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Q: What a Thoughtful Gift...

asked by: Bridget on October 29th, 2006

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So my brother and his wife presented nick and I with a baby gift last time we had a family get together. It was a huge gift bag full of baby goods, sounds nice, doesn't it? Here's the thing, her sister just had a baby a couple months ago and they didn't know the sex, this gift bag was full of random gender neutral crap! They gave me a bag of crap that her sister didn't want or need and called it a "gift". It just irks me so much. Of course they don't know that I know that's what the stuff is and I would never be rude enough to tell them but just the fact that they gave me that really bugs me. If her sister didn't want that junk, I don't want it! In fact, the only thing we kept out of like 15 things was a blanket, the rest is in a bag waiting to be donated.

Sorry, I just needed to vent. I'm not ungrateful, i'd just rather they hadn't given us anything at all. I know she went crazy buying gifts for her sister's baby (and continues to do so) and I want to know why my baby isn't special enough to get a gift that was chosen just for him. My brother is pretty clueless and she's very controlling so I don't really blame him. I guess i'm just hurt by it.

If I weren't so polite i'd save the stuff and give it to her when she's having a baby (which I pray to god never happens).

Replies(10)

wr17

replied on October 29th, 2006

Experienced User

Omg how rude! If I were you, I would have to say something..But thats just me lol. I think keeping the stuff til she has a baby would be .H.I.L.A.R.I.O.U.S!

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 29th, 2006

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That's like buying someone a .Christmas present, and then receiving the present back next .Christmas.

How utterly tacky.

They could have at least said "hey, we have some things that so-and-so didn't need, would you be interested?" but still bought something that was meant just for .Finn. That's what I would have done.

Emma2

replied on October 29th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Yeah re-gifting is disgusting! It would have been better if thye gave u the bag and told u the truth by saying" pick out what u need and do what u want with the rest" would have shown some class.

ThriftyGal

replied on October 29th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

It's okay to give a gift you received to someone you think might like it more than you did, but you shouldn't pass it of as a gift or give it on an occasion like a birthday, baby shower, christmas, etc. That is just so cheap and insulting to you. Don't hold back, seriously keep the stuff and wait for her next baby. That would be so funny. Little finn deserves something new and picked just for him.

sandyallen

replied on October 29th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I agree with tanyaface, how cs, bs. Feel free to rant here anytime, that is what it is for. We are here for you! I am sorry that she had to hurt you that way, you totally do not deserve it!

jessesgirl

replied on October 29th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

My sister-in-law gave me a premie dress for my shower knowing that my baby will be big and probably be full term. She left the tags on so I can see how much she paid (that's just how she is) and when I went to the store to return it for something else, she only paid $3.00 for it.
It's not the price, it's the thought. A premie dress? She obviously didn't put any thought into it.

Becky

replied on October 29th, 2006

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jessesgirl wrote:

my sister-in-law gave me a premie dress for my shower knowing that my baby will be big and probably be full term. She left the tags on so I can see how much she paid (that's just how she is) and when I went to the store to return it for something else, she only paid $3.00 for it.

It's not the price, it's the thought. A premie dress? She obviously didn't put any thought into it.

thats bad! It was probably on sale or something so she bought it. Or she might of just tried to annoy you Shocked

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 29th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

My friend did that...

She gave me a really nice picture frame for .Aly's first picture, and kept going on and on about how the salesgirl told her it was the best one they carried, and "don't worry about the cost" and all that...

And it still had a garage sale sticker on it. She paid $2 for it.

Evil or Very Mad

alexa84

replied on October 29th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

How can people be so mean? Im glad I havent been in a situation like that. Yet. I have a bad attitude problem when it comes people like that.

ayamiyaki wrote:

my friend did that...

She gave me a really nice picture frame for .Aly's first picture, and kept going on and on about how the salesgirl told her it was the best one they carried, and "don't worry about the cost" and all that...

And it still had a garage sale sticker on it. She paid $2 for it.

Evil or Very Mad

lol now thats sad. I cant believe people will actually go out of their way just to lie about something so stupid. If I buy something at a garage sale or any sale, I would tell them. I guess some people are too embarrased.

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 29th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Yeah, it pissed me off.

I'm not expecting people to spend loads of money on me or anything, and I don't even really mind getting stuff from a garage sale if it's in nice condition.

But don't sit there and lie about it! And go on about how much money you paid, like it makes you a better friend or something. If you're trying to get attention by giving someone a gift, you're obviously thinking more about yourself than about them, and that's not what gift-giving is about.

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