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glycerine

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Really Need Someone to Talk To.....
Posted: 11-06-06 14:30pm

Ok i'm going through the miscarriage process and I really hate it!!! My family has finally accepted the fact that I am pregnant and everyone is so excited, but thats because only my mom knows right now that the baby didn't make it. It hurts so much and I just really think that once the process is over with, i'm still going to want a baby. I really do and I don't know if i'm ever going to get over it. I guess i'm just really wanting to know if I should try to get pregnant again or not?? I really want to but if you think I just need to have some sense knocked into me, please tell me.


Thanks!!
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Mommy35

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Posted: 11-06-06 15:00pm

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. I miscarried years ago and remember the grief I felt. It is different for every person who goes through it, so i'm not comparing my pain to yours.
I found that the questions from people that didn't have a clue were the worst. They ask in good faith, but then feel like heels when they hear about the loss.

With women who deliver they too go through a time of mourning. When the hormone levels decrease.
I know it is hard to believe, but it will get easier. I'm sure you will have days that you will think about the loss and you will be sad, but one day you will have a beautiful baby to love and nurture and though the one lost won't be forgotton or replaced the one with you will be loved beyond belief.
As for trying again, your ob should be able to tell you when it is safe, but you will probably need to wait until your body heals a bit.

Good luck!!!
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sandyallen

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Posted: 11-06-06 15:30pm

I am sorry to hear about what you are going through with your miscarriage and your mom! I had two miscarrriages and a very difficult time getting pregnant so I understnd what you are going through and I pretty much agree with what mommy 35 said about talking to your ob/gyn and it will get better even though it is something that you will not forget. When it is right you will wake up with this beautiful baby even if you adopt it is still yours and you will love him or her or you will get pregnant and will have this beautiful baby just like I did and I never did think it would happen but it did and it will for you when you are ready.
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glycerine

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Posted: 11-06-06 15:34pm

The reason the miscarriage happened is because my hcg levels were too low, the whole estrogen thing.

What do you think my odds are of being able to carry a baby full term??
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Chi87

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Posted: 11-06-06 17:50pm

I had a m/c a month before a got pregnant again and i'm doing great. In alot of books it says the best way to overcome a m/c is 'if ur ready' to get pregnant again. Though niether of my pregnancys were plan.
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lil_blaze2004

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Posted: 11-08-06 09:29am

It is said to wait at least 3 cycles before trying again. Both my miscarriages happened when I was young so by the time I got pregnant again it was yrs later. It is very possible to have a full term pregnancy after miscarriage. Many women have miscarriages and then have healthy babies.
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