I recently got pregnant to my boyfriend by
accident, at the appointment to organise
termination they said I was pregnant with
twins.
Even thought I knew abortion was the best
thing to do for our current circumstance I
still had a maternal feeling to protect my
babies. My boyfriend was very
supportive, talking about how it was not
the right time for us, etc
i had the abortion in the end, straight
away my boyfriend became distant, now a
week later he has broken up with me.
I had the abortion for him and our
relationship but now I see that he was
just lying to me in order to make me have
the abortion so I have lost my babies and
him.
I am feeling very sad, I dont know if I am
sad over the abortion because I lost him
aswell or what. When I think logically
it was the best thing to do, but
emotionally I am feeling very alone and
unstable.
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wr17
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Oct 2004 Posts: 287
Posted: 11-08-06 02:51am
I can't say much or offer too many kind
words because .I don't agree with abortion
at all. I'm 30 wks pregnant with a little
girl and theres .N.O.O.N.E who could've
talked me into an abortion. (also .I'm
only 17 years old & very "off and on"
with my 24 year old boyfriend). Anyway,
pretty much all .I can say is don't let
anyone talk you into anything you don't
want to do or aren't comfortable with.
I'm sorry for your losses, but you
could've handled the situation
differently. If you aren't ready for
children, please get on some form of birth
control.
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Jonathan76
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2006 Posts: 5 Location: Ontario
Posted: 11-10-06 14:42pm
I don't think it anyone's business what
you decided on in terms of your
pregnancy...And i'm sure me being a guy
people are thinking what the hell do I
know and they'd be right....But the same
goes for them. You made a choice that you
thought was best for you...Whether it was
for him or for yourself... You could have
had the twins and this guy still would
have left... And while there are a lot of
single parents out there or people in
unstable relationships it's not
necessarily going to best for their
children.
Bottom line is what's done is done. You
learned who this guy was and hopefully you
realize what kind of relationship you want
now ...For yourself and for your kids.
Don't let anyone make you feel that what
you decided was wrong or defines who you
are as a mother. A child needs a stable
life and from what I read you knew you
couldn't give that to them at the time.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 11-16-06 15:34pm
Please ask for support following abortion
in the abortion forum - thanks
