Abortion Pro Life Forum - Grief, sadness and loss after an abortion

Hello every one,

i have posted few posts in "support" forum but I made few people quiet unhappy.

As I first came to this web site and read some post on abortion, my heart sank and I was very saddened.

So here I am in a pro-life forum. I have had an abortion and this is what I have to say.

In order to heal after abortion few things need to happen. First, acknowledgement what was loss. Moving from "it" to "baby" so to say. Many women, including myself, have found great relief by making this first step, acknowledging that what was lost was very unique, precious and irreplaceable. Many post abortion support groups will encourage to name your baby.

In the past I thought I will be okay as long as I believed that I made the right choice aborting my precious ones. All that "every thing is fine" talk was nothing else than a cover up for my wounds.

I have to admit that if any one would attempt to snap me out of that "sweet" denial, I may have committed suicide. Fortunately for me god has lead me a different path. I found out that what I was not along who saw "baby dreams", was depressed and unhappy. I am thankful to women who had courage to help me see clearly and had enough love to stand by when the life itself was slipping away.

Now, with sadness in my heart, I can call my children by their names. But this is different kind of sadness, one you feel when you miss some one dear and precious.

Some women may think that abortion will magically turn the clock back and make them "unpregnant" again. But it does not happen, and you become a woman who have had an abortion.

My love goes to all women, and if you are suffering pleas pm me. I will be happy to talk to you in private.

Eugenia.