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Q: Anyone Else Feel This Way?

asked by: megums1211 on October 28th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Ok, well my husabnd's cousin had a little girl 8 months ago. His cousin feels like she has to compete with me about everything! So she's always saying how great her baby is and how wonderful her husband is and she always tries to make me feel like she's so much better than me. Well, she had an induction and an epidural, and her family begged her to go to lamaze but she wouldn't. And her baby was only 5 pounds 2 ounces when she was born. Well, of course, my mil is bragging b/c I went to lamaze, my baby is already 5 pounds, and i'm not getting an epidural. Well, she's been bragging so much, i'm afraid that i'm not going to be able to live up to everyone's expectations... And his cousin's daughter is 8 months old, and she can't even sit up on her own. Call me silly, but i'm so scared that I have to be so much better than his cuz b/c of the way my mil is bragging... I'm afraid that i'll be a diappointment or brianne will be a disappointment... I'm scared that brianne is going to come out with a disability or something and my hubby's cuz is going to make me feel like sh*t for all the bragging my mil has done... Anyone else's family making them feel this way?

Replies(7)

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 28th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

You know what? If you need an epidural, get the epidural. They're not pushing the baby out, so they can just get over it if they are disappointed.

My dad's wife kept making bets at work that her grandbaby would be born before her coworker's grandbaby, and kept telling me to walk around the block to get .Aly out, so she could win.

I wasn't very polite when I told her what she could do with her bets. Rolling Eyes

and if I were you, I would flat-out tell your husband's cousin to get over herself, because you're not petty enough to use your baby to feel better about yourself.

megums1211

replied on October 28th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Yeah, I would never... She does things all the time to make me feel like crap... Like at my baby shower, afterwards she was watching my hubby load all the gifts into my jeep and she said "yeah, i'm pretty sure I got way more stuff than you. It's probably just b/c leahnna (her baby) is so cute and talented." I wanted to say "yeah, she's so talented she can't even sit up on her own yet, and she doesn't make any attempts to crawl. Hmm maybe it's because your 84 year old grandmother watches her all day while you and your husband go out drinking and to karaoke." I hate in laws!!

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 28th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

God, I would have been like "i don't care..." with a "are you retarded" look on my face. I would have made her feel so stupid for being happy at such a dumb thing. Seriously, who says things like that?

arcadia

replied on October 28th, 2006

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People who deserve to be thrown into a large pot of searing, boiling cheese.

That's who!

megums1211

replied on October 28th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Lol! And to top it all off... My hubby and I lve 3 hours away from his family, but when he graduates nextr december... He wants to move back down there!!! What do I do !!?!?! Life would suck so much.... B/c i'm going to be a stay-at-home mom and he's going into business management so i'll be stuck at home all day at the marcy of his relatives and he'll be out 8-10 hours of every day! How do I convince him otherwise?

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 28th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Be honest with him.

Tell him that you'd be miserable down there, that his relatives make you horribly uncomfortable, and that you don't want to face that kind of thing alone while he's at work.

If he's halfway responsible, he'll at least consider not going down there unless he has no other choice. He should consider your feelings.

ThriftyGal

replied on October 28th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Oh man, my one aunt was like this. She had my cousin, around the same time my mom had my sister. And she'ld always be competing. For years. She told her daughter not to be nice to our oupa because "he likes renate better" (that's my sister). And she'ld always make fun of my sisters hair (cause she had really frizzy hair when she was little, it's curls now) and be like "odette has pretty blonde hair, not like renates". And then my sister fell off her tricycle one day and she sat there and laughted and said her daughter wouldn't have fallen. Don't let into people like this! They are so immature. Seriously, just pity her child because a mother like that really doesn't have her priorities straight and can't teach her daughter a thing about being loving and encouraging.

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