Medical Abortion Forum - I'm Not Sorry

Since the other one was moved, I shall try, try again so that the support forum remains supportive to every .Woman's experience, not just those experiences which support the stereotype and misconceptions of how women are supposed to feel after an abortion.

My story begins shortly after my husband and I got married. We had just had a lovely wedding for 175 people and were feeling a little intimidated about the bills that would be coming soon. I was on the pill, ortho tricyclen-lo, and took it every day at the same time of day. But, shortly after we were married, I began experiencing some strange health problems that I did not identify right away. First, I was exhausted. Being that I was getting ready to go back to school and that I was newly married, I figured that this exhaustion was normal. Then I started feeling nauseous at various points during the day. Then my breasts felt heavy and ached all the time. But since this happened near the time when I should have been starting my period, I thought it was normal. Then I started having these strange, acute pains and they grew over time.

When I was late, I took a pregnancy test and saw the second line come up pink. I remember that I sunk to the floor, holding onto the sink and sobbed and sobbed until my husband came in and asked me what was wrong. I showed him the test and he turned white and stepped outside onto the deck to throw up and get some air. We comforted each other for a little while and then sat down together at the kitchen table.

We discussed what we wanted, not just at that time but what we wanted out of life as a whole and whether or not we could actually afford to keep a pregnancy at this time. We both realized that completing our educations and getting to a more financially stable place was the most important things for both of us. I told him, "i think I should get an abortion." and he said, "i will support that decision."

so, we had decided that we couldn't keep the pregnancy and I went to my doctor. I didn't like him, he kept talking about all of the appointments that I would have to have, and the vitamins, and all the other stuff (probably because as my ob/gyn, he would make about $14,000 from me giving birth). He asked me about my symptoms and when I told him about the pains, he became concerned. He ordered an ultrasound and then had us sit in his office where he told us that the pregnancy was ectopic and that while it had not ruptured my fallopian tube yet, that it would if it was not removed. Since he did not do that procedure, he transferred me to another doctor who ordered me to the hospital immediately.

Before I went in for the procedure, I was sitting in the room they had me in and my family was there to console me and tell me that this was just a normal procedure and that I had nothing to worry about. Then, my as-hole father said, "abortions are wrong and you should think about that before you jump into this decision. You never know, god could perform a miracle if you give him some more time."

my husband had him removed from the hospital. I was knocked out for the procedure and woke up a little sore but when I finally came to I felt more relieved than I ever had before.

Choosing to obtain an abortion was a great decision for me. Even if the pregnancy had been "normal", I still would have obtained an abortion. For me and for my husband, our educations and our ability to provide a decent quality of life to our future children are what is most important. Because of this, I would obtain an abortion in the future if we experience an unintended pregnancy.

I felt relieved after my abortion and research indicates that the vast majority of women do as well. I made the decision myself (i simply asked for my husband's opinion) and for myself (my husband's education was secondary to my own desires for my education at that point). I would choose it again if I needed to for much of the same reasons.

No one can tell you how you will feel following an abortion, they can only tell you how they felt. I felt relieved and continue to do so. My husband and I have been able to grow and nurture our relationship and we have been able to do many things that would not have been possible if we had had a child at that time.

Any emotional response (aside from suicidal thoughts) is the right response to an abortion. You may feel regret, relief, happiness, sadness, etc and they are all the right response. I felt sad that I had become pregnant in the first place but my sadness did not last long once I decided to obtain an abortion. don't let anyone tell you that your emotions are not authentic because you don't fit some stereotype or common misconception about women who obtain an abortion.

i hope my story is helpful to you.
Peace, love, and support,
jenn

I'm Not Sorry - My Story.