Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
9 Months & Confused. Posted: 11-08-06 17:53pm
I've always told myself I wouldn't come on
this site feeling sorry for myself &
sobbing about stuff but I have no other
way to get this out right now. I've been
with my boyfriend for almost 9 months now
& up until now everything has been
wonderful. He is very loving and caring,
and we have a pretty healthy sex life.
Well for the past few days he doesn't seem
all that "interested" in me. He doesn't
seem as lovey-dovey [as stupid as that
sounds] & also like we'll have sex and
then he'll just fall asleep without a word
to me. He normally always holds me &
initiates all the cuddling we do after
sex. [hell i'm always tired after sex]
but he hasn't done that the past few
nights.
Now I know all guys have their "times" if
you will, but he's just not acting like
himself. He isn't giving me much
attention & we're having less &
less sex lately. I don't know what to say
to him or how to start off.
I overanalyze a lot of things & I may
be overthinking this. I don't know to be
honest i'm just getting it out there how I
feel. Someone give me some advice &
if there's any guys who could tell me
maybe what he's feeling or if it's
anything to even worry about .. Please
let me know.
:/
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deebaby621
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 251 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 11-09-06 08:31am
Last night while I was at his house he did
not tell me he loved me, didn't hold my
hand [i don't think he even touched me],
didn't kiss me or anything. We laid there
for a little while and watched tv &
then he just up and turns the tv off and
goes to sleep - without a word to me. So
at this point, i've had enough &
[without a word to him] walked out &
went home. I don't know what the hell is
wrong with him, and I even asked him
didn't he think he was acting weird last
night & he replied, "i don't think so
but if you say so" - so I don't know.
I don't care how much he loves and cares
for me.. I need to see it. All women do.
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lucy376
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 11-14-06 23:40pm
deebaby621
wrote:
last night while I was at
his house he did not tell me he loved me,
didn't hold my hand [i don't think he even
touched me], didn't kiss me or anything.
We laid there for a little while and
watched tv & then he just up and turns
the tv off and goes to sleep - without a
word to me. So at this point, i've had
enough & [without a word to him]
walked out & went home. I don't know
what the hell is wrong with him, and I
even asked him didn't he think he was
acting weird last night & he replied,
"i don't think so but if you say so" - so
I don't know.
I don't care how much he loves and cares
for me.. I need to see it. All women
do.
here's my advice to you. I been going out
with my boyfriend for over 2 years, and I
went through the same thing. They go
through a wierd stage where they always
want to hold onto you, and hold your hand,
then he just kinda stopped.He told me the
reason why is because he doesnt feel like
he has to do all this things to impress me
and hes just comfortable around me now, we
can go for long periods of time without
alking and its not awkward, there just
getting used to yah, every once in blue
moon my bf, goes nuts and doesnt want me
outta his sight and tells me he loves me
and hes right clingy, but when you been
together for awhile it just wears off. I
think it might of been an insecurtiy thing
with my boyfriend, and when he relised I
wasnt going anywheres he kinda just
stepped back and took it easy.. He needs
alone time too, as do i. Hope that helps.
Just give him breathing room, guys hate
when you nag them all the time and ask
them whats wrong, cus most of the time
nothing is wrong, and they have nothing on
the mind.. . As soon as me and my
boyfriend have sex he falls right asleep,
we even sleep back to back. I see
magazines, where u read the body languages
of how you sleep. And what it means in
the relationship. That is a load of crap.
We just like to sleep comfortably.
Sometiems I sleep spread out like a
starfish. Haha
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 11-16-06 14:24pm
I somewhat agree with the person above me
but when that sort of thing happens,it
happens in time,not just all of a
sudden.And in my experience and y opinion
just because 'the new wore off' doesn't
mean he needs to stop telling you he loves
you and act like your arent there.I would
be pissed too.You need to sit down and
have out with what you feel,no beating
around the bush.Ask him what his problem
is for the past couple of days and tell
him its making you fel
uncomfortable/unloved. I hope things work
out for you hun!
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lucy376
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 11-18-06 04:20am
melissa_20
wrote:
i somewhat agree with the
person above me but when that sort of
thing happens,it happens in time,not just
all of a sudden.And in my experience and y
opinion just because 'the new wore off'
doesn't mean he needs to stop telling you
he loves you and act like your arent
there.I would be pissed too.You need to
sit down and have out with what you
feel,no beating around the bush.Ask him
what his problem is for the past couple of
days and tell him its making you fel
uncomfortable/unloved. I hope things
work out for you
hun!
it all really depends on the person too.
It happened all of a sudden to me, like 6
months in our relationship. I agree on
having a talk about it too. And getting
the feelings out there. And then just
drop it for awhile and see how he reacts
to the talk.
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Mommy35
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 11-18-06 07:59am
Most of us ladies are good at saying what
we want and expressing our feelings. If
something is bothering us, we want to talk
about it whether anyone wants to hear it
or not.
Most guys just don't do it. They may
feel as though they are being weak or
emotional. Some just don't want to let
their guard down.
This guy may have something on his mind
that is bothering him or that he is
stressed about.
