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Hot Date Part 2.. Posted: 11-08-06 19:15pm
Sorry to bore you girls with my love life
anyway I met robbie again tonight. He
took me to the cinema to watch saw 3 he had to rush off
as he has to drive down to devon to do a
job (he is a special effects makeup
artist)
he says he would like to see me on
saturday night if poss (neil has the kids
then)
do you think he's too keen? I don't know.
He keeps his hands to himself. He walks
me to my door but doesn't pressurise me to
come in. He seems like a really nice
bloke but (i'm so lame) I still love
neil....
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Sail Away
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Posted: 11-08-06 22:23pm
Girl, do me a favor and go get laid!!!
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Jules
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Posted: 11-09-06 02:18am
Of course you still love .Neil. You
can't turn those kind of feelings off like
a tap. If you are enjoying the time you
are spending with this new man then I say
keep at it! Don't put pressure on
yourself to be feeling anything in
particular for him - there are no rules
that say you should be falling in love
with this guy or sleeping with him yet.
Take things as slowly as you feel you need
to. I mean, you're not leading this guy
on because you've made it clear that
you're only looking for friendship at the
moment, haven't you?
Don't fret about it so much. The
feelings for .Neil will probably take a
while to fade - and you will always have
love for him of sorts because of the
history you share - so don't feel guilty
because you can't just 'move on' in a
heartbeat.
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Becky
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Posted: 11-09-06 06:33am
Thanks. I'm just really scared of moving
on properly. I mean what if we do end up
getting serious? The whole introducing
him to my kids thing is bugging me
already. I mean (i don't know this) but
he's not going to want to be bothered by
my kids is he?
I just feel scared I guess. I never
envisioned have to start again with
anyone. He seems like a nice bloke but I
still feel like I am betraying neil even
though we have filed for divorce
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 11-09-06 07:19am
dalicialovesyou
wrote:
girl, do me a favor and go
get laid!!!
lmao! As much as I wish
that would help,it doesn't :p
purestgreen is right hun.And you know
about the whole kid thing,he knows you
have kids right? So why in the future
would he not want to be bothered by them?
Your getting way ahead of yourself and
your going to ruin the friendship before
you know it.Just give yourself time to
heal from the whole neil issue and
continue to chill with this new guy.He
will give you a reason not to think of
your x! : ) when your ready to move
on,you'll know! Just as long as the guy
knows the situation and that it will take
some time
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Becky
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Posted: 11-09-06 08:02am
Thanks melissa. I will just keep it
casual.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-09-06 11:02am
Just take it slow beck, everything comes
with time like everyone else is saying!
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 11-09-06 14:54pm
Aw becks I think its normal to feel that
stuff tho. I felt bad or...Like it was
wrong when I let my ex first meet lucas, I
guess its cos he wasnt his real dad,
...Just didnt feel good or like it was ok
or anything. He was great with him tho.
I know yours are older but once they get
used to a new guy, and have fun with him
etc you'll feel a lot better about it.
Its not your fault what happened with
neil, and its going to take a while to
properly let go of him. You were together
a long time and have 2 kids, so you'll
probably always have some sort of feelings
for him.
I agree its a good idea to take it slow
with robbie, dont do anything until your
comfortable with it. Hope hes not the
type to pressure u into stuff
he had to rush off
as he has to drive down to devon to do a
job (he is a special effects makeup
artist)
