Anyone Else Feel This Way? Posted: 10-28-06 16:28pm
Ok, well my husabnd's cousin had a little
girl 8 months ago. His cousin feels like
she has to compete with me about
everything! So she's always saying how
great her baby is and how wonderful her
husband is and she always tries to make me
feel like she's so much better than me.
Well, she had an induction and an
epidural, and her family begged her to go
to lamaze but she wouldn't. And her baby
was only 5 pounds 2 ounces when she was
born. Well, of course, my mil is
bragging b/c I went to lamaze, my baby is
already 5 pounds, and i'm not getting an
epidural. Well, she's been bragging so
much, i'm afraid that i'm not going to be
able to live up to everyone's
expectations... And his cousin's daughter
is 8 months old, and she can't even sit up
on her own. Call me silly, but i'm so
scared that I have to be so much better
than his cuz b/c of the way my mil is
bragging... I'm afraid that i'll be a
diappointment or brianne will be a
disappointment... I'm scared that brianne
is going to come out with a disability or
something and my hubby's cuz is going to
make me feel like sh*t for all the
bragging my mil has done... Anyone else's
family making them feel this way?
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-28-06 16:33pm
You know what? If you need an epidural,
get the epidural. They're not pushing the
baby out, so they can just get over it if
they are disappointed.
My dad's wife kept making bets at work
that her grandbaby would be born before
her coworker's grandbaby, and kept telling
me to walk around the block to get .Aly
out, so she could win.
I wasn't very polite when I told her what
she could do with her bets.
and if I were you, I would flat-out tell
your husband's cousin to get over herself,
because you're not petty enough to use
your baby to feel better about yourself.
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megums1211
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Posted: 10-28-06 16:37pm
Yeah, I would never... She does things
all the time to make me feel like crap...
Like at my baby shower, afterwards she was
watching my hubby load all the gifts into
my jeep and she said "yeah, i'm pretty
sure I got way more stuff than you. It's
probably just b/c leahnna (her baby) is so
cute and talented." I wanted to say
"yeah, she's so talented she can't even
sit up on her own yet, and she doesn't
make any attempts to crawl. Hmm maybe
it's because your 84 year old grandmother
watches her all day while you and your
husband go out drinking and to karaoke." I
hate in laws!!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-28-06 16:44pm
God, I would have been like "i don't
care..." with a "are you retarded" look on
my face. I would have made her feel so
stupid for being happy at such a dumb
thing. Seriously, who says things like
that?
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arcadia
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Posted: 10-28-06 16:45pm
People who deserve to be thrown into a
large pot of searing, boiling cheese.
That's who!
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megums1211
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Posted: 10-28-06 16:50pm
Lol! And to top it all off... My hubby
and I lve 3 hours away from his family,
but when he graduates nextr december...
He wants to move back down there!!! What
do I do !!?!?! Life would suck so
much.... B/c i'm going to be a
stay-at-home mom and he's going into
business management so i'll be stuck at
home all day at the marcy of his relatives
and he'll be out 8-10 hours of every day!
How do I convince him otherwise?
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-28-06 16:56pm
Be honest with him.
Tell him that you'd be miserable down
there, that his relatives make you
horribly uncomfortable, and that you don't
want to face that kind of thing alone
while he's at work.
If he's halfway responsible, he'll at
least consider not going down there unless
he has no other choice. He should
consider your feelings.
Oh man, my one aunt was like this. She
had my cousin, around the same time my mom
had my sister. And she'ld always be
competing. For years. She told her
daughter not to be nice to our oupa
because "he likes renate better" (that's
my sister). And she'ld always make fun
of my sisters hair (cause she had really
frizzy hair when she was little, it's
curls now) and be like "odette has pretty
blonde hair, not like renates". And then
my sister fell off her tricycle one day
and she sat there and laughted and said
her daughter wouldn't have fallen. Don't
let into people like this! They are so
immature. Seriously, just pity her child
because a mother like that really doesn't
have her priorities straight and can't
teach her daughter a thing about being
loving and encouraging.
