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EugeniaBrown

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I Do Regret. Posted: 10-31-06 14:03pm


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Posted: 10-31-06 14:15pm


What exactly is it that you regret about your abortion and why do you regret it? When did it become 'not ok' with you to have had an abortion? You must have wanted it at the time.

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Posted: 10-31-06 14:22pm


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Posted: 10-31-06 14:28pm


So you don't actually regret your abortion from a moral point of view - just the fact that you got rid of one baby only to be faced with possible infertility now? Is that correct? How do you feel about other women having abortions? Do you think they should have the right to choose abortion or not? Sorry if this sounds like an interrogation, i'm just curious!!

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Posted: 10-31-06 14:50pm


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Posted: 10-31-06 14:53pm

eugeniabrown wrote:

never the less there is time in a woman's life, when she is blessed with denial. Yes I said blessed, becuase the denial protects her in a way. The time will come that denial is brought down, hopefully on god's terms and not ours.

interesting. You feel that people presume you to be mentally "unhealthy" and so you turn around and state that the 87-90% of women who do not regret their abortions are simply in "denial."

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when that happens it is crucial time for that woman to have real support.

real support comes from those who are not operating under a specific agenda. With my abortion, my biological father told me that I should not do it, that I should instead die rather than have an abortion. At that time, his position on this issue became more important to him than me, his own daughter. Real support comes from those who actually listen to .Women to assess their needs instead of simply posting site upon site that are designed to illicit guilt trips out of women who have obtained an abortion.

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i regret my abortion, and if I am only one, I would really like to remain that one. I would never whish onto another woman to walk my path.

I see. You like to think of yourself a marytyr to your beliefs. You believe that you are special, unique and that your situation is so unique that you simply must share it with everyone so that they won't "walk [your] path" even though there is no guarantee that they will.

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your situation is different than mine but if I can offer you just a little hope I will be honored to hear from you.

and links that will make you feel like utter poo should you decide to obtain an abortion after all! [/sarcasm]

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Re: I Do Regret. Posted: 10-31-06 16:36pm


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Eugenia welcome to the board i'm glad to hear that you have come to reconcile with yourself and with god for what you did. Don't listen to people who don't believe in god. I like your userpic

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I listen to anyone, no matter what their beliefs are. I listen to women who believe in god, people who like me, aren't sure, and people who don't at all believe in god. Everyone can be kind and caring.

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Posted: 10-31-06 20:48pm


I listen to anyone, no matter what their beliefs are. I listen to women who believe in god, people who like me, aren't sure, and people who don't at all believe in god. Everyone can be kind and caring.

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Posted: 11-01-06 11:03am


If you feel like you were 'forced' to abort, then it's understandable to feel regret. Feeling like someone was trying to make you do something will always make you feel like dirt, but did you know that humans have been granted something called choice? It's really neat - it's this little power that enables you to decide whether or not you want to do something, and no one else can make your choice for you. And when you let people make your choices for you, you officially become a doormat. Pressure can make the decision difficult, but what everyone else thinks is good for you may not be. Women may regret their abortions for any number of reasons, but what good comes out of letting the past dictate your future? Besides, you said you have children, so why do you need more? Are your current children less important than another potential one? Do you love them less for some reason and feel you need a new child to fill that void and so you'll have someone new to love?

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Posted: 11-01-06 11:20am


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Posted: 11-01-06 11:28am

eugeniabrown wrote:

cambion wrote:

if you feel like you were 'forced' to abort, then it's understandable to feel regret. Feeling like someone was trying to make you do something will always make you feel like dirt, but did you know that humans have been granted something called choice? It's really neat - it's this little power that enables you to decide whether or not you want to do something, and no one else can make your choice for you. And when you let people make your choices for you, you officially become a doormat. Pressure can make the decision difficult, but what everyone else thinks is good for you may not be.

Women may regret their abortions for any number of reasons, but what good comes out of letting the past dictate your future? Besides, you said you have children, so why do you need more? Are your current children less important than another potential one? Do you love them less for some reason and feel you need a new child to fill that void and so you'll have someone new to love?

the regret generally is first step in not repeating the mistake again, in my opinion. What is it with this presumtion that when woman regrets she looked upon as mental? Is there nothing in your life you do not regret?

you made a choice and reaped the consequences in your case it is regret/remorse in other peoples cases it may not be the same maybe they made a choice and it brought great things.

Cambion never made a remark in regards to you being mental, instaed she was explaining how if you were pressured into a sitiuation they you are a doormat lol!

Thing is pressure never holds up in a legal court room, if you commited a crime whether pressured or not you still pay the price with jail time so yes everything in life is a choice!

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Posted: 11-01-06 12:06pm


I don't regret any desicion I make, or any mistake that happens. It cn be very hrd to do, but there comes a point in the pain and frustration that you have to realise that regret is bad. Regret is the desire to go back and change what happened. As that is impossible, regret does nothing but pull you into a downward spiral of depression and frustration on "oh my god, I did that thing, and now I wish I hadn't, I wanna go back and change it so bad I just wish I could turn back the clock and it never happened!". That line of thinking will head no one. Am I sorry for things I have done? Certainly. I've caused people pain. But I don't regret these actions. Regret will hold you back, focus you on the past and not the present and future. Getting over regret allows you to move on, and finally learn from your mistake, and see what you can do differently in the future. You can still feel sorrow for the event, but don't wish to change it. It's not that i'm mean, and glad I made those bad desicions. I'm not. But as I can't change them, i've moved on.

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Re: I Do Regret.
Posted: 11-01-06 17:51pm

eugeniabrown wrote:

jenn_smithson wrote:

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your situation is different than mine but if I can offer you just a little hope I will be honored to hear from you.

and links that will make you feel like utter poo should you decide to obtain an abortion after all! [/sarcasm]

in my opinion your sarcasm is out of place. And true there is not guarantee some one may walk my path, but there is a chance that some one may.

By the way, thank you for not being judgemental [/sarcasm]

there is a .Larger chance, verified by scientific research, that they won't.

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Posted: 11-01-06 17:53pm

eugeniabrown wrote:

the regret generally is first step in not repeating the mistake again, in my opinion.

so you only felt regret after the second abortion?

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what is it with this presumtion that when woman regrets she looked upon as mental?

on another thread you, yourself, admitted that doctors had told you to seek professional help.

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is there nothing in your life you do not regret?

not anything of any importance. Strong people do not have to live their lives in regret, do not want to continue wallowing in regret, and can pull themselves forward by themselves.

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Posted: 11-01-06 17:55pm

nightangel73 wrote:

eugenia welcome to the board

i'm glad to hear that you have come to reconcile with yourself and with god for what you did. don't listen to people who don't believe in god.

i like your userpic

what does belief in a deity have to do with the present conversation?

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Posted: 11-01-06 17:59pm

diamondsz wrote:

you made a choice and reaped the consequences in your case it is regret/remorse in other peoples cases it may not be the same maybe they made a choice and it brought great things.

I made the choice and it made a good education, husband, savings, health care, good health, great job, and travel possible. There is a very good chance, considering my own sisters, that none of these things would have happened if I had not made the same choice (considering a "normal" pregnancy).

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thing is pressure never holds up in a legal court room, if you commited a crime whether pressured or not you still pay the price with jail time so yes everything in life is a choice!

since the majority of women who obtain an abortion state "financial" and "education" 'pressures', you are always going to have abortions take place. Until education and welfare is gauranteed for each and every person, the desire to put off having children until you can afford them is going to be a large 'pressure' in obtaining an abortion.

EugeniaBrown

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Posted: 11-01-06 20:04pm


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