Okay heres the deal..
My husband has a problem with porn and
looking at other woman, models online,
porn stars, and random girls that live in
the same town as us. He even created a
profile on a website that allows u to have
webcam sex with other woman that live in
ur area. We have a 4 month old son and I
can understand him having problems seeing
me as his wife...Now he just sees me as a
mom. But this has upset me so much that
ive threated to leave. Hes willing to get
therapy, but I dont believe it will work.
I feel im not good enough for him. Will I
ever be? We have sex all the time! At
least once a day. We dont have boring sex
either. I need advice. Should I leave?
I feel like hes 2 steps away from cheating
on me...And its left me feeling completely
unwanted by him.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-26-06 02:45am
As he is willing try the
therapy/counselling - it helps for a lot
of people.
Personally I don't see porn online or
magazines as cheating. It's more
voyeuristic.
Men will always look at a pretty
girl/woman and when we are
pregnant/hormonal/feeling low we notice
this more than at other times.
You say you guys still have a good sex
life which is positive because most guys
who cheat stop having sex with their
wife/girlfriend.
Talk to him about how it makes you feel,
try the counselling (it will take more
than one session).
If after that this is still a big issue,
then you might have to look at going your
separate ways.
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x0x-Andrea
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 61 Location: Vancouver
Posted: 10-26-06 11:27am
Yeah, I have to agree with the above
noter. Whenever I used to go to my
boyfriends house, I would check his
history on his computer and it would be
all porn. At first I was shocked and
upset, and felt the same way . . .
Unwanted, but a friend explained to me
that it's a guy thing. The
pictures/videos they see of other girls,
those are obviously not the kinds of girls
they can see them spending the rest of
their lives with, they're just dirty
whores (lol). I agree, I don't see it as
cheating. Me and my boyfriend still have
great sex, and have a very loving
relationship.
Hope things work out ok. But yeah, if
it's really that big of an issue, then i'd
say try the therapy...
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 10-26-06 18:19pm
Even though I am pro porn(see broken heart
section) I do not think it is right he is
meeting locals on line for web sex.
Just think if he was calling them and
talking dirty to them. Not cheat in the
traditional sense, but cheating just the
same. Next, how easy is it to exchange
information and set up a time and place?
Looking at porn is okay, but meeting
people on line for sex is not good.
What you do about it is your choice, but
do not make the mistake he about him
cheating. He is.
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Euphoric
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2006 Posts: 47 Location: ,
I Agree.. Posted: 11-05-06 15:20pm
I totally agree with makoto. Think about
if the tables were turned.. Would he
leave you for having cyber sex, or even
playing with a web cam?
I do believe that, is cheating!!!
At least the worst part is already over...
You know about it...
If he is betraying you, is he worth it?
Everyone will give you advice about what
they think you should do, or what they
think is right, but I believe if you are
in this forum, you want advice from people
that don't know you, so they can't tell
you what you want to hear.
I know it can be hard, but personally, I
would leave. To me that’s not okay.
You are a woman, and not a toy. You
deserve so much more respect! He needs to
realize that.. Just follow your heart..
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steph25
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2006 Posts: 9 Location: miami
Posted: 11-05-06 16:42pm
Yeah, I see no problem with the porn. I
mean, i'm a girl and I watch more porn
than my boyfriend! Lol. The thing is
that I don't see it as having sex with
those people, its just the act itself. I
like to watch...
In fact, I think about my boyfriend the
whole time and how we could that, or how
we had. It just turns me on a lot.
I guess guys feel this way too. U don't
necessarily want the person on the screen,
you want the act. Make sence?
The online webcam... Well, that there is
odd... Talk to him. Ask him what he
gets out of these women that he can't get
from you. Lets hope he's onest because
then maybe you can make some changes
yourself to keep both of you happy
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