. Please keep her in
your prayers, my nana died when my mom was
14 years old, just 6 weeks after she was
diagnosed at this stage. I want my mom to
be there to walk me down the aisle and
watch me have more babies! Thank you
again, your a sweetheart.
Kel
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ERICA1121
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 252
Location: DETROIT
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Posted: 01-28-04 00:33am
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Hi. I know how you feel and how hard this
is for you to go through especially having
a child. I lost my mom at the age of 17.
I am now 20. My mother died out of
nowhere. She complained of breathing
problems so I took her into the hospital
and they diagnosed her with severe
pneumonia and admitted her in the icu
since it was so bad. 5 days later she
died. Now how many people do you know
that die from that nowdays? Well after an
autopsy, come to find out she was
misdiagnosed and actually her coronary
artery was blocked and as a result of the
blockage increasing, she had a heart
attack. They never even knew. As far as
the family was concerned she was in good
health. My mother was 42 when she passed.
I encourage that you take this time that
you have left with your mom and spend
every moment you have with her. You have
the time. I didn't. As far as your
daughter goes, just explain to her how it
is. My sister did that with her boys and
they were only 6 and 8. But be strong for
your daughter. Now is the time that she
can learn about death and also she will be
more capable of handling it later in life.
I am here for you if you need to talk.
Pm me if you want to exchange e-mail
addy's or w/e. I will pray for you and
your family. You can make it through
this. ~ erica.
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honeycoco
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2003
Posts: 375
Location: georgia
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Posted: 01-28-04 00:42am
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Kelly my heart goes out for you. You have
to have faith the situation may look
impossible but if you put it in god's
hands he can work miracles. I cant
imagine life without my mom and I hope
your mom get better. I will pray for your
family tonight
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youngmomtobe
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2003
Posts: 728
Location: Illinois
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Posted: 01-28-04 09:38am
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Sweetie I dontk now what to tell u....Im
praying for u!! My friend from back home
lost her mom when she was 13.....Just stay
strong I know it hard to stay strong
especially when u feel helpless and u just
wanna do something but u dont know what!!!
Hang in there .... I agree w/ karim
tell her .. That her nana is sick and u
dont know how long she will be around for
or something idk sweetie I dont like death
but hang in there im praying for u!! Much
love !!!!
Jen &
river
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 01-28-04 09:50am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-05-04 10:34am; edited 1 time in total
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 01-28-04 10:23am
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Kari, you have my blessings, and my
prayers. I am hoping that everything
works out the way you want it to, and I am
praying that all our prayers help. I dont
know what to tell you about your
daughhter, sean is real cloe to his gg,
and if something was to happen to her I
dont know what I would do. I dont know if
I would or would not tell her, maybe you
hsould get a piece of paper and weigh the
pros and cons. This is a hard one
babe..Im praying for you!!
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Untimely Blessings
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 383
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Posted: 01-28-04 10:55am
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Thank you girls very much for all of your
support, I wrote my mom a letter last
night and gave it to her this morning,
telling her everything I love about her
and what she means to me. Tonight I am
going to talk to christina. My mom went
to her appt. About 10 minutes ago, and I
am so worried what the doctor will tell
her. Well I should go. Thanks again.
Erica and jennifer I am so sorry about
your mom and grammy. I do think I will
need the help and advice.
Kel
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 01-28-04 11:01am
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Make sure you update us after the doc
visit and let us know what is going on.
*looking to the skys*
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Untimely Blessings
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 383
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Posted: 01-28-04 11:03am
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I will, thank you stacie!
Kel
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 01-28-04 11:15am
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No prob..Do you have yahoo??Send me a
message if you do mesmerizeu15!! Hope to
talk to you soon....Love stacie
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 01-28-04 13:34pm
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-05-04 10:35am; edited 1 time in total
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smith8500
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 01-28-04 17:32pm
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Kel,
i talked to you last night. You know
where I stand. I love you a lot sweetie!
Let me know how the appt. Went
today....
All my love and prayers,
chanda
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Untimely Blessings
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 383
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Posted: 01-28-04 22:24pm
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The appt. Sucked to be frank, the doctor
was very rude and not sympathetic at all.
He said that she has 3 months maybe more
maybe less, and thats exactly how he said
it. I made her dinner tonight and she
took christina to disney on ice, I think
it was called, geez I am real with it huh?
Lol anyway just wanted to let you all
know. Thanks again for all your support,
I am gonna need it later, but for now I am
sucking it up and spending all the time I
can with my mom, that was the best advice
you girls could ever give me!
Kel
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003
Posts: 875
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Posted: 01-28-04 22:33pm
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Aw kell i'm so sorry about what your going
through but you are such an amazing and
strong woman. If you can give birth to
and start raising a child at 13 and still
be the successfull level-headed person you
are today you know you can make it through
this. I know none of what anyone says is
going to make it any better and im sorry
the doc was an problem but just enjoy
every moment you have with your mom, spend
alot of time with her and tell her how
much you love her. Wish you the best and
lots of hugs
love
tanya
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HomecomingQueen2003
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Dec 2003
Posts: 936
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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Posted: 01-28-04 22:39pm
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Omg kelly I am so so sorry sweetie! You
definately do not deserve this! Like the
girls said spend time with you mom and
make them happy moments. My papa died of
cancer and it was very hard, but I have so
many good memories of him that I have in
photos, objects but most of all in my
heart, make sure christina spends alot of
time with her, she will remember I
promise, my papa died when I was in 3rd
grade and I remember every detail of him
and his house! Lol
meg
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004
Posts: 1436
Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
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Posted: 01-29-04 23:17pm
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Oops.. A few times u girls wrote my name
instead of kellys* prolly cuz I was right
after her post and in between* anyhow..
How r u doing now kelly? Are things going
any differently? Any updates?
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Untimely Blessings
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004
Posts: 383
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Posted: 01-29-04 23:23pm
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Hey kari, thank you very much for asking!
I am doing alright, I am trying to be
happy and keep my head up, my mom is doing
everything to be a dork and make me smile
all the time, and its working!! Lol we
told christina and she took it hard at
first but thanks to her's and jordan's
inside joke, she thinks her nana is
turning into a fairy godmother so she is
doing better! Lol
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 01-30-04 10:23am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-05-04 10:36am; edited 1 time in total
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