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Confused Posted: 10-25-06 15:10pm
I'm sure that I am pregnant. I am a week
and a half late with my period, and my
boobs are really sore and my back aches,
and what used to be an easy task, like
walking up stairs, now makes me loose my
breathe. I'm not taking any medication,
including birth control, and I dont have a
sickness, and no i'm not stressed. My
friends tell me i'm pregnant but I dont
have health insurance to get checked and I
cannot ask my grandma to buy me an at home
pregnacy test because she'll get mad.
Can someone please help me and decide
wether or not my friends and my believes
are right. I really want this child if I
am.
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Becky
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Posted: 10-25-06 15:12pm
Why are you trying to get pregnant (i,.E
not using birth control and wanting a
baby) if you don't even have insurance?
This is mad! How are you going to be
cared for during your pregnancy?!!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-25-06 15:16pm
We can't tell you if you're pregnant or
not. Sorry.
If you have a friend that drives, ask them
to take you to planned parenthood. They
will give you a .F.R.E.E pregnancy test,
and can probably give you birth control if
you aren't.
You didn't say whether or not you've had
unprotected sex. Condoms will protect you
not only against pregnancy, but also
against .S.T.D's.
I'm assuming from your post that you live
with your grandmother. If you're not
pregnant, please use protection in the
future. It's not fair on your grandmother
for you to bring a baby into her house,
especially if you can't even manage to get
a test on your own. How will you afford a
baby if you can't even afford a pregnancy
test?
I hope, for your sake and your family's,
that you're not pregnant. But get to a
planned parenthood facility and get
tested. That's all you can do.
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Becky
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Re: Confused Posted: 10-25-06 15:20pm
breighna
wrote:
i'm not taking any
medication, including birth control,
.
she's not using birth control. Thats what
got me mad. How can someone be that
irresponsible when they can't even afford
a baby?
What about the prospective dad? Would he
support you?
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-25-06 15:22pm
Well, I meant "unprotected" as in condoms
too. When she said she isn't taking birth
control, I assumed she meant the pill,
since she was lumping that in with
medication. But come on, put a condom on
at least.
Sex without condoms is pretty dumb if
you're not married or seriously
commited... Just my opinion, but
whatever...
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Becky
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Posted: 10-25-06 15:25pm
Lol. Yeah I never considered that.
To the original poster- did you use
condoms?
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Breighna
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Re: Confused Posted: 10-25-06 16:05pm
beckster06
wrote:
breighna
wrote:
i'm not taking any
medication, including birth control,
.
she's not using birth control. Thats
what got me mad. How can someone be that
irresponsible when they can't even afford
a baby?
What about the prospective dad? Would he
support you?
my boyfriend will support us and I cant
use birth control bc it makes me extremely
sick and have to go to the hospital
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Breighna
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Re: Confused Posted: 10-25-06 16:06pm
beckster06
wrote:
breighna
wrote:
i'm not taking any
medication, including birth control,
.
she's not using birth control. Thats
what got me mad. How can someone be that
irresponsible when they can't even afford
a baby?
What about the prospective dad? Would he
support you?
my boyfriend will support us and I cant
use birth control bc it makes me extremely
sick and have to go to the hospital
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Breighna
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Posted: 10-25-06 16:06pm
beckster06
wrote:
lol. Yeah I never
considered that.
To the original poster- did you use
condoms?
no, he cant cum with them on
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Posted: 10-25-06 16:18pm
breighna
wrote:
beckster06
wrote:
lol. Yeah I never
considered that.
To the original poster- did you use
condoms?
no, he cant cum with them
on
oh man... Hahahahahahahaha!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-25-06 16:18pm
Of course he can. It just feels better
without one.
You really should protect yourself. It's
selfish to bring a baby into the world
when you can't support it and buy it
everything it needs. Even if your
boyfriend did support it, you would
probably just be getting by. You need to
think about everything. It's not just
buying diapers and clothes. You need
health insurance. You need reliable
transportation. You need a steady income.
You need "rainy day" money, in case
something happens.
If you're not living on your own, you have
no reason to bring a baby into the world
on purpose. If you're not paying your own
bills and rent, it's not your house, and
you're not supporting your own baby.
Whoever you're living with (grandmother?)
is. You're not thinking about your baby's
best interest, you're thinking about
yourself.
If you honestly can't even get a pregnancy
test without your grandma, how do you
really expect to raise a baby? Could you
honestly say that your baby would have
everything it needs? It wouldn't. And I
wouldn't rely on your boyfriend to stick
around through thick and thin. I'm not
saying he *will* run away, but he wouldn't
be the first. Or the second.
He can absolutely get an orgasm wearing a
condom. The fact that he won't protect
you from being a young mother because it
feels better to him, shows me that he's
too immature to handle something as huge
and lifechanging as fatherhood.
I'm a b*tch today, I guess. Sorry. But
that's reality.
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Re: Confused Posted: 10-25-06 16:18pm
breighna
wrote:
beckster06
wrote:
breighna
wrote:
i'm not taking any
medication, including birth control,
.
she's not using birth control. Thats
what got me mad. How can someone be
that irresponsible when they can't even
afford a baby?
What about the prospective dad? Would
he support
you?
my boyfriend will support us and I cant
use birth control bc it makes me extremely
sick and have to go to the
hospital
you know they make different kinds, don't
you? You have to find one that works for
you.
How old are you?
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Becky
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Posted: 10-25-06 16:20pm
There are lots of different types of birth
control. You can't play with fire like
this or you will end up getting burned.
You need to go for some advice. Perhaps
get the ultra thin condoms.
So if you are pregnant you will be happy?
Fair enough but what happens afer that
child is born.
Are you going to keep having kids cause
you 'can't' use contraception?
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-25-06 16:23pm
It angers me off when people say they're
"supporting" their baby, when all they
really do is buy diapers and formula.
Who pays for the roof over the baby's
head? Or the lights inside? Or the water
they use to bathe the baby? Or the heat
in the wintertime?
Please.
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Posted: 10-25-06 16:24pm
beckster06
wrote:
are you going to keep having
kids cause you 'can't' use
contraception?
good point!
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-25-06 18:34pm
breighna
wrote:
beckster06
wrote:
lol. Yeah I never
considered that.
To the original poster- did you use
condoms?
no, he cant cum with them
on
i think this is a very standard line when
it comes to men. Apparently no man has
ever been able to come with condoms.
Either that or they are allergic.
Sweetie, if he doesn't have enough money
to support you now and move you out of
grandma's house, he won't have enough
money to support a baby.
Get the money from him for a pregnancy
test. Tell him the support starts right
there. Or send him the doctor's bill.
Now that will be supportive!
If you don't use protection, don't worry -
you'll get pregnant eventually. I'm sure
grandma will adore that.
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sexymomma
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Posted: 10-25-06 18:48pm
ayamiyaki
wrote:
of course he can. It just
feels better without one.
You really should protect yourself. It's
selfish to bring a baby into the world
when you can't support it and buy it
everything it needs. Even if your
boyfriend did support it, you would
probably just be getting by. You need to
think about everything. It's not just
buying diapers and clothes. You need
health insurance. You need reliable
transportation. You need a steady
income. You need "rainy day" money, in
case something happens.
If you're not living on your own, you have
no reason to bring a baby into the world
on purpose. If you're not paying your
own bills and rent, it's not your house,
and you're not supporting your own baby.
Whoever you're living with (grandmother?)
is. You're not thinking about your
baby's best interest, you're thinking
about yourself.
If you honestly can't even get a pregnancy
test without your grandma, how do you
really expect to raise a baby? Could you
honestly say that your baby would have
everything it needs? It wouldn't. And
I wouldn't rely on your boyfriend to stick
around through thick and thin. I'm not
saying he *will* run away, but he wouldn't
be the first. Or the second.
He can absolutely get an orgasm wearing a
condom. The fact that he won't protect
you from being a young mother because it
feels better to him, shows me that he's
too immature to handle something as huge
and lifechanging as fatherhood.
I'm a b*tch today, I guess. Sorry. But
that's
reality.
